How Can I Talk to My Crush?

Dear eNotAlone: I have a crush, and I don't know how to talk to them. I'm really nervous and I don't want to embarrass myself or seem like an idiot. I don't know what to say, or do, and I just end up not saying anything. I'm scared to make the wrong move, but at the same time, I really want to let them know that I like them. What can I do?

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Having a crush can be incredibly nerve-wracking! But at the same time, it can give you butterflies in your stomach and make you all giddy inside – it's all part of that special feeling. Talking to your crush can be intimidating, painful, and ultimately embarrassing if you don't go about it the right way. But don't despair – there are plenty of ways to approach your crush and make things a little easier.

First of all, do your research. Find out what your crush is interested in and research their likes and dislikes. This will help you start conversations with topics that both of you can relate to. It may also give you potential conversation starters and give you the opportunity to find common ground. this might inspire ideas for a creative pick up line or invite to get them interested. It also could give you a better understanding of their background and personality, which is always helpful.

The next step is to be confident. Take a few deep breaths, give yourself some positive affirmations, and remember that your crush is only human too. Channel your inner bravery and muster up the courage to go talk to them. The worst thing that could happen is that they turn you down – but so what? You took a chance, which is more than most people ever do. Plus, you never know – they may very well say yes!

It's also important to be yourself. Trying to be someone you're not will only backfire on you. Your crush already likes something about you, so being genuine is key. Be natural and comfortable in who you are. Show your personality and make sure your conversations fit into the type of person that you are. Being authentic will go a long way in leaving a lasting impression.

Just have fun! Talking to your crush should be enjoyable, rather than stressful. Lighten up the mood and make jokes here and there. Keep the conversation light by talking about fun topics that come up as you chat. Laugh, smile, and show that you're having a good time. Chances are, your crush will pick up on the good vibes and be much more likely to want to continue the conversation.

Talking to your crush might seem intimidating, but it doesn't have to be. If you take the time to do your research, stay confident, be yourself, and have fun, you'll have no problem making a good impression. Who knows – that could very well be the first step towards your happily ever after.