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Making Sense of Divorce

Excerpted from Divorce Talk; Women and Men Make Sense of Personal Relationships By Catherine Kohler Riessman Personal Meaning in a Social Context Divorce has touched the lives of more individuals today than ever before in history. The marital bonds that in earlier generations (and in many parts of the world to this day) were broken most often by death are in many Western societies now most often broken by divorce. As a relatively common response

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Change Your Marriage by Changing Yourself

Excerpted from Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again By Michele Weiner Davis Now that you understand some of the nuts and bolts of Solution-Oriented Brief Therapy, you are probably ready to roll up your sleeves and start making your marriage work. The good news is that the marriage-enriching techniques described in Chapters 4-8 do not require both partners' coordinated efforts. Your spouse doesn't have to read this book in order f

Many Divorced Couples Could Be Better off If Stayed Married

By Margarita Nahapetyan Most people get divorced hoping to have a better life and find more happiness than they had in their marriage. However, a new national study by Iowa State University cautions such people, stating that in approximately one in four couples who divorce, the individuals involved might have been better off if stayed married. Alex Zhylyevskyy, assistant professor of economics at Iowa State University, who authored th

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Divorce: Alien Abduction - Denial

Excerpted from Live, Laugh, Love Again; A Christian Woman's Survival Guide to Divorce By Michelle Borquez, Connie Wetzell, Carla Sue Nelson Well, now that you've faced the shock, you ask yourself the $64,000 question: What in the heck happened to my husband? The choices are obvious: a. Someone cast an evil spell on him. b. His brain went on vacation. c. He was abducted by aliens. d. He got hit in the head with a [insert appropriate sport for

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Parental Divorce Affects Boys' Health Later In Life

By Margarita Nahapetyan Adult men who had their parents divorced before they turned 18 are at a significantly higher risk of suffering a stroke when compared to men whose parents stayed married, claim scientists from the University of Toronto. The new research found that boys whose parents divorced appear to be three times more likely to have a stroke later in life, but girls from divorced families are not at an increased risk of stro

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call-hell: The Dictionary of Failed Relationships

Excerpted from The Dictionary of Failed Relationships: 26 Tales of Love Gone Wrong By Meredith Broussard call-hell \'kol-hel\ noun [insp. by Dorothy Parker]: the state of severe anxiety following a date or sexual interlude, when the woman wonders desperately if the man will call, and the man does nothing to eliminate this severe anxiety. Symptoms of call-hell include: obsessive checking of telephone messages; calling oneself to make sure that voice mail/machine/phone se

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Wedding Jitters Could Be a Predictor for a Future Divorce

By Margarita Nahapetyan Brides who hesitate about getting married might want to consider having second thoughts before starting a life-long commitment, suggest psychologists from the University of California, Los Angeles. According to the new research, uncertainty and wedding cold feet are a real signal of trouble ahead and might be even a predictor for a future divorce. Justin Lavner, a doctoral candidate in psychology, who authored

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Can Facebook Destroy Your Marriage?

By Margarita Nahapetyan According to U.S. and British divorce attorneys, social networking website Facebook is often associated with marriage breakups. In spite of the fact that millions of people all across the world consider Facebook to be very social and innocent, the latest statistics show that one in five marriages in the United States are destroyed by the nation's most popular website. A 2010 survey by American Academy of Matrim

Following Ex's Facebook Activities Delays PostBreakup Recovery

By Margarita Nahapetyan Checking and following the activities of an ex partner through social networking site Facebook can seriously interfere with a person's ability to move on as well as delay their emotional recovery and healing, suggests a new article, entitled "Facebook Surveillance of Former Romantic Partners: Associations with PostBreakup Recovery and Personal Growth." Although Facebook can help lovebirds feel connected day and

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Divorced Parents Prefer Technology and Social Media As Communication Tool

By Margarita Nahapetyan Individuals who are separated or divorced are increasingly using technology when it comes to communicating with their ex-partners in regards with their kids, found a new study by a University of Missouri family studies expert. According to Lawrence Ganong, a professor of human development and family studies at MU, who authored the research and examined the communication habits of about 50 couples, when ex-partn

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Divorce: Negotiating Your Parenting Agreement

Excerpted from Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life: A Reasoned, Practical Guide to the Legal, Emotional and Financial Ins and Outs of Negotiating a Divorce Se By Sam Margulies, Ph.D., J.D. Scheduled access to die children should provide an opportunity for them to share the lives of both parents. Special occasions and treats should occur with about the same regularity as in married families. Children should not come to expect special entertainment every time they

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The Tough Guy's Breakup Buddy

Excerpted from It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken : The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy By Greg Behrendt, Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt We've been told that guys don't really buy these kinds of books. Men process breakups differently perhaps. They get drunk, stand on your lawn, scream at football players on TV, and maybe even start a band. Yet I would have really dug a book like this when I was hurting to keep me from losing my shit. Well, if you are a guy and you are read

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The Warning Signs of a Relationship Headed For a Breakup

Excerpted from The Irritable Male Syndrome: Managing the Four Key Causes of Depression and Aggression By Jed Diamond, Ph.D. We all know of relationships in which the couple is forever fighting and unhappy. The heat is too high. Rather than warming, it burns. We also know couples who have given up on having a good relationship and have settled for one where they are physically together but emotionally distant. The cold is not refreshing; it freezes the flow of love and g

Divorced Women Suffer Financially, While Men - Emotionally

By Margarita Nahapetyan After divorce it is women who turn out to be the biggest financial losers, but it takes their husbands much longer to recover emotionally, found the joint research led by the Australian Federal Government's Institute of Family Studies. The study by the AIFS, ANU and University of Queensland compared the incomes of married couples with divorced men and women between 2001 and 2010. The data was collected from the

Detaching From a Malignant Man

Excerpted from Don't Text That Man! A Guide To Self Protective Dating in the Age of Technology By Rhonda Findling Disengaging from a man you love, like or are infatuated with, takes a lot of self-discipline and emotional strength. It's like going against the force of gravity. It is counterintuitive. It's traumatic. It's not a natural process. It defies our human instinct to attach. Getting over a man can take several months to several years, dep

If your ex was a jackass the first time around, he probably still is

Excerpted from The Spinsterlicious Life: 20 Life Lessons For Living Happily Single and Child-free By Eleanore Wells The success of a revisited relationship depends on why you broke up the first time. It could be a good idea if the reason for the break-up was situational, that is, if there was something going on in your life or his life that got in the way of the relationship (e.g., work, school, distance, immaturity) and that situation has been resolved. However, if the

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Leaving Him Behind

Excerpted from Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends By Sandra S. Kahn Slowly, like a building tidal wave, the figures on divorce keep mounting. In the course of the eighties, we were first dismayed and then alarmed to learn that fully half of all marriages in the United States would end in divorce. As we begin the nineties, the dramatic and troubling truth is that this figure is unquestionably here to stay. 

Dealing with the Truth about Your Relationship

Excerpted from Obsessive Love : When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go By Susan Forward, Ph.D., Craig Buck We're about to build a bridge from your emotional vacation to the rest of your life. But in order for this bridge to carry you over the dark waters of obsessive love, you must be willing to take an honest look at your relationship-or lack thereof-and to deal squarely with what you find. I know how frightening this can be. I know how important it

Divorce Linked To Hair Loss In Women

By Margarita Nahapetyan Women who had lost a spouse through divorce or death are much more likely to suffer from hair loss than women who are happily married or single, a new study has found. According to American Society of Plastic Surgeons, marital break-up, high levels of stress, smoking, and heavy drinking lead to increased hair loss in women. The conclusions are based on the two brand new studies that involved identical twins, bo

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Breakup: Getting Ready for Good-bye (a.k.a. the Relationship)

Excerpted from It's Not Me, It's You; The Ultimate Breakup Book By Anna Jane Grossman, Flint Wainess It's not easy being a single person in a couples' world. You can't buy a single bed, because they're too small, yet a queen-size bed leaves you wondering what to do with that other pillowcase that comes with the set. Your toothbrush holder taunts you with its extra space. Even the car serves as a reminder that your passenger seat, like your life, is empty. Food won't do

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Portrait Of My Desire

Excerpted from Portrait Of My Desire By Rhonda Findling Sharon shivered from the biting, icy cold, draft coming through her bedroom window. Another dreary, lonely, Wisconsin winter night, she thought to herself as she sketched the dark, exotic looking man from the fashion magazine. The frenzied lashing of the howling wind, intensified Sharon's growing restlessness that she'd been trying to stave off for the past few months. She put her new "Satu

Men's Unempleyment Can Lead to Marriage Breakup

By Margarita Nahapetyan A man's unemployment can have a profound effect on whether his marriage will survive or not, according to a study published in the American Journal of Sociology. While attitudes about working females have considerably evolved in the past decades, social pressure on their male counterparts to be the main money makers is still very strong, says Liana Sayer, an associate professor of sociology at Ohio State Univer

Break-Up for Girls - The First Few Days

Excerpted from The Girls' Guide to Surviving a Break-Up By Delphine Hirsh If your palms aren't too tired, high-five yourself yet again. You may not be laughing all the time and wildly in love with your life, but there is no doubt that you are feeling a lot better than you did six months ago. Can you even really remember how miserable you felt back then? Most people can summon a vague feeling of horror, but the actual intensity of the pain can't be accessed. That intensity, thank God, do

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Option One: Do Nothing

Excerpted from Conscious Divorce: Ending a Marriage with Integrity By Susan Allison After hearing the messages of the intuition, you have many options. One choice is not to choose at all but to put away your journal and do nothing. Be aware that this decision may come from fear. Our realizations are so scary, so revolutionary that we cannot face them. We consciously choose homeostasis, to have stability and normalcy. Our marriage may not be ideal or even good, but it is

Breakup - The Mourning After

Excerpted from How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life By Howard Bronson, Mike Riley Waking up on the day after a breakup can be a rather grim affair. Most people emerge from the hiding place of their slumbers to the unhappy recollection that a large part of their lite is now gone. It's the first day of the "mourning after" a loss. Take that first moment of mourning to reflect o
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