I have been together with my boyfriend for over 1 1/2 years...
we have big problems sexually, he was sexually abused as a child and it makes it very hard to have sex in a loving way. I need things in my sex life that he cannot give me because of his feelings of guilt, I am 7 years younger then him and I am young and want to have fun and enjoy myself sexually while I still can. Recently my boyfriend told me that having sex makes him feel like he is going to throw up... but that dosent make any sense to me because he seems to enjoy it, and we did have sex 1 week after we met, so I dont understand why he would do anything with me if he didnt really want to. I questioned him on this... he said it is just to please me. I even offered that we could take a break from sex all together for awhile if it makes him feel better (we also live together), he didnt say anything to that. I also told him that we can change things and have a non-sexual relationship... so he wouldnt have to lie to me anymore. He got very pissed off at me and left the house in a storm, slamming doors and yelling at me that I cant say its a lie, its just compromise... but I dont agree with him in any way.
My question is, what can I do to solve this problem? How can I compromise myself into not having sex for a month or more, and how can I stop myself from fantisizing something better? Do I need to see a counselor? How can I possibly understand what he is going through if he wont open up to me? Please help! I am very desperate to save this relationship!!![/b]
