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I just bumped into the partner of a person I worked with a couple of years ago, who ended up being reprehensibly awful to me. Thinking about that lead to me thinking about how so much time has past I’m not angry like I was. Then I remembered how that job was the last minute job on top of many other jobs that meant I was really worked off my feet at that point in time and not giving my rats much attention and not getting done this tedious administrative task that a client kept asking for (that I had already done once and posted and the useless post system lost my mail instead of delivering it). Lead to me remembering that within a very close time frame from the encounter w…

Hi all! I've recently reconnected with a girl I'd had couple of dates with several years ago (things ended nowhere then because of her being just broken up with and still living with her bf at the time). I had a 2-year relationship in the meantime which ended couple of months ago. Initially she seemed surprised to hear from me but after a little bit of texting back and forth we agreed on a date at a restaurant for Sunday evening. 1st date went great. We talked (70-80% of the talking was hers) and laughed a lot. We both seemed to enjoy each other's company and mentioned that we should see each other for a little hike in the mountain sometime soon. I texted her the nex…

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. We have an amazing connection, have lots of fun, talk, are best friends, and just love each other very much. She told me on our 2nd date that she was diagnosed Bipolar 1, and had episodes in her past (about 3) and doing ECT. After about 8 months, she stopped the ECT and went off her meds. She still saw a therapist and her psychiatrist regularly. Things were still going well, she's naturally extroverted and very outgoing so sometimes it's harder to make the distinction of when her mood is elevated. About a month ago, while I was out of town, she had an episode and was hospitalized for 4 days. Since then, I'm real…

So, I have been going back and forth in my head for almost 2 months about this. I have built this up to be quite scary.. and it kinda was.. But I did it. ( Giving myself a slight pat on the back for my bravery..go me! ) But I am still feeling a lot of emotions. Back story: Two men ( me 41 and him 39 ). Started dating in February of this year. He had just had his newborn baby girl born via surrogacy, 2 months prior. I had come back to Canada because of the pandemic, after living in Asia for 5 years. I never intended to stay in Canada permanently, but got stuck here due to Covid. And then we met... In the beginning it was like one big happy family. …

So, three weeks ago, I ordered a product from Amazon and forget to change the shipping address, so my product was shipped to my daughter's address (she lives 3 1/2 hours away). I called her that morning and explained the situation. I asked her if she could ship my package to my home and I would reimburse her for shipping costs. She happily agreed and told me it wasn't a problem. As our conversation continued and she told me that she would be going to court to obtain full custody of her daughter. Then she asked me if I could come and be with her for support. I told her to let me know when it is and I would be there if it was possible. I actually said, "I will do my best." …

Hey there.. Wishing everyone well and thank you so much in advance for any reply! So how do I start.. 3,5 years ago I started dating a guy but we broke 1,5 years ago because of the fights. I was hurt but he kept saying that if we stop fighting then we might have a chance again. It was humiliating but since then that's what I've been trying to do - be a good girl and fight less because I was still in love with him and wanted to get back together. But no matter how little we fought, whenever I came to him asking to take me back it never was good enough, he wanted no fighting whatsoever, so each time I got hurt and snapped and it started all over again. But for some mo…

Hi Everyone, I am a 30 year old guy, in a relationship with a girl the same age as me. We have been together for 3 years now. Everything is great and we are currently looking at buying a house together. I'm worried that we have differing opinions about marriage. I have never wanted to get married. I have always made this clear. She has always been kind of wishy-washy about it and I didn't think it was a big deal, until a couple of times recently that she has made comments about wanting to get married. I've explained to her that I don't really understand the concept of a marriage. IMO, I don't see the point in spending tens of thousands on a wedding …

Hello ENA people, I feel the need to ask this here because I'm sure some of you can help me figure out this minor problem. Our dog is a small breed, some kind of terrier mix, he is adorable and very very sweet - good with all our kids, thinks our baby is his baby. I thought a smaller dog would have more anxiety with kids, but it doesn't seem to be that bad. Sometimes he does shake when around our daughter, but I think it's because they've had bad experiences as per below: I seem to suck at training him not to jump on the couch too fast. I want him to be able to sit there with all of us, but I don't allow him to anymore because he can't seem to slow dow…

So he kept saying I’m going to marry you one day. Then last night he says I didn’t mean really marry you just that is to show you I’m really committed. Mentions that why would we get married at this age 50 again. Holy mixed up now

Well I have stopped drinking for a while after failing at moderation. I admit it sucks and i am really struggling right now. Was trying to persuade my husband to let me try moderating again and also trying to persuade myself 'it will be different this time'. I am getting help but feel sometimes it is not enough. I have a lovely daughter and husband so why risk it all just for a bottle? I try to tell myself i am not experiencing psychological cravings but know I am. I do not have any physical ones I just pray this gets easier. Even with help it is a struggle 😞

So I got a text out of the blue last week from a girl I had flirted with at this party 3 weeks ago. After 2-3 exchanges I set a date and we went out last Wednesday. Thought it went quite well, good laugh, good conversations, banter, etc... and then 30 mins when I got home I got a text from her thanking me for the great evening and hoping I enjoyed it too. Honestly, nothing made it seem she would fall off the face of the world. A couple days or so later (yesterday) I sent her a text asking when she was likely to be free next week... no answer. I haven't sent anything else. I guess I completely misundertood this.

What do you do if your messages have been consistently seen zoned? I stopped sending message to this a certain guy and act chill even though he is ignoring me. I stopped for self-respect. I even uninstalled my Messenger. But honestly, it hurts inside. I have been crying only for this. Am I being childish ? I tried to keep myself per-occupied at work to move on but it really hurts. I don’t know why I feel fragile lately. Sorry, I really feel sad and I don’t feel opening up this to my friends and family. They are always busy. I want to move on. I believe that I have not done something wrong. Perhaps, it’s definitely better to distance myself from hi…

Hey all. In March 2020 a relationship I was in ended. It rocked me so bad I took counseling, medication and regularly called support groups etc. Eventually I got into another relationship which unfortunately ended after 6 months. Since then I've dated one other person. I know I've always still held feelings for this ex but since we have had no contact since we split it's kind of become easier as time moves on. I hadn't even seen her around town or anything since we split and then 2 weeks ago she walked past (she didnt happen to see me through pure luck) Then earlier this week I saw her on a dating site, still looking as stunning as I think she is. Loo…

I posted a few weeks ago about the issues i was having with my boyfriend about communication and him going 17+ hours at a time without responding to messages which was something he wasn’t doing at the beginning of the relationship. We managed to resolve this issue of non communication for the past 3 weeks. Fast forward to this week, he started doing the same thing except it was worse , it started on Saturday where i would call and text and he would literally not call back and the texts were being responded to every 24 hours. I know he has been stressed with work and other things, but I felt like I should be someone he leaned on and not someone he ignored especially after …

Hello everyone, I'm looking for some advice as I've never encountered this situation so I'm unsure what to think of it. I met a guy and we have gone out a few times. On the second date we shared our first kiss and he immediately proceeded to appreciate my butt. By I appreciate I mean not only giving me compliments on how good it looks but also touching it. He even put his hand down my pants to caress it. On our third date while I was putting something in the car he immediately proceeded to stand behind me so that his member was touching my butt. He didn't do anything else other than stand behind me so that he could feel my butt touching him. It just feels weird when …

I met this guy playing beer pong at a college party 2 years ago. We immediately hit it off and he came home with me that night. Over the next few weeks we continued to hook up and I caught MAJOR feelings. Everything seemed to be there with him- looks, sense of humor, intelligence, shared interests, very similar career goals, religion, politics, etc. So I asked him out on a real date but he said he wasn't looking for a relationship at the time. Fast forward 2 years later: I've graduated college and he's still in school. We've been DMing each other on twitter every now and again. He tells me all the time how much he loves my tweets. We recently hung out in my college town a…

She is about 20-21 y/o. I am 27 y/o. she is now single. Basically, I tried to contact my neighbours grand-daughter through her Instagram account (I wanted to wait until she came over, but she is never there). Tbh I thought *** it, why not? I sent a DM (with my intentions) with a follow request and she declined the request (though I later came to find out she was in a relationship, when she declined). Not long after sending the DM her presence around my neighbours has increased a lot over the past 6 months. My neighbours house is attached to mine, so we are like toe-toe. About 1 month after sending the DM she has been out on the neighbours drive standing alone…

A little background: during the whole pandemic I ended up meeting someone through a bunch of church zoom calls last year that I got to know through text and phone calls. I'll finally get to meet her in person soon at a church convention and I am not sure how to approach the situation. I really like her and I want to get to know her on a higher level. I know we haven't met in person yet so it may be a little premature but I want to let her know that my intention to meeting her is to see if there is mutual interest. I tried testing the waters by messaging her that I was looking forward to finally meeting her and she replied by saying that she's looking forward to seeing…

So, I decided I’d come on here and just get some advice on how to deal with my gfs mood swings. Most of the time I can deal with her and I just give her space for a couple days, her mood swings vary month by month, example last month she was okay and still the same bubbly personality great! But this month she completely different, dosent want to talk at all, I told her if someone was up she could talk to me.. she didn’t want to which is fine by me. I just want some advice or just some confirmation I’m doing the right thing? I know us men don’t fully grasp women’s mood swings and struggle to know why they even happen. Any comments are appreciated.

I had been dating a guy (let's call him ex date) for 2 months, I stopped having feelings & sexual attraction for him so I broke it off, but we were still good friends. Shortly after that I started developing a romantic connection with an online friend (over text) and we were planning to meet. I told him that I wouldn't sleep with anyone until we met, which would be in less than a month. Two weeks after the break with ex date, and a day after I made that promise, I got extremely drunk at a small get together my roommate had. One of the guests was sending live and my ex date viewed it, he saw and heard that I was drunk off my face, that I walked in to a wall etc. a…

(25-29) I had this message exchange with this guy I'm seeing for some time, we are sort of dating and slept together: Him: Im going to a standup comedy show with a friend of mine im the evening. I am free afterwards. Around 10-11 probably Me: Awesome! Call me if u want once you're done, we can meet in the centre and go at this party or somewhere else for drinks. Him: Gooood Me: see you later! He hasn't called me yet neither texted. Mind that we met two days ago and he told me I love you (we see each other about a month).

Hello I know It's been a long time until I have locked in, it's been two years. I really try to fight my own battles & I never stopped growing ever since those two years. As a matter of fact, I haven't stopped my personal growth ever since 2015 where I started my Bachelors in Sports Science. I never took a single break ever since 2016 up until now 2021. I have finished my Bachelors in the exact time, only for coronavirus to cancel all my plans ( I know I'm not alone on this one). But I was working multiple angles at the same time when I was in university. Doing martial arts & also doing my sports science degree, only to find out that I wouldn't land a de…

Hi, I don't have a particular question or anything particular I am seeking advise on. But I need to rant somewhere and write things down / discuss things with others to process my very recent break up because it really keeps hurting. I'm sorry this is long, it took a few paragraphs to explain things 😕 I had been dating J for the last 10 months. We met online on a dating app, went out and we both liked each other so we kept dating. After about two months, he told me that he was looking for a relationship and I told him I wanted to same. A couple months after that, we decided to be in a relationship officially. According to our last discussion, we were both a bit…

So my girlfriend of about 1.5 years (37yo and I'm 35) was supposed to move in at the end of the month, but she started acting a bit distant around conversations about it. I asked her if she wasn't planning to move in anymore and she said "I'm thinking about it." When I asked why she said "I don't know really" and was really dismissive like it wasn't a big deal (this is only two weeks before I was expecting her). So I let it rest for 24 hours and brought it up the next day letting her know how I felt about it and she didn't understand why I would be upset and I said "because it kind of feels like you're tying up loose ends." She went off about "I feel like we're jus…

I am 38. She is 35. We dated for 3.5 years. We had a wonderful relationship. I was ready to marry her after 18 months. I know sometimes she felt the same way, but other times she would tell me she was not sure and she thought something was wrong with her. I would always tell her “If you never get to the same place as me, that is OK, I just want you to be happy”. After 3 years, that really started to make me feel insecure about the relationship. I can see that now after a few months apart. Last 5 months of our relationship she wanted to attend pre-marital counseling. We went to 3 sessions and that was it. She called me 2 months ago and said “I do not see a …