I've been on here a month or two now and following the NC advice. I just got back with my ex a couple of days ago. I've written it in other posts, but as soon as she saw me putting myself out there on singles sites, she came running back. Wish I knew if there is a "syndrome" for people who DON'T want to be with someone, but DON'T want them to be with anyone else either"...both me and my girlfriend have been guilty of this during the 3 year course of our relationship. We have broken up with each other and have both come back when the other looks to be moving on. weird I know.
She now says that she has always, and will always, love me. I am taking her at her word and not bringing up anything from the past, or asking any questions about the time we were broke up. I know her, and she doesn't like "talking about things". Nothing was ever real bad during the break-up though, except for my broken heart.