Dear eNotAlone: I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks and I feel like we have a connection. We talk every day and we have gone out many times. He talks about how much he likes me and how much he wants to be with me, but then he will suddenly change his mind and start pushing me away. I don't understand what is going on. Why does he seem to like me so much but then reject me at the same time?
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Ah, it can certainly be confusing when someone behaves in a way that seems contradictory. When it comes to love and relationships, though, the answers aren't always easy to understand. The truth is, there are many reasons why a guy may reject a girl he likes.
One of the more common reasons is insecurity. This can range from being insecure about his ability to provide for you in the future to worrying that he isn't good enough for you. He could also be afraid of getting hurt and doesn't want to take the risk of investing himself fully in a relationship. No matter what the cause may be, insecurity can make it difficult for him to fully commit to the relationship.
Another factor could be the timing. If he is dealing with personal issues, such as work stress or family matters, he might not be ready to be in a relationship right now. He could also be in between relationships or still trying to get over an ex. Even if he really does like you, he might not be able to act on it until he has had enough time to process what he's been through and clear his head.
Your guy may be hesitant to commit simply because he doesn't feel ready for a long-term relationship. He may just want to take things slow and see where the relationship goes. Unfortunately, this can lead to mixed signals, as he is trying to enjoy the pleasure of being with you without the worry of commitment.
Whatever the reason may be, it can be difficult to navigate a situation when someone is sending mixed messages. It is important to remember that everyone has different situations and needs when it comes to relationships. If your guy is rejecting you, try to have an honest conversation with him and ask him what he is feeling. This will help to give you a better understanding of where he stands and what his true intentions are.
The best thing to do is to respect his wishes. If he isn't ready for a relationship or isn't sure he wants to move forward, it is important to accept that. It is okay to want something more, but it isn't okay to pressure him into something he isn't ready for. You deserve someone that is able to give you their full attention and commitment, and if he is unwilling to do that, it is probably best to let it go and move on.