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  1. Further to my original post Am I jealous? This girl will not leave my circle of friends. She is good friends with my former best friend so she is always hanging around. I've told him I can't stand her being around but he refuses to do anything about it because he has a pathetic crush on her. she is one of those teasing types and loves the attention. If I believed they were true friends I would put up with it. I just can't stand being around her. She knows she's caused all this trouble between me and my friend and refuses to leave. What can i do to get her out of my life?
  2. unlucky

    Am i jealous?

    thanks for all your supportive advice guys. Makes me feel a whole lot better.
  3. unlucky

    Am i jealous?

    I recently had a horrible dating experience where i was accused of being the jealous type. I started dating this girl after she cheated on her boyfriend of 5 years with me. She made me feel like i was the one to rescue her from her miserable relationship. A couple of months later she dumped saying she didn't want a relationship right now and just needed time. I told her i'd give her all the time she needed. During the time we were together i notice she had many male friends who all wanted her from what i could tell. The reason she dumped me was because she thought i was the jealous type. As it turns out she is now going out with one of the guys i though wanted her and continued to lead me on while she was going out on dates with him. Also she became very close 'friends' with one of my best friends. She would sleep in his bed and they went on a holiday together for a week. I told her i no longer wanted her and she accused me of being jealous. She now has 7 male friends who she goes out to the movies, dinner etc. with while she is dating this guy. Something about her just told me she wasn't trustworthy apart from the obviuos fact of her cheating on her ex. I have never been accused of being the jealous type before and she has a history of guys getting jealous and obsessive with her. Do i sound like the jealous type? Am i and her ex's the jealous type? any comments appreciated.
  4. I agree with you scotsman. However i think you need to be very careful when using this technique. If she realises its a conscious effort on your part i think you'll lose all her respect. If she thinks you're undecided about your feelings for her then its pure gold.
  5. i recently was seeing a girl for a couple of months. It was pretty intense and i had really strong feelings for her. My best friend met her the same time i did. She dumped me and now they're good friends and spend a lot of time together. He sleeps in her bed occasionally and seems to exclude me from anything they do together. This makes me feel uncomfortable and i think i should say something to him, but some of my friends think that because we were never going out that she is fair game and i am being unreasonable. What should i do?
  6. I have had a recent dating experience that i'd like to share. I met a girl through a friend who was really attracted to me and was really atttracted to her. I knew she had a boyfriend of 5 years or so and was a little bemused at how much she was flirting with me. We went out with friends and she would spend every second with me and hug me all the time etc. She invited me to her 21st even though her boyfriend was there and of course we didn't flirt. A couple of weeks later i saw her again and we were pretty much kissing but not passionately. She asked me to send her an email so i did. She got my number off a friend and called me. For the next 4 weeks we spoke several times a day usually for a couple of hours. She would tell me how different i was, how she couldn't get me out of her head. She even called her boyfriend by my name accidently. The conversations drifted more and more towards sex. I went out on a date with another girl and she was upset but she had a boyfriend so i though i was doing nothing wrong. She told me that she was going to kiss me until i told her that. We still continued to talk all the time and a week later we had sex after a party. She saw her boyfriend the next day and she couldn't look him in the eye. He said to her that something was wrong and they should take a break for a while. We started seeing each other a lot and had a lot of sex. I had told her when we met that i was going overseas in about 4 months but only for a couple of months. This really seemed to bother her and she was worried about getting attached to me before i left. I was really starting to fall for her and i told her that if we were together that i wouldn't cheat on her. She said she didn't want to deprive me of the experience of going overseas and meeting people. One night she was a real bitch to me on the phone saying that she had me wrapped around my little finger and i was easy. She called me the next day and apologised and told me to disregard what she had said, i told her that there must be some truth in what she said or she wouldn't have said it. She said her reasoning was that she didn't want to get attached to me and was trying to distance herself from me. She even forwarded me emails she had sent to her best friend about me saying she didn't know what to do because i was going overseas and she more than just liked me. After i read this i was hooked on her and thought she was the one. A couple of weeks after this she stopped calling as often and would break plans we had made. I said we should cool things off for a bit and she agreed. At this stage i thought i had made huge mistake and turned into a desparate mess. She said that things were getting to serious and she had just come out of a relationship and she needed time to herself and be happy with herself. A couple of months passed during which we still spoke regularly but i was now the one doing all the chasing. She would be cold towards me then affectionate and still cuddle me and stuff. She is now really good friends with my best friend and he is now a lot closer to her than i am. They were friends while we were together which i had no problem with but she always calls him and on a couple of occasions he has slept in her bed. She has also had other male friends sleep in her bed lately to. She says its all platonic and i don't think she has slept with my best friend but it makes me uncomfortable. She cuddles up to him also now. I don't think she is a slut as she has only slept with 4 guys but she is very flirtatious. Anyway i continued to call her and chase her like an idiot and she basically treated me like a loser. Never returned calls, emails say we'd go to the movies or whatever and always cancel. I've just decided to stop all contact with her and feel much better about myself. Its hard though with her being friends with my best friend. I've also decided not to keep in contact with him as much either as he should also have more respect. A part of me still wants her though and i feel that i lost an opportunity with her now. Any comments appreciated and i hope other people can learn from my experience.
  7. I recently met a girl who had a boyfriend of 5 yrs. We flirted like crazy then i sent her an email. She got my number off a friend and called me. We talked for about 2 hrs everyday for a month. She would say how much she wants me. How she thinks i'm the best guy and all this sort of stuff, though she was still with her boyfriend. At a party one night we were together and we had sex that night. 2 days later she breaks up with her boyfriend and we start seeing each other a lot. At first she was giving me all the signs that she wants a relationship. Then she starts acting cold towards me and i eventually i said we should take a break for a while. We were only together for about 6 weeks but it was pretty intense. 2 months later we still speak to each other a bit and she still flirts with me every time we go out wth friends. I'm going overseas in 6 weeks and i think this is part of the problem with her although i think she's still in love with her ex. i keep telling myself that she is no good for me and that i could never trust her. The problem is i fell in love with her and want her like crazy. Is this the kind of girl i really want? Is she trustworthy? Should i stop contact with her? Should i play hard to get with her? Any advice would be great.
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