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    Natalie Garcia

    What are some strategies for dealing with a partner who has a history of trauma or abuse?

    Whether we are in a close and intimate relationship or trying to form one, each of us has a history. At times, this history may include experiences with trauma, abuse, or victimization that can create a divide between us and our potential partner. As we talk more openly about the damaging psychological effects of abuse, it becomes more important for us to know some successful strategies for dealing with a partner who has a history of trauma or abuse.

    Having these strategies in mind as a starting point can open up meaningful conversations and help bridge the gap between two people. It helps create a sense of safety and trust which are essential elements of any relationship. Here are some of the most effective strategies to employ when dealing with a partner’s history of trauma or abuse.

    The first and most important strategy is to understand and respect the difficulty of talking about past experiences of trauma and abuse. Acknowledge the courage it often takes to share such trauma with another person, and enter into your partnership with an open heart and non-judgmental attitude. Be patient and understanding; if your partner is not ready to talk, accept that and offer love and support unconditionally.

    In addition, create a safe space where your partner can express their feelings without fear of judgment or criticism. Make sure that you’re both aware that this space is only for talking about emotions. Listening without judgement and without the intent to solve but rather the intention to be supportive and understanding of whatever the person is going through.

    It is also critical to make sure that your relationship is based on respect and equality. Discuss how power dynamics work in relationships and emphasize that your bond is based on mutual respect and consent. The best relationships are those that are grounded in mutual trust, understanding, and communication.

    Another key factor in dealing with a partner’s history of trauma or abuse is being aware of triggers that may bring up difficult feelings. If a situation does arise that is similar to something in their past, try to allow your partner to take control of the moment by offering them options for how to choose to respond. If need be, provide additional emotional support which could involve offering her physical contact such as a hug or reassuring words.

    Keep encouraging your partner to seek therapeutic help. Counseling can provide the tools and insights needed to work through trauma and replace it with healthy coping mechanisms. Make sure your partner knows she is never alone, that you’re there to support her and guide her towards healing.

    Thinking through these strategies and being prepared with how to interact can lay a strong foundation for developing meaningful and healthy relationships with partners who have experienced trauma. Don’t forget that respecting each other’s boundaries, supporting each other through emotional ups and downs, and communicating effectively are all cornerstones of a healthy relationship. With these strategies in hand, we can create relationships full of love and understanding, regardless of our partner’s history.

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