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Thread continued from here Hello everyone at eNotAlone, I suddenly had a great idea...( scary huh? ) Let's start the SuperDave 71 NO CONTACT CHALLENGE... Here are the rules: 1. When you accept this challenge, post here and your time/date stamp will be recorded for accuracy. 2. No Contact will be initiated for ONE MONTH from the date that you post. This mean NO CONTACT WHATSOEVER...and I mean NONE. (Including going to picture sites and myspace/or like sites) 3. If you work with your ex, you can still accept the challenge. You cannot do ANYTHING to contact your ex UNLESS it is work related ONLY. 4. If you accept this challange, I would like a…

(I got this idea from another forum I visit frequently, if one like this already exists by all means ignore / delete this one.) OK, it seems a few of us have had a rough time with the darned NC. I had fantasies today of unloading all this anger, longing, and "W-T-F" onto my ex. I am creating this thread as a place for all of us in pain to post instead of contacting Ms/Mr ex. It could actually be kind of fun, at least a release. What would you like to tell him or her? Even if it's been building up for years, post it here! Rage-fest! Longing-fest! DO NOT CONTACT that frigging ex, put it all here!!

I would like to start a topic on how we deal with the X after the seperation and divorce. It seems to matter how the actual dissolution of the relationship happened. Thrown into the mix is the children that are involved. In most of the posts that I have read here, the divorce is one-sided. The reasons for the separation do not seem to matter as much as the way it is handled or perceived to have been handled by both partners involved. In my case, my X unloaded the bomb and withdrew behind her wall. Nothing got in or out, emotional speaking. She would have no discussion with me no matter how rational and calm I attempted to proceed. I was belittled, screamed at, blam…

I look on this forum a lot to see if there are any new stories about people getting back together with their ex's. I do it just so that I can have some hope, and I really hope someday I can post my story on here to give others confidence that having hope pays off. In the meantime, I am going to make a list of actual stories of people I know that broke up and got back together. Please post your stories here too and we can put a little bit of cheer into this forum. 1. My friend was dumped by his girlfriend of 4 years. They were broken up for a year and a half and he tried everything to get her back. One day he was with his friend talking about her and she called him righ…

I've been thinking a lot about the situations that a lot of us are in where our exes began dating somebody very soon after the break-up. A lot of people classify these as rebounds, but sometimes they work out. I have a theory that if the dumpee remains in the picture, the rebound will become a successful relationship; while if the dumpee leaves, the dumper is more likely to become newly attracted to the missing dumpee, and return. To elaborate.... From reading some situations on ENA it seems to me that a dumper's "rebound" relationship is more likely to last if the dumpee remains in the picture in some capacity, whether as a friend or as the ex trying to "win bac…

Hello Everyone..... It has been quite a long time since I have posted here but I will tell all of those who do not know me, I have been through it all and this is the place to come....**A small warning to those who's hearts are broken and nowhere close to healing.... do not go on your FIRST instinct. It is usually wrong.** You must remember this...no matter what your situation, no matter how bad....or how insignificant....there are things you can NOT do to get them back... How many people out here have done things that seemed like a great idea, yet did not turn out as expected. ( I.E. Calling, meeting them out unannounced, cards, letters, IM's etc etc. )?? W…

Hello all. I needed to write to all of you today. I'm having such a hard time. I thought by now I would start to feel a little better. I don't. I'm fearful that this pain isn't going to end. I miss my wife, so much and as I'm writing this I'm feeling myself begin to cry. I don't know what happened to my life, it was all so clear a few months ago, and no it's so uncertain. I'm so depressed and hurt I feel most days like I won't make it. I don't know what to do anymore. I miss her. I know she has moved along, and I'm still stuck here dreaming of her every single night, and every second of the day. I get home from work and I just cry myself so slee…

My story is long but I would love to hear any advice! I'm SO sad and desperate with guilt!! I really want him back... but I don't know if I should simply be moving on!! A friend advised me here, so well, maybe someone can help?? Here is the story: When I moved away for college I met my ex boyfriend right away and started seriously dating him. We were together for 2.5 years, it was an amazing, healthy relationship, he was the perfect boyfriend, the perfect guy, did everything for me, etc... We didn't fight, my family loved him, we were together from 18-21. I've very casually dated other people before, but he was my first (and only) REAL boyfriend. So, after almost 3…

I thought it would be interesting if i shared my story and then my day to day efforts to be with my exgirlfriend....you can share with me your thoughts of how i may have done well or poorly on a given day. Well, my story follows: We broke up officially on October 16, 2004. She moved out of our apartment at the end of September. She told me about her plans to move out on August 1, 2004. She said the reasons for moving out were: 1. we were having issues that seemed to get out of control since May and could not take a chance of signing a new contract to live with me while she attended a one year accelerated nursing program at Rush in Chicago, because if we could not…

OK. I'm sorry to sound so lame (i hate it) but things are just happening too much too soon. I know I should have stayed the course of nonchalance but i said F it, i'll get it out of my system and then go clean after this. I'll learn what i can and then deal with the reality so i can move on... i think before i can nonchalantly live my life and move on, i needed to get things out of my chest once and for all. I can give more info on this later since i'm a bit too upset but here it goes... again people, i'm sorry i dont meant to make this lengthy but i was hoping to get a feel of what u folks thought... i promise i'll try to keep it brief and only type what i remember...…

Most of you will be familiar with the horrible dreams and nightmares associated with a breakup. 3 months ago I separated from my wife. It was her decision. The separation anxiety has been brutal to say the least...! Due to my previous experiences I managed to avoid the begging and pleading stage and just took my stuff and went. The instant NC had the desired effect and she started contacting me within days... Words were said like "I miss you. I'm lonely. Maybe we can go on some dates. Maybe we can work it out...etc" This broke down my boundaries and I fell for it hook, line and sinker. So I've spent the last 3 months being there for her, supportin…