I've noticed some odd behavior from my husband over the past few months. He's been distant, unkind, and seems to want to argue all the time. I'm wondering if he's having an affair due to all the lies he's been telling me, but when I bring up my concerns, he denies it. His only clear explanation is that he no longer loves me because he feels I haven't supported his career and that he's compromised more than I have, a claim I find hard to agree with. I suggested we see a professional for guidance, but he has consistently refused. With our baby on the way, I'm confused about whether his stated reasons could truly jeopardize our marriage, or if I should continue to suspect infidelity.

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As a seasoned relationship coach, I've had the privilege of walking alongside many couples navigating difficult times in their relationships, and I believe your situation deserves serious attention and understanding.

Firstly, I want to emphasize that it's perfectly natural to feel confused, scared, and even betrayed in your current predicament. Human emotions are complex, and when a partner starts behaving differently, it can raise a flurry of questions and doubts.

It seems your husband has started expressing his feelings in an unhelpful manner. His behavior, which includes pushing you away, starting arguments, and communicating his dissatisfaction, are indications of something deeper brewing within him.

Before suspecting an affair, accusations based on suspicion can be harmful to a relationship. It's not wrong to have doubts, but it's critical to communicate them effectively and avoid pointing fingers without concrete evidence. Often, when there are lies and a distancing in a relationship, there's usually an emotional disconnect that should be addressed first.

As he has voiced his feelings of being unsupported in his career and feeling like he is compromising more, it suggests that there's a communication gap in your relationship. It's possible that he is feeling unfulfilled or unheard in some aspects, which has led to his emotional withdrawal. That doesn't mean it's your fault - relationships are a two-way street, and both partners need to work together to resolve such issues.

Given that you've recently conceived a child together, this could be adding to the stress in your relationship. Pregnancy often brings about emotional and psychological changes, for both the expectant mother and father. This could be playing a part in his current emotional state.

Having said that, it's commendable that you've suggested seeking professional help. Unfortunately, he's been resistant to this idea. However, don't lose hope. You might want to approach the subject again, expressing how you feel it's important for the future of your relationship, especially with the baby on the way.

In the meantime, try engaging him in open conversations. You might find it helpful to express your concerns without confrontation, instead aiming for understanding. For instance, instead of accusing him of lying or infidelity, express how his actions make you feel and what they make you worry about. Show him that you are willing to support him and work on the relationship.

It's not just about him having an affair or not. It's also about the emotional disconnect and lack of effective communication in your relationship right now. Your situation might feel dire, but it doesn't mean your marriage is beyond salvage. It needs attention, communication, and, potentially, the guidance of a professional.

It's crucial to address the issues causing the emotional distance in your relationship before jumping to conclusions about infidelity. Both you and your husband have a role to play in healing your relationship.

Your concerns are valid, and taking the step to seek advice is a positive move. your strength and resilience can help overcome these trying times. If he continues to refuse professional help, consider seeking individual counseling for yourself to manage this challenging period.

Being pregnant and raising a child in a harmonious environment will greatly contribute to your child's well-being, and resolving the issues within your relationship is the first step towards creating such an environment.

Good luck, and always you have the power within you to navigate this difficult time.