Dating is supposed to be fun — you get to dress up, go out, and meet someone new. Unfortunately, if you’re too hot, it’s like a curse that can bring a lot of unwelcome attention. Men are intimidated and it often leads to situations like getting asked out but then ignored when they finally meet in person. So, what do you do if you’re too hot to date?
The first thing to keep in mind is that this isn’t a reflection on who you are as a person — no matter how attractive you are, your personality is attractive, too and deserves just as much consideration from potential partners. Don't let being too attractive stand in the way of finding a quality connection. While it may seem like men’s attention should be a good thing, it’s important to remember that it can also take away from honest, real connections.
Secondly, learn some strategies to push back against any kind of intimidation and focus on your own goals. Often, when men feel intimidated by men of the same level of attractiveness or even better looking, they will try to establish dominance by making themselves seem better. The best way to combat this behavior is to be confident and assertive in your interactions. If a man attempts to put you down, don’t take it personally — remember, he's only trying to make himself feel more important.
That said, if your goal is to find a partner who shares your interests and finds your looks attractive without feeling threatened, there are steps you can take to increase your chances. Start by talking about things you're interested in and offer insights into your passions. Or have fun practicing flirting and feel free to be bold; this will show you are confident and direct enough to let him know where you stand. The goal here is not to give them a false sense of security - if they’re not into who you really are, why would you want to be with them anyway?
Finally, consider the fact that there are some people who won’t be attracted to you simply because you’re too attractive. It may sound counterintuitive, but you should embrace this fact and accept that it’s an issue that’s out of your control. Just remember that the right person will find you attractive regardless of your looks; this is more likely to happen if you’re confident in yourself and your interests.
It’s perfectly natural to feel frustrated if you feel like men are intimidated by your good looks. However, it’s important to remember that it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll never find someone who will see you for who you are first and foremost. All you need to do is stay true to yourself, practice some confidence-building strategies, and keep an open mind. The right person will come along eventually — and you won’t ever have to worry about being “too hot to date” again.
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