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  1. Tina doesn't look too keen about you. i guess you not having money is a big deal with most women. presents can't keep a woman happy knowing she may have to support you the rest of the way. silence is a way to show rejection. if she was interested, she'd have contacted you already. or maybe she's travelling?
  2. something tells me you are not financially stable. this is a serious setback for you. a woman with a young child is looking for someone to look after them. her ex seems like someone who can. right now, for her, dreams (ex) look better than reality (you). anyway, since history is repeating itself with you, you should take a closer look at yourself and identify what is causing it.
  3. you have good suggestions, so i suggest you act on them. ask her for some guidelines to hang on. the once a week thing should be fine and fair if she needs to talk to a counsellor, you may want to encourage her
  4. even if you want to be with her, she probably wouldn't want you anymore, since you were the one who broke up with her. 7 months on, she probably has another boyfriend already. if distance wasn't the problem in the past, it certainly is now. and that's not hard to understand, cos until you have been close to someone, you never know the feeling. and once you have been close, you don't want to part again. she's just being sensible about that. which means you are not really that important to her cos if you are, the distance and waiting wouldn't matter although you have been close and long for that closeness all the time
  5. try saying this every day: i don't want to ever fall in love again and then go ahead and enjoy yourself, minus love thoughts, doing stuff you like life is too short to mope. if the people you meet are too busy for you, find others who are just right.
  6. well, you are just starting out in life, so i will just offer two advice this first one is not even my own! i read it from a recent SHE magazine (now that's a brit mag). i paraphrased it as follows: flaunt it while you can. one day you will be 40 and flabby. then, your spirit will be willing, but the body is weak (or fat) the 2nd one is mine. no regrets. if you show yourself on the internet, you should know the price you pay. if one day you should find yourself in love with someone who cannot accept your 'exposed' past, it will be too late for regrets. so open your eyes, pay the price, and never regret.
  7. you have to realise that a real relationship is not the same as a virtual one. just cos you hit if off virtually, and then that one meeting, is no guarantee it will work out in real life. so she is scared. she is attracted to your virtual personality, which everyone knows, is never the real you. she already has a bird in the bush (boyfriend) with a firm future. why chuck it for someone like you? until both of you are real to each other in the virtual world, you are never going to win her over. cos you don't have the chance at the real thing as she is going to uni soon. however, as i am one who has gone through this before, i can say that when the 2 of you stop being virtual but real in your virtual world, your crush will turn into real love too. how do you stop being virtual. it means, don't pretend. if something isn't you in real life, don't do it in the virtual. and of course, she will also pretend. so it takes some time and lots of sharing and love and confidence before both your virtual armor is removed to expose the real persons it's going to take a lot of effort, believe me. if i had a choice, i'd go the real path instead. meet a real girl and take her out on dates. WYSIWYG
  8. here's the logical man's point of view: A - you still like her B - she still likes you A + B = good enough to try again C - she is playing hard to get good question. this beats any logic i know. guess that's why we are guys and not girls. it's not like you two haven't been there before, so why the push off? and she says she wants to be passionate. maybe you are trying to continue where you left off, and she wants to be wooed all over again. that's my best guess.
  9. gotta face facts. she out of your life. learn from it and avoid making the same mistakes again. 1. you are obviously not going to make it in long distance relationships. make sure your next woman lives close by 2. and you have to decide if your kids come first or your lover. if kids come first, forget about re-marrying unless your kids force you to! 3. finally, choose some one financially stable, if it's at all possible to predict that in the current economic situation! so look on the bright side, man. you are out of one really messy situation!
  10. don't say i didn't warn you. if you keep close ex-gf, you will find it hard to get a new gf that won't get jealous. keep reading this forum and you will know what i mean.
  11. don't let the marriage bit faze you. it actually talks about a concept called a love bank, which is how you maintain a relationship, meeting each others needs and not just what you think the other party needs cos that's what you need. and covers the reason why people divorce/break up
  12. looks like a clear-cut sex-for-love case to me. what do the others think? the evidence lies in his complete reversal of his viewpoints and that it came so quickly, the minute you decided to leave him. (no sex no love no win)
  13. i think if the relationship ended badly, there's no friendship cos too much collateral damage. you think she owes you big time for 'maintaining the relationship' and she probably feels the same! ah, what's the point? easier to live and let go. your next gf will thank you for sparing her the pain of having to be nice to your ex-lover-now-friend. but there's no need to hate. just let go and get on with your life.
  14. don't hate pete. cos he is higher up the ladder than you anytime. you are not even in the position to be jealous! first get yourself closer to her. which is practically mission impossible since you are disqualified by faith differences. you don't know her character cos you don't know her God. and you can't be yourself, you say? that's normal during the initial courtship phase. you don't know her well, she doesn't know you well. so err on the side of politeness. by now, you should know what she wants to talk about. and if you can't talk those same topics, find some other common ground, or you really become history (nothing in common!) as for faith, hey, if you're desperate, you're desperate. last resort, confess your sins, and repent and accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Saviour. at least, then, if you still don't get the girl, you got a better deal. you got Him! God isn't so mean as to reject you cos He's treated as a last resort. at least you were desperate enough to turn to Him. lots of people are too smart to ever see the need to be saved.
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