fiddler

I'm not sure if homosexuality actually has to do with a persons genetics. It may be needed to prevent overpopulation or in cases where there is no access to opposite sex. These are only my guesses. I don't think anybody had definite answers about that.....but a very interesting question.

I've been in a very similar situation, only I was the one who broke up with my boyfriend. We live 2 hours apart. He also doesn't have a car or a drivers lisense. We were both also very busy and could only see each other every 3-4 month and that was very diffucult for me. We weren't at a point whever we said I love you to each other and I didn't want to fall in love with him be hurt. We stayed friends and still talk to each other everyday online but I haven't seen him in 6 month already. I think that you should talk to your ex before he leaves. Long distance relationships are really hard. Maybe you could at least stay friends for now and see what happens. If it is meant to be then it will happen. But if he rejects you, dont sit and wait for him, try to move on .

You are still young, just don't loose hope and you will find love someday. I'm also 20 and haven't found it yet. I also agree with Bri. You need to be the kind of person you wish to attract. If you are sleeping with these girls and doing drugs you probably wouldn't attract a "nice" girl. (I know I wouldn't want a guy like that) I undersdand that you are doing it out of despare but you have to think of the kind of message you are sending out to girls. I know how you feel not having found love, it does suck! But there are other things in life you can focus on, for example your career or family or hobbies to keep you from getting so depressed. Focus on what you have insdead of what you don't have. Work on yourself and dont stop trying and you will find what you are looking for eventually.

I think that I'm a lot like you. I'm also 20 years old female and I came to U.S. when I as 13. My parents are not that strict but I still had a lot of influence form my grandparents and my native culture. I also had a lot of influence from my best friend who comes from a very conservative family. I did find it really hard to fit in as a teenager. It doesn't bother me that much now though. Other people have posted it and I agree: you should live by your own beliefs and do what you think is right and not what your parents believe in or what your friends are doing. There is nothing wrong with your beliefs and maybe it would be easier if you try to find people with similar values as your own. I sometimes also want to forget all that and "experiment" but whenever I get a chance I don't really want to. My conscience is holding me back I guess. I don't even regret not drinking or smoking or doing drugs. I do wish that I had started dating earlier. I never even kissed a guy until I was 19 and I haven't dated anyone after him. A lot of it has to do with that I'm very shy but also because of my lack of experience and different values concerning sex. Well … I don't know what else to say. I hope this has been of some help Good Luck

It seems to me that she wants to get in touch with you again. It's hard to say whether she wants to be just friends or if she wants something more. I would try not to assume anything and just be friendly to her, that is if you want to keep contact with her.