enchantedfeather

Well, I am glad that I helped you atleast a little. I know it is so hard and you just cant accept the reality that you arent together. It must be weird because you didnt see it coming. I did with my boyfriend so it wasnt as hard. I didnt expect we would brake up, but I knew we were going to fight. I dont really know how you can get him back other than giving him the space he needs. Hopefully by doing that, he will go back to you. If not, it wasnt meant to be. You will find someone worth your time and who will really take a bullet for you. I would have for my boyfriend, but not anymore. he broke my heart and now I have to get over it. It is just the matter of accepting that it was best this way. Everything happens for a reason. God never closes a door without opening a window. No I'm not overly religious, but it seems to make sense. lol. How bout this, "When the world gives you Lemons, make lemonade".. better? it means to take it as it comes and make the best out of the situation. I have to do that too. lol. I'm starting to. Just remember you are never alone. Lata

Hi, I know how it feels to lose someone you have been with for a long time. I went out with my boyfriend for 2yrs and we just broke up over something as little as sex. I get very lonely, depressed and angry. and no it doesnt help that he seems to be having the time of his life. but you know what? he probably isnt. it is probably his way of dealing with it. As much as it hurts, you gotta let him go. I have to do the same thing, and I am finding that very difficult right now too. What you have to do, is let him go, let him see what it is like to not have you around. He will begin to miss you and he will start to want you back. Most guys work that way. They kinda want "changes" and they need something different. By you staying his best friend, he still sees you all the time and it doesnt seem like anything has changed much, other than his commitment to you, but if you dont talk to him as much, and you just let him be alone for awhile.. he may realize how important you are to him. Remember, absense makes the heart grow fonder... if there is never any absense, how will he know how much you mean to him? I dont know if I helped any, but this is my experience with a few men and they seem to work the same way. I feel like I'm totally painting all men with the same brush, but I havent really met any guys that are very different from eachother. lol. Take Care and sorry if I didnt help much.

Hi, I know how it feels to have to just, Take it as it comes with relationships(as in *poof* feelings are NOT gone). I just got out of a 2yr(not nearly as long as yours, but I'm trying) relationship and it is so hard. I enjoy talking to him still but it seems like he doesnt want to talk to me. He hasnt said it yet, but he is moving 6hrs away so I highly doubt he will be talking to me still. All I try to do is keep myself busy. I dont really know whatelse to do. I feel very alone (that is how I found this site) and very betrayed. Just try to remember the saying my friend told me. "If the world gives you lemons, make lemonade". Try to find something positive in every situation and it will get you further than just dreading on the situation. I doubt that I helped you in any way, but just remember that you are never alone and people (and friends/family) are always around to talk to, and cry with. Peace Out my Friend.

I cant get over him... I broke up with him about 5 days ago now. He and I were constantly fighting over sex. He wanted it, I hated it. I just never found it to be something I enjoyed. I didnt mind it, but I hated it when he started acting like he was gonna die without it. So, He basically said "Put out or Get out". He said that if I wasnt gonna let him "express" himself in that way, he would go out with someone else so he could. I am totally heart broken. I havent been able to eat or sleep since then. I find myself being very angry with him, and yet crying everynight for a good 3hrs. I just cant seem to find out how to stop thinking about him. I think of all our good times and I get very depressed. I try to keep myself busy so I dont think about him, but it doesnt work. I find that when I am at school, I am okay. Even though he is in most of my classes. I feel like I am not going crazy when I see him. I feel like I am alright when I talk to him on my MSN Messenger or at school. I feel normal. But when i am at home in the evenings and I dont get my regular phone call, I am just devistated. I went out with him for about 2yrs. Not very long. but we spent a lot of time together and I always adored him. When we had sex we both enjoyed it until he started wanting it more and more. That was when I got sick and tired of it. Sex totally ruined our relationship and now, I hate it. I dont know how I can keep my mind off him and accept that he is gone. He left me for sex. I feel like I am in a bad dream but I cant wake up. I feel like I am lost in dispar. A neverending spiral that just doesnt let me get up. my first boyfriend hit me all the time,and now my second made me choose between my happiness and his own. I had to do what made me happy, and yet. He made me happy. Sex didnt. so I lost in both ways. Sure I'm happy that I dont feel obligated to have sex, but I'm sad because I have been with this guy since I moved to this small little town and he was the only person keeping me here. Now I have to finish up my schooling and I want him to be around still. He is moving to Winnipeg and I probably wont ever see him again. I dont want that. I care about him and it wont go away. How can I get over the fact that we are not together anymore and how can I handle the fact that he is moving away? Help!!