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My 5 month GF broke up with me suddenly 4 weeks ago, and 2 weeks ago she reached out and we moved pretty fast and were with each other 10 days until Wednesday. Thursday I tried reaching out because I wanted to see her again and she said things were moving pretty fast and she needs time to think. Today she reached out and wanted to meet for a drink. I felt a breakup coming because she said she wants to talk about us and to meet her at a nice bar instead of me picking her up on the way and for me to be mentally prepared. She basically said how a lot of my behavior made her feel uncared for and that we are two different people and doesn't think she could be with someone…

My partner(M, 24) is the jealous-codependent type who can get annoyed/upset by small things, but he gets over it pretty soon. I(F,27) always am next to him in such moments, trying to comfort him and giving explanations. On the other side I’m also jealous-codependent type and i can get upset about small things he calls absurd. In such situations he gets quite angry and annoyed on the fact that I am upset, we usually start a fight or he gets upset too and sometimes scream at me on the phone, arguing that my reason is absurd and that why do I expect him to comfort me. He sais that he gets over things quickly and that I don’t do the same, so why do I require him to…

So my ex and I split up almost a year ago after a 3 year long distance relationship. Although it ended due to not seeing eye to eye on certain things and the distance, it was still a very beautiful relationship and I would like to say I have never formed an emotional connection like that, despite us being quite different people on paper. Fast forward to this summer I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months and we’ve been on maybe 8 dates but haven’t been intimate and initially I was really into it cause we seem to be a good match, but in between our dates I don’t feel a very deep connection when we are apart and speaking on the phone. A part of me feels maybe i…

I never expected my daughter to still be here as she so animatedly expressed to me many times that she would be out as soon as she was 18. But here, she just turned 20. She goes to college, does not contribute to the house through either chores consistently or rent and she does not work. We bicker a lot and I can't help but believe it is time for her to grow up. How do I make this happen??? I feel inadequate as a parent because things haven't worked out as she hasn't matured along with her peers...... I encouraged her and helped her write a resume. Bought books explaining adulting and leases, etc.... What can I do???

I just don’t know what to do. I’ve been with my girlfriend for over two years now, but nothing feels great anymore. It started in April or May or so of this year when she told me one of my harmless interests made her uncomfortable, myself resorting to public forums in order to talk about the thing I was interested in. It wasn’t anything jarring, just a game I liked. She wasn’t willing to explain to me why it made her uncomfortable, but I respected her decision and simply didn’t discuss it around her. I realized after finding more friends irl and online that I stopped talking to her as much every day, with myself dropping my position as the usual first good morning te…

only been talking for a month. somehow the subject of kids came up. if it matters, shes 22, im 32. she wants kids, i do not. we never know our future, anything can happen. but i cannot promise her i will want kids some day. so she knows she has to make a decision. ive tried to talk to her about it, but i dont think she likes that i bring it up. she asks why do i remind her. i feel like i need her to decide before she develops any feelings. but i cant force her, or make the decision for her. im not expecting, or asking her to give up having children to be with me. were only a month in, we barely know each other. i dont want to invest in someone who might lea…

I have been with my partner for 9 years. Prior to dating he was my best friend, practically family. His parents went to highschool with my uncle and have been friends ever since, so we’ve basically known each other our whole lives. When we started dating it was difficult for people (our family’s) to get behind us, just because we were like family and ...sometimes relationships don’t end well. We started dating when I was 17 and he was 19. He pursued me, really courted me came to every play and soccer game; was always there if I needed him. We told each other everything. We finally admitted we had feelings for each other and it was; amazing. And then he went away to c…

I was on a team of three, contracted on an hourly basis to do live sound work. 120 hours a month split even between us on average. Management felt nervous having no back up contractors inducted who could fill in if needed so one more was added. He only gets hours when everyone is busy. Then we got a new manager. Now there’s two of them supposedly equal in rank and power. She does the rosters and she employed two friends from uni to expand our crew and now they are regular fixtures on the roster. For the month coming I can’t complain, I’ve got my 40 hours. But I can see 20 hours have gone to her friends and I’m finding myself a demoralised that whatever extra hou…

It's almost 2 years since my boyfriend and I have been dating. It has not always been an easy road, as with any relationship out there. For the past 3 months or so, he has been pretty busy helping his Dad out with some home construction. We don't live together, so it's not like I see him everyday, though we make an effort to talk almost every night. Some nights he's tired and some nights I fall asleep before he even calls because I work a full time job. I've mentioned that I'd like to meet with him multiple times, even if for a movie date or like a day where I visit him but he doesn't seem to want that to happen. It must be him just being focused on finishing his work at …

I've had relationships with some ##holes the last two years and now I'm trying to get back into track but don't know what I should do in order to speed up the process. I do exercise and eat healthy and most of the time I'm busy studying for the uni courses but a bit difficult to deal with. So far, I've tried changing my phone number, cutting-off all the ways that could connect me to those frustrating, toxic people, doing regular exercises and having various activities. But I feel I need to change something as the last stage of removing everything from my mind and I can't figure it out. I've improved a lot since the last time I'd been here and appreci…

I posted on here last week about how my ex is mad that I hooked up with this guy after we broke up. I broke up with my ex at the end of July. I hooked up with this guy Henry over the Labor Day weekend last month. Henry is the brother of one of my closest friends so he’s someone I’ve known for years even before we hooked up. He has told me he’d like to see me again sometime and I explained to him that I was still processing my breakup from a relationship that lasted nearly four years. We’ve been in contact for the last month plus since we hooked up. Texting and talking on the phone. I’ve been thinking of him quite a lot. Outside of the fact that he’s ridiculousl…

have been seeing a guy for 2 months we got along so good we are perfect together but he doesn't want a relationship with me he has told me from the start he just got out of a 20-year relationship which he cheated on her for 20 years because he says he did it because she was not intimate with him but he tells me that he has changed that he never wants to hurt any other women as he hurt her, I don't trust him 100 percent we care about each other a lot but he said we need to split up so that he can get over his ex and that I also need to work on myself. I understand that he needs to get over his ex. But I am ready to be in a relationship I have been single for 7 years I do…

Hi everyone, I have a few things that are nagging me in my relationship and would greatly appreciate your views/opinions. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, we don’t currently live together but I do spend every night at hers pretty much. Ever since we got together it’s always felt like whenever I suggest doing something with my family she feels as if it’s a chore, for example whenever I go out to visit my immediate family she’ll encourage me to be as quick as possible and very rarely comes with me even though I invite her every time. However when the tables are turned she expects me to attend all her family events and gets very agitated if I were to sug…

My current boyfriend and I (same sex relationship) have been staying together for about three months now. We're very deep in the relationship but I can see that he expresses discontent when I ask for small things. We stumbled upon an Ice-cream store about a few meters away from our home and I've kind of become obsessed with their ice-cream. Over the past three weeks I ask for Ice-cream most days and he willingly gets it for me but in the most recent week whenever I ask for it he make weird remarks or tells me I can't have ice-cream everyday. It might seem like a small situation but it blew up out of control yesterday when i asked again after a couple of days of not having…

So I have a fiancé and two sons from a previous marriage in my life until recently. Her and I have been together for 6 years. She has been a bigger part of my son’s lives then their mother since she and I started dating. One of my sons just contracted HSV1 March of this year. Not sure the hows or who’s. When he found out, he was dating a girl. He told her and it was hard but they are still together 6 months later. This girl may be his only chance at happily ever after and kids. They were both going to join the military and go out and see the world. My son asked if she could move in, be workout partners, and join when they were ready. I said yes not thinking to ask my fian…

This probably comes naturally to most people but I don’t know how to balance my relationships with work, study etc. When I’m dating someone I tend to be deeply invested and make it a priority. Don’t get me wrong I do work and study obviously but I just need tips on how to balance these things better. I feel like I can do a better job of balancing my personal needs, work/study as well my relationship. Honestly not just in this particular situation but I feel like I truly need to work on balance, I feel like I’m either focused on this or the other even in other situations. That is I have the tendency to want to pause on one to do the other one effectively. Does this make se…

My boyfriend and I are about to hit 1 year in 2 weeks and I haven't introduced him to my family yet. A the beginning of our relationship, he was moving very quickly, within 1 month he asked to meet my family and I felt it was too soon for me. I feel introducing a boyfriend to my family is a big step and I vocalized that and we have had problems regarding this ever since. In between then and now we have had several breakups that have been really painful for both of us. He was calling me names and criticizing me, putting me down and it seriously affected my self-esteem and self. My parents were both there to hear me cry daily and struggle and as a result they both disapprov…

We live about 3 hours away from each other. We met over a year ago, had a great time for 3 months then she ghosted me. Well in July she got back in touch out of no where and said she missed me and apologized for ghosting me. Told me she was going through some tough times and did not mean to ghost me but could not put any effort towards me and that she regretted doing that as she really likes me a lot and has thought about me all this time. So we start back up communications, things are really good, like before. Great rapport, get along great. I unfortunately can't go visit her then due to lots o things going on and could not get away, …

My bf and I are in a poly relationship. I’m not a jealous person but sometimes I get overwhelmed with how many times he falls in love with another woman. It’s a pretty long list of women at this point. It’s emotionally exhausting to be honest. I don’t fall in love with other people easily but I have and he’s pretty ok with it. He’s a very loving person. I understand that being poly can be limitless but I feel so overwhelmed because I feel like I get the brunt end of all his emotions?According to him, I’m his “primary lover” emotionally and sexually. But he has never said to me that he wanted to marry me. He will say, however, “I could marry her but I could marry her! But …

I have messaged on here before about my ex and appreciate your comments and views on my situation. My ex is part of a social group that we both belong to so it has been really hard for me to move on and heal as i have to see him. I am an organiser in this group and i arrange social events to which he the books onto, which as part of the group he is allowed to do. I have been trying very hard to accomodate this and be civil but he has been begging me for forgiveness and saying that he is sorry and can we try again. I have thought hard about this but everytime i trust him a little something will change and he reverts to type. The last time he said he didnt like me stro…

Me and my boyfriend of 4 years broke up 2 weeks ago. He lied to me about a certain girl who has been so close to him to the point of sending him romantic texts. Turns out she is his ex and he didn't want me to know even when I asked. After finding out, I asked him to call her infront of me and tell her to stop flirting because he has a girlfriend and he refused. I was so hurt considering that we have been together for so long and I lost my sister last month so I was very emotional. I even had a breakdown at the office. I decided to let him go but I didn't want to feel the pain. I quickly had a rebound, a guy next door, and he says he wants me to be his girlfri…

There is a guy I'm dating since 3-4 months. We see each other regularly and we are already intimate. However there is one issue. He says that I need to be more open and I have to talk more with him. When we see each other we talk about a lot of things but they are all stuff that happened to me or him during the time that we hadn't been together. He is saying that we need to be having deeper conversations and I totally agree with that. He always asks me if there is anything bothering me and if I have any issues. He wants me to share anything that is bothering me about our relationship without him having to ask. I'm honestly trying to do that but it lo…

So I'll just keep things brief and get to the point: I've recently met this girl that I really like, but I just learned that she's only 19 years old. That honestly seems problematic to me, a 25 year old who's 26th birthday is less than a month away. I'm not so much concerned about the actual age gap as I am the differing ages themselves. I believe that a 7 year age gap isn't too much of a problem depending on the actual ages, (34 and 27 years old, for example, doesn't seem bad to me) but 26 and 19 does understandably come off as a bit eyebrow-raising, in my opinion. What do you think?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year but we’re long-distance and only met 3 times. It’s been rough because he has bipolar disorder and depression and emotionally it was a lot for me at times, even though I try to help him as much as I can. He has been toxic in the past but he’s slowly changing too. He loves me a lot, is really loyal, and goes the extra mile. The problem is he’s very introverted and doesn’t have any friends really, and that’s been bothering me for a long time. I like to go out and hang with friends, but he’s so against it. I can’t even go out any weekend in college because he wants me to stay home all the time. I feel like I’m missing out o…

So I am in need of advice as I have felt very low about this boy that I briefly dated. We met on tinder and after a few weeks of talking online we met up and slept together. At this point when I met him I wasn't looking for anything specific including a relationship and was very open to casual fun but I have practically fell in love on first sight. I was not expecting for a guy that I met on my tinder to be exactly my type in every way possible and the way he made me feel when I was him was not something I have felt in a very long time. After we met to my surprise he continued to text me everyday all day. I guess because I have met a lot of guys from tinder I jus…