rachun5

I speak to him all the time about it - it is actually all we fight over because he really thinks i am stressing over nothing. In the beginning of our relationship, we made a deal that he cannot drink before he is going to see me - and since we see each other like everyday, he stopped doing that. However, when he does go out with his friends and hangs out - he drinks (because we don't see each other every day of our lives). In the beginning i didn't really trust him thinking, "oh, if he's not with me, then he's drinking". I don't really think that a lot anymore - now i am just concerned with the quanitity he drinks and how much he likes it.

I have some concerns about amy boyfriend. I am trying to figure out if he has a drinking problem. Alittle history about him, he is German and his father is an alcoholic. He is 26 and has been in the drinking scene for a while (it is one of the things he associates with having fun - football, video games, going out). His best friend drinks SO much and his best friend's dad is an alcoholic. He also hangs out with another guy that drinks a lot too. The drinks mostly consist of beer. Since he has met me, his drinking has been reduced to drinking about once or twice a week. However, whenever he hangs out with his friends, that's what he does. I don't know if that is normal for a man his age - am i just being paranoid? He drinks a lot when he drinks....probably 10 to 15 drinks and maybe a shot (if he goes to a bar). I just feel like he enjoys it too much and he sees no problem with it at all. He goes to school and has his future in mind all the time - this is why i am so confused because one aspect of his life is school and fun pasttimes like golf, and another is sitting around and drinking. It just doesn't make sense. He is a real happy person and he doesn't get depressed (or if he does get sad, he hides it like a typical guy would). Please help me out because I just keep going back and forth in my mind - yes, he has a problem or yes, he will get worse, or no, he is just a regular guy that when he hangs out with his buddies, he drinks. Something else to add against him, he fell asleep on his staircase about 2 weeks ago. Is this normal??? Thank you for listening.