Take Control of Your Romantic Life: Letting Go and Moving On

When life takes an unexpected turn, it can be hard to know what to do - especially in the realm of relationships. Breakups, divorces and unresolved issues with friends and family can leave us feeling frustrated, lonely and helpless. If you are struggling to process and make sense of your current situation - asking for help is often a great first step!

It’s understandable to want to stay connected to the past for various reasons, and it can be painful to envisioned loosening our grip on all those memories and moments. But sometimes letting go and moving on is not only necessary - it’s empowering. Instead of feeling like a victim in a cruel world, recognize that you are in control and there are decision you can make now that will have a positive and lasting impact on your future.

One way to take charge of your romantic destiny is by shifting the focus away from your past relationship patterns and onto yourself. Self-reflection gives us a platform to identify our unhealthy habits, so we can impose restrictions on ourselves and break free from the old ways of dealing with heartache. For example, if you find yourself constantly seeking comfort in unhealthy behaviours or isolating yourself, ask yourself why - and work through some possible solutions.

Another way to regain control is by actively deciding how you want your story to be told going forward. You become the author of your own life, and can write it as inspiring, powerful or romantic as you wish. Take a moment to consider what kind of relationship you would like to have in the future, and start making steps to achieve that goal. Create a vision, take ownership of it - and never give up hope that you could find something even better than before.

There are certain aspects of moving on, of course, that just cannot be avoided: grief, heartache and rejection. Knowing that these experiences are vital to the healing process can be helpful in accepting them and allowing oneself to experience them as they come. That being said, one of the most important things you can do here is to prioritize self-care. Make sure you are taking the time to engage in activities that nurture your soul. Investing in your physical health can also bolster your mental wellbeing - try exercise, yoga, or visualization.

Navigating the aftermath of a relationship can feel daunting and draining. But oftentimes, looking at the pain from the perspective of growth can be life-changing. If a relationship ends, use your strength to learn from the experience, cherish the memories, forgive yourself and others and then - look ahead to the new door that has opened up for you.

Take heart - you are stronger than you may realize. Stepping into the unknown can be scary, but it can also be filled with joy and adventure. Taking back control of your life and embracing the potential in front of you can be a journey of self-discovery and personal breakthrough. Allow yourself the grace and the time to reset, adjust and reboot - and then set out to create a wildly beautiful future.