Will She Return or Is It Time to Move On?

Do you ever feel like the time you spent with someone was suddenly for naught? At times, we make decisions that we later regret – and in some cases, it’s a choice made by the other person. When this happens, confusion and pain can consume us, causing us to question what we should do. This is the situation faced by the user in the forum thread. They want to know if they have a chance to get back together with her and are looking for advice.

The truth about relationships is that there are no guarantees – nothing is certain in the world of love. That being said, chances do exist, but the answer ultimately depends on the circumstances surrounding the breakup. Here are a few things to ask yourself when considering whether to try to win her back or move on:

What were the reasons she left in the first place? If she left because of an issue that could be worked through with counseling or couples therapy, perhaps pursuing her can be worthwhile. On the other hand, if it was due to incompatibility or a lack of trust, it may be better to accept that this should just be a learning experience and move forward.

Does she still communicate with you? Communication can make all the difference in weighing whether to keep trying or be done with it. If there still is meaningful interaction between the two of you and she’s indicated there’s a chance of reconciling, then this is an indication that there may be a way back. It’s important to keep conversation focused on resolving the issues at hand if you both want to make a come-back work.

What are the costs? It’s important to consider the potential costs of pursuing her and getting back together. Are you expecting or hoping that it is going to be exactly the same as when you were once together? Or are you willing to take things slow and rethink how your relationship will look going forward? If you’re both able to discuss the past openly and without judgment, and accept that things may have to be changed, then there may be something of a future.

The bottom line is that so much of what happens in relationships relies upon the people involved. It takes two to tango, and neither partner should take on more of the blame for the demise of the relationship than necessary. It is also important to only jump back in if there’s potential for something different and better than before – because, after all, what’s the point of a reunion if the same problems remain? If the user is confident that their motives are pure and the possibility of a better partnership is attainable, they should weigh the pros and cons of the situation and see if a reconciliation is the right thing to do.

Deciding to pursue the ex or letting it go is up to the user’s discretion, but it’s key to remember often times the best choice is the one we don’t take right away. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and not think through the long-term effects of making a decision. Our emotions can pull us one way or the other, so it’s always important to step back and give yourself the time and space to capture the whole picture before making the final call.