Diagonal

She dumped me after I neglected her and made her feel unloved in our relationship. Went LC straight away, then patches of NC, the odd week or fortnight and she came back. It was a day short of 4 months and we're now back together. She did rebound, but it made her realize how much she missed me and what she'd dumped. I worked on my issues and although it's been less than a week, things are great. We're making sure to give each other space, but we're both really happy to be back together.

Wow Jaygirl, that sounds promising, what you thinking of doing about it?

Day 3 almost complete. She did text me today with some info, to which I replied thanks, but that was it. I think like LoveSoDeep said I'm not treating her like a leeper or exhile! Had some real downs today but am finishing the day thinking that I know without being too big-headed that I am a catch for my ex! I'm in great shape, good looking, intelligent, funny, successful, more than financially stable (self-made), don't drink, don't smoke, am good person, have shown I am still very much in love, attracted and want her back. Yes, I had my faults and I do believe I've realigned my life balance and am working hard on the issues that caused the break-up. If all of that isn't good enough for her, then what else can I do? I can't become someone I'm not and it really will be her loss and someone else's gain. Not in an arrogant way, but you know....take it or live it. Onwards and upwards eh?

Day 2 complete. Spent the day on both the up and down. Had a nap and dreamt I was still with her helping her through her problems, which hurt a little when I awoke. Recieved some good adivce and support from a friend and from the good people on here, so staying strong. Can't believe it's only been two days though!

Day 1 complete. It wasn't that tough as I've realized that this NC will be good for me either way. If we get back together then great - NC will have been a tool which has helped make that happen. If not, then at least I'll have healed more effciently rather than in bits over a loooonger period of time. I still really miss her and it's the weird things that remind me of her but I'm trying the 'instant shift' technique - so if I find myself dwelling or thinking about things that get me down, I shift the focus onto something else. Well here goes to day 2 Hang in there guys, see you on the other side