Dear eNotAlone: I met a girl on a night out at the club and I'm really attracted to her. We got to talking and she seemed really interested in me. We had such a great time that we ended up exchanging numbers. I've been trying to text her but she hasn't responded or answered my calls in days. I don't know if she's just busy or if I should give up hope. What should I do?

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It's tough when you meet a girl and get along so well, only to find that she seems to have suddenly gone cold on you. You're left wondering what you did wrong and whether you should bother giving her another chance. So, when should you give up on a girl after going out?

The answer to that question varies depending on the girl, your relationship, and other factors. Generally speaking, though, you should give her a chance first and then decide whether you want to keep trying after she hasn't responded to you for a few days.

First and foremost, don't jump to conclusions right away. Sure, she may have decided that she's not interested in you, but there could be any number of reasons why she isn't responding. She could be busy with work or school, dealing with personal matters, or simply not in the mood to talk at the moment. She might even just be taking a break from her phone. All of these are valid possibilities, and so it would be unfair to write her off before giving her a chance to respond.

If she still hasn't responded after a few days have passed, then you can start to consider that she might not be interested. At this point, it's also okay to reach out one last time, just to make sure there isn't something else going on. If she doesn't reply, then the most likely conclusion is that she isn't interested in pursuing a relationship with you.

When it comes to deciding when to give up on a girl after going out, it's important to remember that you shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty about moving on. After all, it takes two people to make a connection work, and if the other person isn't willing to put in any effort then it's likely not going to last.

It can be hard to accept that someone isn't interested in you, especially when you were so sure that things were going great. Keep in mind that it isn't always personal—sometimes, she may simply not be in the right place mentally or emotionally to pursue a relationship with anyone right now.

So, if a girl hasn't responded to you in a few days, it may be time to consider giving up on her. That said, it's still a good idea to reach out one last time just to make sure that there isn't something else going on. If she doesn't respond, don't take it personally—even if there was chemistry between the two of you, it doesn't mean that there was enough to sustain a relationship.