A Risk Worth Taking: Should You Ask Her Out?

Navigating the world of romantic interests can be daunting, even paralyzing. Most people find a certain comfort in the familiar, passive pattern we learn to adhere to as we try to keep everyone's feelings in check. But when you feel that spark with someone, it can be hard to ignore.

The question many of us are left with is this: should I take the risk of making a move, or stay in my comfort zone?

Many of us are hesitant to make a move for fear of being rejected or even reading into the situation and making it awkward for ourselves. Rejection can seem like an abyss of shame and humiliation, and it’s natural to want to avoid it. That said, rejection isn’t always permanent — some relationships start from nothing more than a conversation. When it comes down to it, not making a move is promising that nothing will happen starts with, so there is really no reward either way.

Taking a risk can be stressful, yet it doesn’t have to be. Start by finding the courage to speak up — remind yourself it’s not the end of the world if things don’t turn out the way you hope. Give yourself permission to lay everything out on the table and then move on, regardless of the outcome. Even if you don’t get the response you wanted, respect the other person’s feelings. Parting ways with grace can help you maintain your self-respect.

If you decide to ask someone out, remember that it takes courage to do that in the first place. Asking someone out is this an important first step, and regardless of the result, you already accomplished something remarkable. After all, having the courage to make an effort is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

No matter what you decide, remember that we only have one shot at life, and it’s up to you to decide how you want to spend it. It helps to remember that going for it is worth the risk. Plus, when it comes to relationships, there is always the opportunity to meet someone else who may be just right for you. So, don’t be deterred if things don’t turn out the way you initially planned.

Whatever you choose will be the right decision. As long you follow your instincts and stay true to yourself, you'll be able to look back and be proud of yourself no matter what the outcome.