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  1. luxe_13
    day 3 & 4: been back at work so not thinking bout him as much. always think about him in the mornings when i wake up but soon as i am elbow deep in work he soon fades away. he tried to chat to me on msn today. i gave him one word answer then ignored. that doesn't count as contact surely? feeling really good about everything especially today. don't feel like i need him anymore. could easily take a back step but it's a good day!
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    day 2. had trouble sleeping last night, kept thinking about how lonely i am which led me to start worrying about all other this stuff in my life too - moving house soon, where is my career going etc etc. woke up this morning feeling better. went to the beach for a swim with a girlfriend who is going through a break up of her engagement. kind of made me feel like my situation isn't as bad. supposed to be having drinks this afternoon with some friends from work. but i don't feel like socialising. in terms of instant messaging - are you all blocking/deleting your exes? or are you just leaving them on there and resisting temptation to chat?
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    ok. millionth attempt at no contact after seeing someone on and off the past year. we've always remained friends in the off periods but i have realised now i can't do it. i love him too much and i am doing my head in unnecessarily over him. time to STOP. day 1: have taken myself off facebook as this seems to be the biggest tool for my obsessing over him. feels good. will activate my account again, but will try to stay off it for atleast a month. after a good cry last night, actually feeling ok about everything. time for a fresh start..if he decides he wants me then he will come to me. i know contacting him only does me damage.
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    Day 9 A few things happened On Sunday he turned up to a party he knew i'd be at. Of coure I was forced to speak to him. I was really drunk, he was straight sober and seemed a little cold toward me Tuesday (back at work, long weekened), he MSNs me Did you have fun on Sunday? V naughty of him as I told him we cant chat anymore. Now we seem to sort of be in contact again on MSN (I can't help myself!!). It is very minimal but I will try to cut it off again completely. Today I feel lost and emotional. I want him to be ready to be with me!
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    Day 5 I think technology makes breakups harder! I can't stop looking at his facebook and his name staring at me on MSN feels like is righ there (i know, i need to delete). But facebook is the worst. Felt sad last night, cried before i went to sleep when all day i'd felt so positive it was all going to work out. Today is a new day. Right now, feel - OK
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    Day 4 Feel like I'm in a bubble of positivity (ok denial), just have a feeling it will work out. Is it unhealthy to feel this optimistic? Just logged onto MSN at my mums place, he still on my list (he was deleted from my MSN at work, but appears that when i log in from another computer...his name is still there). My heart started beating fast when I saw his name. No hello or anything from him - but I did tell him we weren't to chat online until I was ready, so fair enough really.
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    Day 3 Feeling ok, only thought about him about 100 times today (it's usually constant!!) A friend of mine reckons that he is psychic and B will come running within a week and everything will be fine. Not sure if he is just being nice. I have to admit I am hoping he really is psychic Don't feel like crying anymore. Maybe because i am hanging in my little world of false hope.
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    Day 2 Have deleted him from MSN (we normally chat daily at work) - not blocked though Have deleted him from my mobile I miss him. Cried yesterday but feel much better today. Have a gut feeling he will start to miss me soon. Have told him not to contact me, hoping he will cave in but am afraid if he does contact me I won't be strong enough to ignore him.
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    that's a bit of a bold statement, thanks for the advice though. he is my friend and will continue to be, it was nice spending time with him as just friends..i've realised i am fine with that! i am obviously not going to try to seduce him while he still has a girlfriend. if we are meant to be more than friends again, then we will. i still get the feeling there is something there, but i won't dwell on it. ..and this may sound evil, but if he continues to flirt with me then, yes, i will flirt back!
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    ok so he came and i caught up with him. she didn't handle it very well - was sooky and didn't want to talk to me much. glad i caught up with him, we had lots to talk about and just joked and mucked around the whole time. she kind of just sat there not smiling. i feel bad as i would hate to be in her situation. but i felt surprisingly fine and comfortable in his presense - even though she was there. i feel like i handled the situation really well. i felt confident, relaxed and happy - without being too flirty or jealous at all. it made me accept that i can handle being friends with him. i have fun with him and we "get" each other. i do think there may be something still there but i am happy to wait and see how things pan out. i am still clueless as to how to pick up the signals of "more than friends" but i guess only time will tell. but don't worry i am not putting all my eggs into one basket
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    yeah, of course i said yes. i do want to catch up with him. it's not like i don't want to have anything to do with him just 'cause he has a gf. i just want to know about the flirting - does this mean he see's us as possibly more than friends?
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    we never dated 'cause we were i different countries for most of the time (both independently travelling). but we did make an effort for a year and aa half to stay in touch, email daily, speak on the phone and meet up where we could. we always said we'd give it a proper go when we were both in one place for a decent amount of time... but it just didn't happen soon enough for me. so to answer your question - no it wasn't just hooking up and "hanging out" .. there was a lot more to it than that. he told me that he wanted to come see me in sydney (my home town) when he was back in australia. he was meant ot come with his friend (who i am also friends with), but at the last minute, the friend couldn't come so he said "i think now that x isn't coming, she will want to come now. will you still want to see me?"
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    yeah, you are right . i do HOPE he is flirting.... if he is saying back-off, then i don't understand why he would bother coming at all. unless he really wants to be proper friends and wants to make it clear that's all it is. but i don't think he needs to get on a plane to tell me that. there is no stopping him from coming, his flights are booked and he arrives on sunday... a friend of mine reckons that he is just trying to keep his foot in the door with me...what do you think of this?
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    the first 18mths was s a straeam of daily emails, weekly phone calls and meeting up whenever we could - we were both travelling so in separate countries all the time. i wouldn't say things were serious but it was like we were constantly waiting to be in the same place for a decent amount of time so we could test a relationship out and see fi things would work out as a couple. so it's only been the last 6odd months that we have kept in touch purely as friends... i care about him alot and can accept that he has a girlfriend. i am accepting that he is oming to visit me as a friend. BUT the flirting is throwing me off and making me realise that i do still have feelings for him. i just want to work if there is anything still there.. i know i can't do much as he is seeing someone but i was wondering - from my original question - if there is a way i can pick up the "still interested" vibe from him. and as you said, it is odd that h e is coming to see me whenhe is seeing someone - is this a sign? i know an obvious answer would be - if he really liked me he would dump his girl and come running to me. but it's not as simple as that. 1. i am he one who suggeste dwe just be friends as it was too hard 2. we never established our relationship properly - it was fun, and we liked each other but we were never officially boyfriend and girlfriend. hope that explains things a bit further? am i a complete fool?
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    there is a guy in my life who when i see just makes me feel so happy i can't stop smiling. we aren't together anyomre. we had a holiday romance and then managed to keep in contact for the next 2 years, i t all got a little hard so we decided to stay in contact but just as friends. we have only spent a few days at a time together. we still email each other lots.everytime i see him, think about him, speak to him or see a photo of him i get this amazing strong feeling inside. it's not a feeling of "oh he's just so hot" it feels genuine. he is coming ot see me next week and i am so nervous, we are supposed to be just friends and i love him as a friend also so i am ok with that but i am trying to work out what these feelings mean! am i just obsessing with what was, or are my instincts right? am i in love with this man? how can i tell the 2 apart?
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