So_confused

So my now ex-girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago and things started going bad about 2 months ago. Before that, things were amazing. I had never met a girl like her before, she told me that she had never felt what she feels for me for anybody before. She told me that she wanted to be with me forever and that before me she had never been able to say I love you and actually mean it. She broke up with me and wanted to be friends but I just couldn't be friends with her at that point. What I really need is to know why we broke up and that reason is something that has been in her head for 2 months now and I don't know if I will ever know. She knows that it would help me understand and that if I just knew why then I could get on with my life but she won't give it to me. She says that she knows we should talk but she's been saying that for 2 months now. I've never had such a hard time getting over a girl before and when I think I am getting over her, I see her or think of her and end up right where I left off. It wasn't even that long of a relationship, just under 5 months but I guess since everthing was so perfect and we made so many good memories I'm having such a hard time. I just don't understand how someone like that knows that you're hurting so much and that they could help you understand but they don't.

Thank you hubman01 for agreeing with me on this one, dfcannon maybe you're forgetting exactly what full_on_chick was asking. I believe her subject was "ne one know about marijuana ???". I was just giving her info on it, so before you fly off the handle at someone please carefully read what they posted. You even said "This man has allowed his new girlfriend to take control of his life and the family." Well now does it sound like the weed is the problem or the new girlfriend? We're all here to ask for help and to give help so instead of bashing other people for trying to help ask yourself what good does it do the author of this post when you go off on others.

I smoke and workout almost everyday. I must admit that I'm not in the same shape as I was before I started smoking but I was a big mass of muscle then and now I'm doing it just for a bit of bulk and definition. We all know that smoking isn't very healthy and that we really shouldn't do it but if you're going to continue to smoke and go to the gym I honestly don't see any huge negative effects on muscle growth. You're cardio will be alot weaker than a non-smoker though.

I did the same thing when I turned 22, it wasn't because I only wanted to think about myself. It was because at that age us guys start to think about marriage and such and that starts to scare us. Do we really want to be with the girl we're with forever? or do we want to go out and have a good time with other girls. It's all about finding out for ourselves what we really want. It might be a little selfish but do you really want your boyfriend in the realationship if he isn't sure about being with you forever?

Alright, I've been smoking it for about 9 years and I can honestly say that it isn't as bad as the government and media make it out to be. Some people say it's a gateway drug and blah blah blah. The reason it's the first drug to be done by most people is because it's the easiest to get your hands on and the safest. In 9 years I've never experienced any bad effects except for the munchies. In the situation that you are in right now I would think that weed has nothing to do with the way your Dad is acting. When he used to take you and your bros places was he with the GF? If not then it sounds like he's just busy with her. We've all started new realationships before and what do you do? You spend all your time with them. I think that maybe he doesn't want any distractions around the house so he shipped you guys else where. It might be weird for him to be getting with a new woman and having your Moms and his kids around. As for the weed, don't worry too much about that. If he's been smoking it for 15 or so years then it's just a way of his life, a way to kick back and relax. It's like having a beer after work.

I want to put my 2cents in here. I was taking Creatine in grade 12 for a while. When I first started taking it I was 160 lbs and after taking it for 4 weeks on 3 weeks off for almost half a year I got to 190lbs. I had stopped taking it a few weeks before I was going to be in an amatuer Strong man Competition so when I was competing I could "load" and kick some butt. Well 4 days after loading 5 times a day I got into a argument with my girl and absolutly snapped turning to a wall and repeatedly punching it only stopping when I saw blood on the wall. Broke my hand and fractured several bones. The one thing I learned from my experience then was that "Loading" was just a little to much for me. It gives you so much energy and makes you a snap case if you can't deal with it. Other than that I've never experienced any bad side effects or unusual things. I used it again about 4 months ago with out loading and everything was fine. As everyone was saying drink alot of water, it's not a joke. The stuff is hard on your kidneys and water will help them out. Your body produces Creatine from meats and when you start to add creatine your body gets tricked into thinking that it doesn't need to produce it anymore so don't stay on it too long. Also, any excess of creatine gets peed out.

Ummmm..... Ya. That's a given. If they've got good hygeine then it's not too much to worry about but if they just ate some rank food then you're going to share it with them. Carry gum or mints.

Well I think you sumed it up yourself "Ugottabejokin", you are weak. You must really care about girl A, just dumping her and going to girl B's house to screw. Wow you must have been real happy with girl A! You're lucky as hell that she took you back. With girl B who cares if the sex was bad because that probably has nothing to do with anything, the fact is that there was no more game for her. She got you to do what she wanted, it was all a challenge in her head. She played you like Nintendo and when she won she went and got a new game. I truly hope that girl A finds out about girl B and dumps your ass. Anyone with so little respect for their significant other doesn't deserve to have one.

After reading your post the first thing that came to my mind was that a couple months ago you met your new best friend and then a couple months ago your boyfriend and you have started fighting. Are these connected in any way? If they are then your boyfriend is probably just jealous about your new friend. Time that used to be for him is now shared with your other guy friend and that would make any guy a little upset. As for taking a break with your boyfriend, if the only reason you want to take a break is so you can give "new friend" a chance then that's not very cool to your boyfriend. How would it feel if the tables were turned? What if he wanted to put you on hold so he could see how things might go with another girl? If you want to be with someone else then you're going to have to be completely honest with your boyfriend and break up with him. He should at least deserve that much respect from you. There was a time that I was in the same situation as you and I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years so I could see what it was like to be with a girl I had gotten really close too and as soon as I was with the other girl I really started to miss my new ex-girlfriend and now I'm with neither. If you do decide to go for "new Friend" then give it some time between the break up to make sure that you really want what you think you want.

Um, using your "reverse psychology" probably screwed you over big time dude, you pretty much told her that you're over her and that she's 100% right that your realationship could never ever work out. You went out with her for 3 years and then a week after you broke up she was dating a new guy? Man, get on with your life. I know it's hard. I've been in the same situation as you before from both ends. Even right now I'm forcing myself to get over my ex that just broke my heart. Sometimes you just need to pick yourself up and dust yourself off. It's by no means an easy thing to do but when you finally can say to yourself that you are an individual and don't need another person to better you or make you feel better about yourself, then the void you are feeling will be gone. One of the hardest things to deal with after a long realationship ends is filling that void, she became such a big part of your life and there was that comfertable routine you guys shared. The world is full of women Jamie, you still sound like you're younger so there's a life time ahead of you. Ask yourself do you really need her? or do you just really miss her? As for what to do now... I'd say move on buddy, you've been dating so it's not like you're having trouble meeting women. Right now you're probably comparing the girls you date to Sherry so it makes it that much harder for you to really like one of them. Go into your dates open minded and not expecting the girl to be a replacement. I don't know what else to say but you're going to be fine man.

Ummmm.... I don't know why the thought that we might not would even cross your mind. If we didn't like doing it we wouldn't and we really like it so we're going to do it. There's nothing better than having full control of a girl with your fingers. Well there's somethings but yeah, we like it.

It's called mutual pleasure. If he's willing to go down on her, then the favor is more than likely to be returned. There are a lot of girls who just don't want to do it though so never expect it to happen. It's almost degrading to some.

Dude she's totally asking for it. She's just told you her parents are out and the house is all hers and she invited you over? Sounds to me like she wants to be a little more then just friends. When you're watching the "movie" if she sits close to you then it's a good sign. A smooth way to get real close is to ask her if she's comfertable and if she says not really make her more comfertable by putting your arm around her. If you can get your arm around her and she doesn't freak out then you'll have no problem kissing her. Enjoy the movie.

When I was in grade 8 I was in the same boat as you are now. My mom found out and got me the proper help needed. Your mom obviously cares a great deal about you or else she wouldn't have asked if you ever thought about hurting yourself. I had to go see a suicide counselor for a while and she made me realize that there was nothing to be afraid of in life. I came to see that life is all about growing up and overcoming the "mountians" that might rise in front of you. Life's a challenge, it's not meant to be easy. If it was, what would be the point in goals and all the great things that come with the future. If you are scared to see the doctor just don't go or pospone it but I think that if the doctor knows what your problems are he will be able to help make them go away.

Girls will be girls and have their little celeb. cuties on their walls or in their heads. You say that your man is the only man that you want and that given the chance you wouldn't give him up to be with any celeb right? Then if you're worried that he might be jealous or something of the pics then take them down. It can't hurt. He might even ask why you took them down and then you can score huge points by telling him that he's the only man that you want in your room.