Dear eNotAlone: I'm feeling so low and just completely out of it. I feel like every day, every week I struggle just to make it through. I don't even know why I do this. Nothing seems to give me any satisfaction or pleasure, nothing makes me happy and I can't seem to find a way out. I feel like I'm in a black hole and I just can't escape no matter how hard I try. What can I do to get out of this darkness and back into my life?
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Life is a mysterious journey full of unexpected twists and turns. Some days can feel heavy and bleak, while other moments can be so filled with joy and delight that you can forget all your troubles. In the depths of your blues, however, it can feel nearly impossible to get back to that place of inner peace and self-confidence.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by the darkness of depression and looking for ways to get back to yourself, there are several things you can do. Acknowledge that depression is a valid and real emotion that needs to be worked through, not pushed away. Make sure to take excellent care of yourself: get enough rest, drink plenty of fluids, exercise regularly, and eat nutritious meals. Discover the things that bring you pleasure and peace: books, music, yoga, art, nature, watching a movie, talking with friends, etc. Create space for both quiet and movement throughout the day so that your mind, body, and spirit have time to journey and heal.
Rather than fighting against the feelings of sadness and loneliness, allow yourself to move through them. By doing so, you learn a powerful lesson about being gentle with yourself and processing your emotions. Acceptance of your current state can give way to realistic optimism, which can be the doorway back to a brighter outlook and increased quality of life.
Remember that this too shall pass and soon familiar joys and moments will enter your world. Take your time and keep an open heart. Self-care and kindness can help shift this moment, and eventually you will be free from the darkness.