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    Paula Thompson

    Letting Go: Moving On After a Breakup

    I just got out of a very long relationship and I am finding it incredibly hard to move on. How can I let go of my past and start fresh?

    As much as you may want to hang onto the past, the best way to move forward after a break-up is to let go. The process of recovering from a break-up usually involves going through a series of emotional stages that range from sadness and anger to acceptance and eventually, a new beginning. But it can be difficult, especially if you're feeling disoriented and don't know where to start.

    If you're having a hard time coming to terms with your break-up, here are some tips on how to let go and start fresh.

    Rediscover Yourself

    In a relationship, you often become intertwined with the other person, so much so that you lose sight of who you were before you met them. Before you can make the decision to move on, you need to rediscover yourself and find out what you want out of life. Take some time out to do the things that make you happy. Spend time with your friends or try something new like taking up a hobby. Try to remember why you fell in love in the first place and think of ways you can recapture that feeling.

    Set Emotional Boundaries

    After a break-up, you can find yourself tempted to stay in contact with your ex or go back to them in times of loneliness. However, it's important to remember that your actions during the break-up will have consequences for your future. To move on successfully, you need to set emotional boundaries for yourself such as not contacting your ex or allowing yourself to be drawn into arguments.

    Be Honest with Yourself

    To recover from a break-up, you first need to come to terms with the fact that the relationship is over. You may be tempted to cling to the hope that your ex will change their mind and take you back eventually, but wishing won't make it happen. Accepting the reality of the situation is the first step towards healing and moving on.

    Allow Yourself to Grieve

    Whenever we experience a loss, it's natural to feel grief and sadness for a period of time. So give yourself permission to feel these emotions. Don't try to rush the process or force yourself to move on before you're ready. Instead, take your time and make sure that you've adequately mourned the relationship before you take steps to pick up the pieces and rebuild your life.

    Reach Out for Support

    Going through a break-up can be an extremely isolating experience, but there are people out there who understand what you're going through and who can help support you through the difficult times. Reach out to your close friends and family, or even join a support group if you're looking for a more formal structure.

    Focus on the Future

    The most important thing is to make sure you keep looking ahead. Don't get caught up in the past and all of the "what if" scenarios—instead focus on the present moment and make plans for the future. Think about what new projects you want to take on, or what goals you want to accomplish. Having something to look forward to will give you the motivation to keep going, even on the darkest days.

    Letting go of the past and starting fresh after a break-up is never easy. But by following these tips and being honest with yourself, you can help make the process a bit easier. Once you've taken the time to rediscover yourself, set boundaries, and focus on the future, you'll be able to start rebuilding your life in a positive and meaningful way.

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