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Why Men Can't Feel

Excerpted from Angry Men, Passive Men: Understanding the Roots of Men's Anger and How to Move Beyond It By Marvin Allen Of all the various professions psychotherapy seems to offer the most ready access to the inner lives of men and women. Sociologists examine broad trends and patterns. Physicians work with tissue and bone. Philosophers ponder universal truths. Linguists dissect words and phrases. But therapists are privy to the hidden fears and secret longings of their

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740 Park: The Story of the World's Richest Apartment Building

Excerpted from 740 Park: The Story of the World's Richest Apartment Building By Michael Gross Caroline Kennedy Schlossberg refers to her maternal great-grandfather as Grampy Lee. "Grumpy" Lee would be more apt. A portly, gruff man who chomped a dozen cheap cigars a day, he didn't speak to his wife for years, disinherited several grandchildren, and died with no company but his Oriental manservant. Today, James Thomas Aloysius Lee is best known, i

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The Four Stages of Child Anger

Excerpted from The Angry Child: Regaining Control When Your Child Is Out of Control By Timothy Murphy, Ph.D. When children explode in anger, even adults can feel intimidated and overwhelmed by the strength and depth of their emotion. We may also feel there is little we can do to stop or control the situation. Fortunately, this is not true. Every angry outburst follows a predictable progression from buildup to explosion through a series of four stages, and the good news

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The Legacy of Slavery: Standards for a New Womanhood

Excerpted from Women, Race& Class By Angela Y. Davis When the influential scholar Ulrich B. Phillips declared in 1918 that slavery in the Old South had impressed upon African savages and their native-born descendants the glorious stamp of civilization, he set the stage for a long and passionate debate. As the decades passed and the debate raged on, one historian after another confidently professed to have deciphered the real meaning of the "peculiar institution." Bu

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If You Can Dream It You Can Do It!

Excerpted from Success Is Never Ending, Failure Is Never Final By Robert H. Schuller ANYBODY can dream! ANYBODY can plan! As it says in the song, "When you wish upon a star, makes NO DIFFERENCE WHO YOU ARE!" Success will be never ending and failure will never be final for those people who have the capacity to dream. In 1955 when I arrived in California to begin a church, only two miles away Walt Disney was burning orange

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The Mystery of Trauma - What is Trauma?

Excerpted from Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences By Peter A. Levine Ph.D. As I was describing my work to a businessman recently, he exclaimed, "Trauma must have been what was wrong with my daughter when she had those screaming fits in her sleep. The psychologist I took her to told me they were 'just nightmares.' I knew they weren't just nightmares." He was right. His daughter had been severely frightened by a rou

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Dysfunctional Families

Excerpted from It Ends With You; Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction By Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. What does it mean to grow up in a dysfunctional family? If you've followed pop psychology, been in a twelve step program such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Adult Children of Alcoholics, watched Oprah, or read books and magazines, you've probably seen or heard the term dysfunctional many times, and may even have an idea that it means a messed-up family with problems. Perhaps the word h

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Building Your Confidence Muscle

Excerpted from Change Your Life in 30 Days; A Journey to Finding Your True Self By Rhonda Britten Take a few moments to answer the questions and fill in the blanks. There are no wrong answers. Write down the first thought that comes to your mind. Self-confidence is the result of taking risks. Once you have successfully taken risks, you have learned through your experiences that you can count on yourself. Your belief that you can accomplish somet

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Falling from Grace

Excerpted from Blessings from the Fall: Turning a Fall from Grace into a New Beginning By Beverly Engel There are few experiences in life as demoralizing, humiliating and painful as falling from grace. For some, falling from grace is the horrible, shame-inducing experience of being publicly chastised or humiliated, having their reputation ruined, their good name irretrievably damaged and being robbed of their dignity. For others, it is falling

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The Power of Acceptance

Excerpted from The Power of Patience: How to Slow the Rush and Enjoy More Happiness, Success, and Peace of Mind Every Day By Mary Jane Ryan Patience also gives us the ability to put up graciously with obstacles in our path, to respond to life's challenges with courage, strength, and optimism. A business failure, disappointments in love, a serious disability, money woes-these are just a few of the trials that we might be faced with over the course of a lifetime. Being pa

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Making Changes That Stick

By Theun Mares Anne has a weight problem. She has tried many different diets, but they just don't seem to work. Although she sticks with them, and sometimes loses weight, the effects never last for long. In the end, she gives up, feeling disheartened and that she really can't change her situation. Anne is typical of many who want to alter their lives in profound ways, but find that they are unable to make these changes last. Is there a remedy? Yes. The secret to long-lasting personal c

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Compulsive Families

Excerpted from Bradshaw On The Family By John Bradshaw Checklist for How Your Self-Esteem Was Damaged in an Addicted Family After 17 bitter years of painful alcoholism, I put the cork in the bottle 30 years ago. In many ways the last thing I would have believed as a child was that I would become an alcoholic. I cried myself to sleep many a night because of my father's drinking and his abandonment. Frozen with fear in my bed at night, I waited f

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Three Kinds of Comparisons

Excerpted from If Only; How to Turn Regret Into Opportunity By Neal Roese, Ph.D. As we have seen, the counterfactual comparison is one way that we place things in context. Of course, we compare things all the time-an expensive jacket to a cheap jacket, an apple pie to a chocolate cheesecake, even our mother to our father. We can compare things along any number of features-how good they look, how fattening they are, how much love they showed us. But regardless of how man

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How First Impressions Are Formed

Excerpted from First Impressions: What You Don't Know About How Others See You By Ann Demarais, Ph.D., Valerie White, Ph.D. Imagine you are sitting at a bar with your best friend, who is about your age, similarly attractive, and intelligent. You both strike up a conversation with the bartender. You're all laughing and having a good time. But as the conversation goes on you realize the bartender is paying much more attention to your friend than to you. You feel hurt, and

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Reconnecting: How Your Essential Self Says 'No'

Excerpted from Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live By Martha Beck, Ph.D. Anne's job search was not going well. When I met her, she'd just blown big corporate interviews, not with one company but with several. It was same thing every time: Anne would go into the interview process smiling and gracious, like a Miss America contestant, and pass the first screening with flying colors. As she moved on to the next round of interviews, Anne wou

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Initiation: The First Wound

Excerpted from From Chivalry to Terrorism; War and the Changing Nature of Masculinity By Leo Braudy, Ph.D. Physiological and biochemical factors are therefore only the beginning of trying to define maleness, let alone masculinity. The physical body exists in a social context that shapes how it is perceived by both the person who possesses it and everyone else who experiences it. Much of the early social perception of what traits constitute a man is mediated by cultural

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Women's Words: Educators in the Information Age

Excerpted from The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and How They Are Changing the World By Helen Fisher, Ph.D. Speak the speech, I pray you, as I pronounced it to you, trippingly on the tongue." So spoke Hamlet to his actors, encouraging them to speak smoothly, appropriately, and eloquently. Women can be clever, broad-minded, intuitive, and many other things. But of all of women's gifts, their most outstanding, I think, is the talent that Shakespeare cherished-a

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Men - Emotional Absence

Excerpted from If Men Could Talk: Unlocking the Secret Language of Men By Alon Gratch, Ph.D. "Perhaps things are changing," I was thinking, as the third consecutive male "customer" walked into the office. Contrary to what the subject matter of this book may suggest, I generally do not divide the world into men and women. But subconsciously, I must have still expected women, not men, to come see me in the plush but sterile, up-in-the-sky Wall Street office which was mine

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Taking Measure

Excerpted from Stand For Something: The Battle for America's Soul By John Kasich I grew up in a small Pennsylvania town outside Pittsburgh called McKees Rocks, the kind of place where hard work was often its own reward, and where everyone knew most everyone else. My father was a mail carrier. My mother also worked for the post office, sorting mail. Between the two of them, and the connections they established, it sometimes seemed I couldn't cros

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A Basic Method for Controlling Worry

Excerpted from Worry By Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. First, it helps to understand what I call the basic equation of worry. This is a good way to conceptualize where toxic worry comes from: Heightened Vulnerability + Lack of Control = Toxic Worry The more vulnerable you feel (regardless of how vulnerable you actually are) and the less control you feel you have (regardless of how much control you actually have), the more tox

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Growing Yourself Back Up

Excerpted from Growing Yourself Back Up By John Lee Regression is what happens to us when, emotionally, we leave the present moment. By contrast, staying present with yourself, your partner, your children, friends, colleagues, and boss means that, emotionally, you are completely in the here and now, and that a small part of you is neither wandering over the hills and valleys of your past nor trying to predict the future. While staying present is one of the greatest gift

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Business - The Lovecat Way

Excerpted from Love Is the Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends By Tim Sanders Knowledge, network, compassion: These are the intangibles you share with those you have chosen as your partners. These are the values that can drive your career to the top or over the top-they'll take you wherever you want to go. They certainly have taken me where I wanted to go, because, as I'll explain, Show you the love is exactly what I do as a business lovecat. &#

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The Gift of Fear

Excerpted from The Gift of Fear By Gavin de Becker As I write this, it has been nearly a year since The Gift of Fear was first published, nearly a year since I sat next to Oprah Winfrey as she told her viewers that "every woman in America should read this book." She added, "It could save your life one day." I had hoped, maybe even expected, that it might be true. I did not, however, expect thousands of letters from readers - women and men, parents, teachers, students, p

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Standup Guy; Manhood After Feminism

Excerpted from Standup Guy; Manhood After Feminism By Michael Segell Are relations between young men and women really more distant and hostile than those of previous generations? The sexual insecurity of young men-along with their anxiety about ever being able to demonstrate their value to the world-is hardly new. Exploring this psychic terrain with groups of young men, I recognized a familiar, though thankfully ancient, dread. When I was their age-younger, actually-I w

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Race Integration: Blacks and Whites in America

Excerpted from A Country of Strangers: Blacks and Whites in America By David K. Shipler Many African-Americans describe "black culture" with definitions of contrast: black is better than white in one or another dimension, such as the inventiveness of humor, the closeness of family, the honesty of friendship, the spontaneity of feeling, the dignity of struggle, the sexuality of love, the rootedness in reality and the suffering of the street. The

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