Does She Like Me? Understanding signs she is interested in you

Dear eNotAlone: I recently spent New Year's with a girl in my friend group and I feel like there was some kind of spark between us. We were taking lots of pictures together, and at the end of the night, she gave me a big hug and wished me a happy new year. But then the next day, she completely ignored me and I haven't heard anything from her since then. Does she like me or was it just a friendly gesture?

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New Year's can often bring a sense of optimism and familiarity, which can make it difficult to decipher whether feelings are friendly or romantic. So, if you've been wondering "does she like me?" it can be difficult to quell your curiosity.

The truth is, reading into this situation can be quite tricky. People often tell you what you want to hear during the holiday season, so taking how she actually acts as opposed to what she said, is key. How you approach it is important to consider as well. If you interpreted the hug as something more than kindness and want something deeper, be honest. If it's important to you, reach out and express your feelings. She may not be interested in taking things to the next level, but at least you will have clarity on where she stands and why.

Remember, rejection does hurt of course, but it can also be beneficial. A lack of reciprocated feelings is still valuable feedback and isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's important to have self esteem and understand that each and every interaction doesn't need affirmation from someone else to make it feel valid. Simply put, you are enough. Know that decreasing your emotional investment in this person and using this as an opportunity to practice self-worth, may be a better route to take than investing further and indefinitely waiting for an answer.

The best way to find out how this person feels and to get the closure you desire, is to communicate and ask her directly. Pick up the phone, write an email, or meet up in person if possible. Be brave, be confident, and be yourself. If a connection to this person grew, you both deserve answers.