this just plain make me sick!!!!!!!!

sasha12 · 10-13-2004, 09:18 AM

Women that date married men make me sick! Woman that find it challenging to date a married man make me sicker !!!! Apparently you women have never had your husband taken away from you or were stuck to raise your children alone because your husband has left you for another woman. Do you know what it's like to raise children up without a father or sleep alone at night because there is no longer anyone their to protect you or your family because some women thought it was challenging to take your husband away! If a maan has a ring on his finger it means hands off and if he says he is married it means double hands off.

OceanEyes · 10-13-2004, 09:36 AM

I agree with you Sasha, it causes a lot of pain that the women who date married men never see or hear about. It's sad that some women think it's okay to do this.

antzca2000 · 10-13-2004, 09:39 AM

dmmnnnnnn straight

sankin · 10-13-2004, 09:43 AM

I agree. there is no sence in a girl going out with a married man. But everyone needs to realize that the world is changing now. everything is different from the way it used to be. Anyway I'm getting off the subject, I totally dissagree with that.

lil_unique_me · 10-13-2004, 09:55 AM

i really do agree with you. but the sad fact is that not many people actually feel the same way as we do. there are girls that just go after married men. so sasha i take it you speak from persoanl experience. u wann talk about it and maybe we can all help? up to you
Catie xxx

EYESWIDESHUT · 10-13-2004, 09:58 AM

It is completely wrong for a woman to try to seduce a married man, but at the same time it is wrong for the married man to let himself be seduced! If he lets himself fall for the other woman and leaves his family, then there is a bigger problem. He doesn't deserve to be with his loving family anymore.

ayekasong · 10-13-2004, 10:42 AM

I agree as well. I would not be able to deal with the fact that I was contributing to the break up of a family. It's wrong for the cheater to cheat, and wrong for the man or woman to seduce the married man/woman. A ring on the finger means hands off.

casado001 · 10-13-2004, 11:03 AM

so hold tight to your man. Men just need a little attention, to feel special, just like women does. Make love to your man, if he is worthy, but there is no way the guy will go away if he feels that he is needed and special.

Call me weird.

A friend.

Day_Walker · 10-13-2004, 11:20 AM

You have obviously been hurt. I am going to ask a question that you normally wont find from anyone here. Why did you allow your man to be stolen away from you? Men are only human and can only take so much, when women start denying men sex for a long enough period (or it could be a short period for certain men) eventually they will look for it else where. There are can also be other reasons why a married man will be more open to the idea of seeing a female while he is married. Most of the time cheating is a reaction to some problem in the relationship, if one or both parties arent willing to work out the problem then cheating is the result. Another common problem with people in the cheating situation is that they place the largest amount of blame on the person their siginificant other is cheating with, this doesnt make any sense because you should be mad at your sig other (this situation seems like that). Cheating will happen when people choose to be reactive instead of proactive in your relationship. I cannot/ will not feel remorse for a person who was cheated (just cuz they are emotional) because in most cases the cheating could have been prevented.

dreamweaverdude · 10-13-2004, 11:51 AM

I don't want to just say I agree with Day_walker but i some respects I do.

Let me say this, as a married man of 20+ years, who is fed up with it all.

There are times in a relationship when lets face it, one or both persons can and does take the other side for granted, for whatever reason. Maybe it is a lack of imagination, maybe it is in the safety of the security that the other provides, and you get all nestled into this comfort zone and before you realize it, the security blanket you had isn't as secure as you thought.

I'm not making excuses and ever saying it is RIGHT. If a man is so unhappy or a woman for that matter that they feel the need to 'cheat', then there are issues there more than just the cheating that need to be dealt with.

I'm at that stage, even though I've never physically been with anyone other than my wife, i've spent the 15 years of a 20 year marriage in a what i will call a 'hostage' situation. My wife uses my personality against me to control communications and uses the bedroom to manipulate me to 'get her way'. WRONG!

I said all of that to say this, is it wrong... YES

BUT in the same breathe, a partner should truly evaluate the situation and see why the other half ventured out. Why did he venture out? Was he simply inticed beyond his control, or was he already 'looking'? Why was he looking?

These are things that need to be addressed before you can totally lay the blame at the foot of your partner!

10-13-2004, 09:18 AM	#1
sasha12 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: detroit Age: 38 Posts: 380	this just plain make me sick!!!!!!!! Women that date married men make me sick! Woman that find it challenging to date a married man make me sicker !!!! Apparently you women have never had your husband taken away from you or were stuck to raise your children alone because your husband has left you for another woman. Do you know what it's like to raise children up without a father or sleep alone at night because there is no longer anyone their to protect you or your family because some women thought it was challenging to take your husband away! If a maan has a ring on his finger it means hands off and if he says he is married it means double hands off.

10-13-2004, 09:36 AM	#2
OceanEyes Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 1,883	I agree with you Sasha, it causes a lot of pain that the women who date married men never see or hear about. It's sad that some women think it's okay to do this. __________________ There is no map to human behaviour. - Bjork

10-13-2004, 09:43 AM	#4
sankin Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: South carolina Posts: 64	yes I agree. there is no sence in a girl going out with a married man. But everyone needs to realize that the world is changing now. everything is different from the way it used to be. Anyway I'm getting off the subject, I totally dissagree with that. __________________ I'm just a hopeless romantic, what can I say.

10-13-2004, 09:55 AM	#5
lil_unique_me Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: some where over the rainbow Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 320	totally i really do agree with you. but the sad fact is that not many people actually feel the same way as we do. there are girls that just go after married men. so sasha i take it you speak from persoanl experience. u wann talk about it and maybe we can all help? up to you Catie xxx

10-13-2004, 11:03 AM	#8
casado001 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 39 Posts: 36	It is wrong .... so hold tight to your man. Men just need a little attention, to feel special, just like women does. Make love to your man, if he is worthy, but there is no way the guy will go away if he feels that he is needed and special. Call me weird. A friend. __________________ women: Pay a little more attention to your man. Man:Pay a little more attention to your woman.

10-13-2004, 09:39 AM	#3
antzca2000 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 22 Posts: 335	dmmnnnnnn straight

10-13-2004, 09:58 AM	#6
EYESWIDESHUT Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 26 Posts: 38	It is completely wrong for a woman to try to seduce a married man, but at the same time it is wrong for the married man to let himself be seduced! If he lets himself fall for the other woman and leaves his family, then there is a bigger problem. He doesn't deserve to be with his loving family anymore.

10-13-2004, 10:42 AM	#7
ayekasong Offline Silver Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Wisconsin Age: 27 Posts: 565	I agree as well. I would not be able to deal with the fact that I was contributing to the break up of a family. It's wrong for the cheater to cheat, and wrong for the man or woman to seduce the married man/woman. A ring on the finger means hands off.

10-13-2004, 11:20 AM	#9
Day_Walker Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 4,884	You have obviously been hurt. I am going to ask a question that you normally wont find from anyone here. Why did you allow your man to be stolen away from you? Men are only human and can only take so much, when women start denying men sex for a long enough period (or it could be a short period for certain men) eventually they will look for it else where. There are can also be other reasons why a married man will be more open to the idea of seeing a female while he is married. Most of the time cheating is a reaction to some problem in the relationship, if one or both parties arent willing to work out the problem then cheating is the result. Another common problem with people in the cheating situation is that they place the largest amount of blame on the person their siginificant other is cheating with, this doesnt make any sense because you should be mad at your sig other (this situation seems like that). Cheating will happen when people choose to be reactive instead of proactive in your relationship. I cannot/ will not feel remorse for a person who was cheated (just cuz they are emotional) because in most cases the cheating could have been prevented. __________________ "A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it the superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason." Thomas Paine "The wise man questions others wisdom because he questions his own, the foolish man because it is different from his own." Leo Stein

10-13-2004, 11:51 AM	#10
dreamweaverdude Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 50 Posts: 281	I don't want to just say I agree with Day_walker but i some respects I do. Let me say this, as a married man of 20+ years, who is fed up with it all. There are times in a relationship when lets face it, one or both persons can and does take the other side for granted, for whatever reason. Maybe it is a lack of imagination, maybe it is in the safety of the security that the other provides, and you get all nestled into this comfort zone and before you realize it, the security blanket you had isn't as secure as you thought. I'm not making excuses and ever saying it is RIGHT. If a man is so unhappy or a woman for that matter that they feel the need to 'cheat', then there are issues there more than just the cheating that need to be dealt with. I'm at that stage, even though I've never physically been with anyone other than my wife, i've spent the 15 years of a 20 year marriage in a what i will call a 'hostage' situation. My wife uses my personality against me to control communications and uses the bedroom to manipulate me to 'get her way'. WRONG! I said all of that to say this, is it wrong... YES BUT in the same breathe, a partner should truly evaluate the situation and see why the other half ventured out. Why did he venture out? Was he simply inticed beyond his control, or was he already 'looking'? Why was he looking? These are things that need to be addressed before you can totally lay the blame at the foot of your partner!