For anyone who is familiar with my story,
-GF painfully broke up with me after 5 years, lack of commitment, other issues, several warning signs, no action from either party
-She quickly found a rebound
-I was DEVASTATED, I pined and whinged for months
-Went NC/LC for around 5 months
-I found a rebound - failed quickly
-Her rebound failed
We drew closer around Halloween 2009, after 8 months apart and lots of raw feelings, both rebounds long gone (incidentally my EX EX girlfriend's has since got back with his EX who was as unhappy like I was about the situation
Anyway, long and careful recovery process is several months in now, we had a fantastic Xmas together, best we've ever had. We are completely in love (we both always had been, needed a wake up call/new experiences I supposed to affirm it.) We were both very young.
We have recently moved in together, it's fantastic. Like a new relationship. We've had many comments how happy we seem to be (and it's true!). I'll admit, I've found some of the past hard to let go of, but if any success is going to come of your reconciliation YOU HAVE TO LET GO OF THE PAST.
I intend to propose to her around the beginning of November. That will mark 6years since we first got together and roughly one year since reconciliation (and it gives me a chance to save for a ring!!)
Good luck ENAs, thank you so much for your advice during some very hard times.
- Caveman