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    Matthew Frank

    10 Commandments of Flirting With a Friend

    In the tapestry of human relationships, the thread that often bewilders us most is the one that connects friendship to romance. "Can friends become lovers?" has been an age-old question. If you have ever found yourself pondering whether your friendly banter with your friend is taking a flirtatious turn or not, this article is designed for you. Welcome to the secret guide to flirting with a friend, where we debunk the myths and arm you with ten commandments to navigate this uncharted territory.

    1. Clear Self-Understanding: Know Thyself Before You Wreck Thyself

    Before flirting with a friend, the first commandment asks you to know your feelings and understand them. Are you truly interested in a romantic relationship, or is this just a temporary fascination, possibly stimulated by boredom or loneliness? Understanding your feelings is crucial because the stakes are higher when it comes to friendships. Making an impulsive move without knowing your feelings could end up hurting you and your friend and damage a relationship that you value.

    2. Plausible Deniability: The Art of Subtlety

    Flirting is an art, and when it involves a friend, it requires even more finesse. The second commandment proposes maintaining plausible deniability. You want to make your intentions known but in a way that allows you both to comfortably retreat to the 'just friends' zone if the flirtation is not reciprocated. This could involve teasing them a bit more than usual, giving them extra attention, or adding a slight romantic touch to your gestures. But subtlety is the key.

    3. The Friend Zone Is Not a Danger Zone: Validate The Friendship

    If you've been listening to dating advice, you might have been taught to fear the "friend zone." Our third commandment challenges this conventional wisdom. Embrace the friend zone! After all, your friendship is the foundation of this potential romantic relationship. Show your friend that you value your relationship as it is. Give them the space they need, respect their decisions, and validate your friendship.

    4. Communicate but Don't Confess: The Balancing Act

    Flirting with a friend is a delicate dance between revealing your feelings and preserving your friendship. The fourth commandment advises you to communicate your feelings without making a grand confession. Express your feelings through actions, not words. For example, shower them with compliments, make more eye contact, or touch them casually during conversations.

    5. The Slow Burn: Patience Is a Virtue

    Unlike flirting with a stranger, where things can progress rapidly, flirting with a friend needs to be a slow burn. Patience is the fifth commandment. You have to be willing to take it slow, understand their comfort levels, and give them the time to process the change in dynamics. It is a marathon, not a sprint.

    6. Check the Temperature: Feedback is Essential

    The sixth commandment emphasizes the importance of feedback. While flirting with a friend, you should continuously check their response. Are they comfortable or awkward? Are they reciprocating or avoiding? Paying attention to their reactions can give you valuable insights into whether you should continue your flirtation or take a step back.

    7. No Expectations, No Disappointments

    As the seventh commandment, keep your expectations in check. It's crucial not to pressure your friend into responding to your advances. They may need time to process the situation, or they may not share your feelings. no one owes you their affection, even if you have feelings for them.

    8. Keep It Light and Fun

    The eighth commandment is to keep the interaction light and fun. Flirting is all about enjoying the moment and making the other person feel good. Inject humor into your interactions and let your personality shine.

    9. Be Respectful: Consent is Non-Negotiable

    The ninth commandment reiterates that consent is non-negotiable. If your friend seems uncomfortable or asks you to stop, respect their boundaries. Your friend's comfort and consent should always be your priority.

    10. Be Prepared for Any Outcome: Rejection or Romance

    The final commandment is to brace yourself for any outcome. While your feelings may be strong, remember that a romantic relationship is a two-way street. Your friend may not share your romantic feelings, and that's okay. On the flip side, they may return your feelings, and your friendship could blossom into a beautiful romance.


    1. "Friendship to Love: Navigating Emotional Transitions," by Dr. Lucia O'Sullivan, 2023.
    2. "The Art of Flirting: How to Navigate Love and Relationships," by Jean Smith, 2022.

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