caveman12

For anyone who is familiar with my story, -GF painfully broke up with me after 5 years, lack of commitment, other issues, several warning signs, no action from either party -She quickly found a rebound -I was DEVASTATED, I pined and whinged for months -Went NC/LC for around 5 months -I found a rebound - failed quickly -Her rebound failed We drew closer around Halloween 2009, after 8 months apart and lots of raw feelings, both rebounds long gone (incidentally my EX EX girlfriend's has since got back with his EX who was as unhappy like I was about the situation Anyway, long and careful recovery process is several months in now, we had a fantastic Xmas together, best we've ever had. We are completely in love (we both always had been, needed a wake up call/new experiences I supposed to affirm it.) We were both very young. We have recently moved in together, it's fantastic. Like a new relationship. We've had many comments how happy we seem to be (and it's true!). I'll admit, I've found some of the past hard to let go of, but if any success is going to come of your reconciliation YOU HAVE TO LET GO OF THE PAST. I intend to propose to her around the beginning of November. That will mark 6years since we first got together and roughly one year since reconciliation (and it gives me a chance to save for a ring!!) Good luck ENAs, thank you so much for your advice during some very hard times. - Caveman

Well now, EX. You probably don't realise this, because I gave up talking to you eventually, but you are off your pedestal. I have moved on. I have replaced you (at last) as you replaced me. I have ALL of MY friends (they were never yours anyway, I was right all along, they ditched you when you hurt me), plus a few more, a life, a home, a good job, my health. I've been working on myself while you've dodged it with him. What do you have? Jack s***. You were lonely when I met you and you will be lonely again. I know why now. You have a victim complex, you choose to dislike people who have done nothing to you because you are insecure over your past. Your dad screwed up your family, you've been screwed over by your previous boyfriends, your friends have betrayed you. Ever wonder why? Get over yourself. Have a nice life. PS: Something I studied recently... Slag. A partially vitreous waste product of smelting ore to purify metals. A by-product (i.e. worthless s*** that no one wants). Reminded me of you.

If I could turn back the clock AND take what I know now, then yes, I would. Not just saying that. I had the chance to choose between her and two others (both great women) while we were together, and the other two were invisible to me.

Dear Ex, After all that has happened - why do I still pine for you? Why do I still love you? Why do I feel guilt? Do I want what I can't have? Do I realise the mistakes I made and what what we had? Have the last 5 years been built on a lie, that you never really loved me and used me as a stepping stone to something 'better'? Why do I now feel shattered and incapable of getting out to find someone new? Why do I not want to, for fear of finding new happiness and perhaps realising that you weren't 'the one'? Are you poison? How could you have so little respect for what we had? Was the 'rebound' on the scene before? Has this breakup been a partial lie? So many unanswered and unanswerable questions which I feel there's no point in asking. What I do know is, your decision to break up is for the best, in that you have taught me in hindsight from us how to cherish another person, shown me how to move my life forwards and become a man. You have taught me so much and made me the person I am today. You are my first love. You have shown me how much you really mean and that you are the best thing that's ever happened to me. I also know this - no matter how much I want you back, how much I want to pry you from T*** arms, no matter how much I wish I could turn back the clock, I could never make an approach to win you back. I would never stand in the way of your happiness. If it came of your own accord, then I would know that what we had was worth saving. If not, then I know and take comfort in the fact that no-one can ever take away what we had, and that we will be a part of each other until the day we die. I love you, Caveman