How Can I Make Conversations with Girls?

I'm desperate for advice on how to make conversation with girls. They seem so self-assured and confident around me, that it terrifies me. I want to talk to them and get to know them better, but instead I end up clamming up or saying the wrong thing. Is there anything I can do to be more relaxed and make conversations that actually flow?

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Making conversation with those we find attractive can certainly be daunting. So take a deep breath, take your time and remind yourself that you are capable and have a lot to offer.

First, be sure to do your homework. Asking questions you already know the answers to shows a lack of interest and knowledge. That being said, don't ask too many question either and try not to fixate on one topic. Keep it light by weaving stories, observations and humor into the conversation.

Next, remember that all conversations don't always have to lead to a romantic outcome. Allow yourself to enjoy the simple moments in a conversation and don't put too much pressure on the outcome. Becoming too self-conscious and trying to figure out how a girl will view you only leads to strain within the conversation. Talk about stuff that fascinates you and be open to her opinion.

When things become awkward or silent, try lighthearted banter. Use sarcasm, humor and jokes to break the ice, but avoid jokes at someone else's expense. try to focus more on listening than talking and always stay away from controversial topics.