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Avoiding The Heartache Of Premature Intimacy

Excerpted from Too Close Too Soon; Avoiding The Heartache Of Premature Intimacy By Jim A. Talley "When I first met Sally, it was just like a fairy tale," Walter confided. "Love at first sight. Music playing. Bells ringing. Everything . . . except the 'happily ever after' part. I'm not exactly sure what went wrong, but a few weeks later the magic was gone and we broke up." "I wonder why relationships are so complicated," Andy mused thoughtfully.

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Sex and Food: How They Work Together

Excerpted from Is It Love or Is It Sex; Why Relationships Don't Work By Carla Wills-Brandon Sex and food. Both are necessary for the continuation of our species. Both are very powerful and have the capacity to change the way we feel about our lives and the world around us. If used in an addictive manner, food and sex can distort our reality just as effectively as alcohol and other drugs, and the consequences of addiction to food and sex can be just as devastating as alc

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Improving Our Relationships

Excerpted from Beyond Codependency By Melody Beattie Relationships are where we take our recovery show on the road. In this section, we'll explore some ideas for improving relationships. Much of the focus will be on special love relationships, but the ideas apply to all our relationships. Many of them can grow into special love relationships too. Actually, the entire book explores ideas for improving relationships. All our recovery work-dealing

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Smart Love; A Codependence Recovery Program

Excerpted from Smart Love; A Codependence Recovery Program By Jody Hayes During the past few years, hundreds of thousands of people across America have been exploring the painful reality of their addiction to love. Both men and women are reading psychologically oriented and personal-growth books on addictive love, watching television talk shows devoted to relationship problems, and forming self-help peer groups to escalate their recovery. Individually and together, thes

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Codependency - Making Relationships Work

Excerpted from Love Is a Choice; Recovery for Codependent Relationships By Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth, Paul Meier We mentioned in the last chapter that the opposite of dependence or codependency is not independence. It is interdependence. Perhaps our illustration of a relationship wheel can further clarify. The Relationship Wheel At the top of the wheel is that happy circumstance, the healthy, inter-dependent marriage

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Risk to Be Healed; The Heart of Personal and Relationship Growth

Excerpted from Risk to Be Healed; The Heart of Personal and Relationship Growth By Barry Vissell The Risk to Listen "Let's take life easy now" Barry remarked as we received the first copies of our second book. Models of Love, from the printer . It had been quite a challenge to finish the book while both our children were small and being homeschooled. I nodded my approval as Barry further commented, "Surely we can slow down now and make life simp

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Characteristics of Destructive Relationships

Excerpted from Addictive Relationships; Reclaiming Your Boundaries By Joy Miller A. "if I Tell Him I Love Him, He Will Change" (Tunnel Vision) Our destructive relationship is like traveling through a long airtight grey tunnel interspersed with a few brilliant specks of bright light. Despite the knowledge that we can leave the tunnel at any time, we continue searching aimlessly for another speck of iridescent light. Intellectually we know that th

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Intimacy, Coupleship; How to Build a Relationship

Excerpted from Coupleship; How to Build a Relationship By Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible deception, it is an eternal loss for which there is no reparation, either in time or in eternity. - Kierkegaard You can only give away what you have. That is the miracle of intimacy and that is the hope of every close relationship. If you have love and the ability to be intimate, you can give it away. If you don't

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Toward a More Permanent Love

Excerpted from Permanent Love; Practical Steps to a Lasting Relationship By Edward E. Ford, Steve Englund Perhaps the strongest, most definitive drive of the human species is the drive toward love. It may also be the most multifaceted, the most talked and written about, and the least understood or fulfilled. Water, water everywhere, and not a drop to drink, runs the old saw, and the same could be said for love. We live in a society that chokes from overuse of the word l

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Why Love Seems So Elusive

Excerpted from Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit? By Connell Cowan, Dr. Melvyn Kinder For so many women today, men are confusing, even incomprehensible. They seem to operate according to a murky set of rules women have never quite learned. Victoria, 30, is a nurse at a big-city general hospital. She's ready to get married and start a family, but, like so many women today, she's baffled by men's behavior. "I help male

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Can Your Relationship Improve?

Excerpted from Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Therapy By Aaron T. Beck "My partner is crazy." Pejorative thoughts such as "My spouse is impossible" or "My spouse is sick" may reflect your perception more than an objective appraisal. While it is true that when people are anguished or enraged they sometimes seem irrational, this does not mean that they are "crazy." Any i

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Some Women Choose A Diet Over Relationships

By Margarita Nahapetyan A new survey by the weight loss company Atkins has discovered that more than fifty per cent of women think and worry much more about their appearance and dieting than they do about men and their relationships. After interviewing about 1300 female dieters in the United Kingdom, the came to the conclusion that fifty four percent of the ladies were concerned about what was on their plates more than about intimacy with their partners, and

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From Meeting to Marriage

Excerpted from Fine Romance: The Passage of Courtship from Meeting to Marriage By Judith Sills, Ph.D. It starts with "Can I buy you a drink?" It can lead to "Let's buy a house." It's called courtship, and for most of us it's an emotional upheaval. This upheaval does not resemble in the least the romance you have been anticipating, the one in which you fall magically, instantly, and mutually in love. You've been envisioning a charming, imaginativ

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Who Can Understand a Woman?

Excerpted from Light Her Fire: How to Ignite Passion, Joy and Excitement in the Woman You Love By Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D Ask a man what the perfect woman would be like, and often he will say, "I want her to be a lady during the day and a mistress at night." Ask that same man what he thinks a woman wants in a man, and his response most often is, "You've got me. Who can understand them? They're too complicated. She doesn't know what she wants!" Henr

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Beyond the Confines of the Familiar

Excerpted from Consequential Strangers: Turning Everyday Encounters Into Life-Changing Moments By Melinda Blau, Karen L. Fingerman, Ph.D. On a shopping excursion with her husband, Sue Ellen Cooper bought herself a bright red vintage fedora just for the fun of it. A few months later, Cooper, a mural painter and freelance illustrator from Fullerton, California, started a birthday tradition: She gave a red hat to each friend who turned fifty (or older). Cooper also include

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What Do Men And Women Want In A Relationship?

By Margarita Nahapetyan It turns out that men and women have different expectations from a relationship. According to a new study, while men, valuing their independence, like to go for one night stand, women prefer dating with the prospect of a long term, committed relationship. In their new study, Carolyn Bradshaw from James Madison University in Virginia, United States, and her fellow colleagues, analyzed the reasons that motivate m

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Love Hormone Oxytocin Improves Stressful Relationships

By Margarita Nahapetyan Relationships are hard work and most of the people probably think at some point that communicating in a positive way with the other half when discussing stressful issues, such as home finances, for example, is an impossible thing to do. However, now the Swiss experts say that there is a "love hormone," that could edge off such conflicts. Oxytocin is a hormone that also acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. I

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Guys Prefer Non-Drinking Ladies

By Margarita Nahapetyan Very often young ladies in college may be drinking in excess to impress or charm the counterparts of the opposite sex. However, the new study suggests that college guys actually are not quite impressed when women become their drinking buddies. The new study discovered that despite of the fact that traditionally, men tend to consume alcohol more than women, an overwhelming majority of women overestimated the amo

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Brunettes VS Blondes

By Margarita Nahapetyan Hair coloring is the latest fashion trend, and today more and more people start coloring their hair to look different and new. Some believe that a hair color can add some shine, meaning and fun to their hairstyle, while for others it is just the easiest and fastest option to change their looks. For many, many years we have been hearing that blond women tend to have more fun, and that "gentlemen prefer blondes,"

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Infidelity

By Margarita Nahapetyan Cheating on a partner is a terrible thing to do. Especially if the other part finds out about the infidelity, it can become a real catastrophe for any relationship. The betrayed part starts wondering what to do after, whether she/he should stay or go, or ask another part to leave. Feelings of anger, rage, hurt, sadness, disbelief and disappointment become predominating. Bringing up suspicions of infidelity shou

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Maintaining A Strong Relationship

By Margarita Nahapetyan Every relationship is unique, complex and multi-dimensional, and every person has his own way of understanding and feeling if a relationship is or is not right for him. Most of us want to fall in love, be in love and stay in love forever. We want just to put ourselves to the hands of the loved one in the hope that the relationship will provide all our happiness. We even think that our partner is supposed to know exactly what, when and

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Falling in Love - Again: Every Woman Has a Story

Excerpted from Every Woman Has a Story: Many Voices, Many Lessons, Many Lives By Daryl Ott Underhill You want to trust. You want to be in another relationship, but you're afraid. You've been hurt; you've been disappointed. You have trusted and ended up abused, sometimes even physically. Do you dare ever to trust again? This is where I found myself at the age of forty-five. I was falling in love and I was falling apart because of it. Russ was eve

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Forgiveness - Relationships: A Mess Worth Making

Excerpted from Relationships: A Mess Worth Making By Timothy S. Lane, M. Div., D. Min., Paul D. Tripp Forgiveness Is Costly, But Not Forgiving Is More Costly No matter how you spin it, forgiveness is costly. Regardless of how big or small the offense, canceling a debt and absorbing the cost is going to hurt. But the parable shows us that not forgiving also has a price, and it is higher than the price forgiveness demands. This is where we must le

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Finding Your True Identity in Marriage

Excerpted from Not Your Parents' Marriage: Bold Partnership for a New Generation By Jerome Daley It was Monday, January 13, 2003. We had just finished signing the papers to purchase our new house. For the first time in almost three years, all of our possessions would finally reconvene under one roof, and we were some kind of ready! I (Jerome) pulled the loaded truck into our new drive-way so we could carry hundreds of boxes through our new garage into new rooms in our n

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The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned

Excerpted from Shacking Up: The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned By Stacy Whitman, Wynne Whitman Moving In Too Fast Let's begin with the fact that some people shack up without giving it a whole lot of thought. Not you, of course. We're talking about all those other twenty- and thirtysomethings who jump into their live-in relationships within a few months or even weeks of dating. What the heck are they thinking? In many

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