I cant get her off my brain...

JTS · 10-14-2004, 02:49 PM

Okay here is the deal short version of my situation.
1.Gf and I broke up in May because she didnt want a bf and wanted to be free, but insists that she is still in love with me and still considers me her man.

2. After hooking up a few times after the breakup, she goes back home for the summer.( From midwest to west coast.)

3.Talk first month of summer as if we are still going out, I love yous, I miss yous, talking about future.

4. I bring up if we are getting back together and it "scares" her.

5.Suggest that we dont talk for awhile because we are still in love but she says she owes it to herslef to be single for awhile. She is upset and says that she doesnt want me to fall in love with anyone else.

6. After about 3 weeks she starts im and calling saying she is sorry she is breaking the rules but she still loves and misses me.

7. Asks if I had been with anyone intimately and I said yes. She is devistated and a change has come over her.

8. Start talking every day but she is still hung up on the fact I got with someone else.

9. After 3 weeks she stops returing my phone calls. For about 3 weeks dont here from her until she comes back to school. Her things were at my apt and she came to pick them up.

10. Acted like nothing was wrong, Said she didnt call back because she knew it she wouldnt be happy if she was with me "This year."

11. Blew me off a couple of times when we were supposed to meet up.

12. Saw her randomly two nights at a bar. Ended up hooking up the second night.

13. Saw me out the next weekend got upset that I was all over other girls;but apologized.

14. Didnt talk for about a month and called me twice. Finally got back to her, and talked. She said she "wanted to see if I was doing alright," and she still cares about and misses me. I told her I was great and things were good. We got off the phone with a "take care.'
The pone co coversation was last week now I cant stop thinking about her. I was good up until then now she is on my brain. I want her back so badly because I know we are perfect for eachother but I cant force her to be with me so How do I move on and prevent this relapse again.
I have seen her friend all over and I know they tell her that they saw me and talked and She must be thinking about me or she wouldnt have called. I went through an Identical situation and I was on her end. After awhile I realized that I would rather be with that person.Is she realizing this now.P.S I have dated other girls but I cant stop comparing them to her and it ruins the relationships. What do I do?

cassiana · 10-14-2004, 03:43 PM

You cannot wait for her, you must move on. You must decide fully to move on. She may or may not come back to you but you cannot focus on that. You must make up your mind to leave limbo and move on. Easier said then done but youll go bonkers otherwise.

10-14-2004, 02:49 PM	#1
JTS Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Chicago Age: 26 Posts: 53	I cant get her off my brain... Okay here is the deal short version of my situation. 1.Gf and I broke up in May because she didnt want a bf and wanted to be free, but insists that she is still in love with me and still considers me her man. 2. After hooking up a few times after the breakup, she goes back home for the summer.( From midwest to west coast.) 3.Talk first month of summer as if we are still going out, I love yous, I miss yous, talking about future. 4. I bring up if we are getting back together and it "scares" her. 5.Suggest that we dont talk for awhile because we are still in love but she says she owes it to herslef to be single for awhile. She is upset and says that she doesnt want me to fall in love with anyone else. 6. After about 3 weeks she starts im and calling saying she is sorry she is breaking the rules but she still loves and misses me. 7. Asks if I had been with anyone intimately and I said yes. She is devistated and a change has come over her. 8. Start talking every day but she is still hung up on the fact I got with someone else. 9. After 3 weeks she stops returing my phone calls. For about 3 weeks dont here from her until she comes back to school. Her things were at my apt and she came to pick them up. 10. Acted like nothing was wrong, Said she didnt call back because she knew it she wouldnt be happy if she was with me "This year." 11. Blew me off a couple of times when we were supposed to meet up. 12. Saw her randomly two nights at a bar. Ended up hooking up the second night. 13. Saw me out the next weekend got upset that I was all over other girls;but apologized. 14. Didnt talk for about a month and called me twice. Finally got back to her, and talked. She said she "wanted to see if I was doing alright," and she still cares about and misses me. I told her I was great and things were good. We got off the phone with a "take care.' The pone co coversation was last week now I cant stop thinking about her. I was good up until then now she is on my brain. I want her back so badly because I know we are perfect for eachother but I cant force her to be with me so How do I move on and prevent this relapse again. I have seen her friend all over and I know they tell her that they saw me and talked and She must be thinking about me or she wouldnt have called. I went through an Identical situation and I was on her end. After awhile I realized that I would rather be with that person.Is she realizing this now.P.S I have dated other girls but I cant stop comparing them to her and it ruins the relationships. What do I do?

10-14-2004, 03:43 PM	#2
cassiana Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2004 Age: 40 Posts: 720	You cannot wait for her, you must move on. You must decide fully to move on. She may or may not come back to you but you cannot focus on that. You must make up your mind to leave limbo and move on. Easier said then done but youll go bonkers otherwise.