Dear eNotAlone: I recently met this girl and have been exchanging glances. I was wondering if she likes me as much as I like her. We haven't actually started talking, though I am feeling like there is a certain attraction between us. I am not sure how to sense if subsequent glances and possibly hints that she likes me. And if so, how should I approach the conversation so I don't sound needy or desperate?
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Given the scenario you have described, it may be tricky for you to figure out if she likes you or not. Sometimes women enjoy flirting with their eyes, sending subtle messages without saying a word. This type of body language indicates she is interested in getting to know you. However, it could also hint that she's simply being friendly. In either case, it will be up to you to make the first move and initiate a conversation.
When it comes to starting a conversation, above all else, be confident. Speak clearly and express yourself confidently, delivering your words with clarity. Don't let anxiousness show; instead, focus on keeping an air of self-assurance. Be open and responsive to ensure the conversation keeps going. Listen to her intently and follow up by asking questions, which allows you to keep learning more about her. Address her with gentle compliments and remain sensitive to the topics that make her feel uncomfortable.
It is important to remain relaxed and have a positive attitude. Don't expect her to instantly reciprocate any feelings; rather, watch for any signs that could indicate she returns your interest. Pay attention to her body language, such as if she laughs at your jokes or finds excuses to spend time with you.
You may find these tips helpful: maintain ongoing eye contact, express genuine curiosity and enthusiasm, be creative, stay away from negative comments, ask about her interests, and respect her wishes if she makes it clear that she doesn't want to talk. be honest and sincere, and you're sure to make a good impression.