Breaking Through Barriers: A Guide to Ask Out That Special Girl

The Hardest Part of Asking Her Out

Asking out that special girl can be one of the scariest, most nerve-wracking moments of a man’s life. It doesn’t matter if you’re a seasoned veteran of the dating world or a novice looking for your very first date, the hardest part is mustering up the courage to ask her. Even when you have that perfect little speech all laid out in your head, doubt and fear can cripple your willpower.

Knowing how to handle this kind of pressure can be difficult. Everyone has different methods of dealing with anxiety, and it’s important to find the method that works for you. Practice makes perfect though, so only repetition can fix your fear. Asking out as many girls as possible is one way to boost your self-confidence. Even if every attempt fails, you’ll eventually become self-assured and get the courage to ask out that special girl.

However, even if you do manage to find the nerve to really go for it, you could still face rejection. Girls may accept or decline your invitation to go out. Ironically, the one person you really want to like you could very well be the one who rejects you. Knowing that possibility exists can make it especially hard to actually follow through on the request.

Still, there are ways to do it without being too forward or creepy. First off, you should make sure you two run in the same social circles. That way, there’s already a connection between you two and she won’t feel like a stalker is hitting on her. Once you’ve established some common ground, you’ll be in a better position to ask her out.

The key is to be straightforward, but not too aggressive. Don’t beat around the bush, but don’t come across as demanding or entitled either. Start by inducing some interesting conversation with her. When she shows interest in talking to you, it’s a good sign that she’s interested in getting to know you better.

When you get that feeling, suggest something casual like having lunch or going for a walk. Make sure you take into consideration her preferences and interests. By doing that, she’ll see that you’re taking the time to listen and understand her. That will subconsciously fill her with romantic thoughts and by then, it should be easy to suggest something more adventurous and fun.

Lastly, be polite and patient when it comes to asking someone out. Don’t be too pushy or insistent if she declines your offer. Every person has the right to say no to any invitation. Simply respect her decision, thank her for her time, and move on in a graceful manner.

The toughest part of asking out a girl isn’t just saying the words, but finding the mental strength to do it. Accepting the reality that rejection is a possibility helps to alleviate the fear. You just have to stay strong, find courage within yourself, and take the initiate. With patience and understanding, you’ll eventually be able to break that wall and ask her out.