Stressed out over nothing??

slw1 · 10-05-2004, 11:35 AM

I started hanging out with my ex gf again lately.I broke 2 months of NC with a birthday card and drove 200 km to see her.She was extremely happy to see me and couldnt stop thanking me.That was two weeks ago and we have seen each other a couple of times since.We get along so good and we have so much in common and she flirts a bit with me.She talks about doing things together again ( things that we had planned before we broke up).BUT she has only male friends including ex bfs and I am afraid that she see's me as just another one of her "friends".

We are going camping this weekend with other friends.She asked me to come,but one of those friends is an ex bf and she is driving him up there.I am very uncomfortable with this and dont feel like going now.I fear she views me as just another friend now.

I cant be just a friend with her because I am so much in love with her.I am practically obsessed with her,she is on my mind 24 hours a day.I dont let her see this though.

How can I tell if I am different than the other guys?

thanks

cassiana · 10-05-2004, 12:56 PM

If you want to be different from the other guys, act different from them. Do not go camping with her and her other exs. I mean what an egotrip for her. I remeber a girl I knew in college threw a party and boasted that four of her exes were there. She loved it. If you want to stand apart from the crowd do just that, stand apart. Don't let her know what you are thinking. Keep in contact and meet her on her own but dont be part of her scalp collection.

Scout · 10-05-2004, 03:23 PM

Couldn't have said it better myself. Good post, Cass!

slw1 · 10-06-2004, 03:17 PM

Here is my view of it;On our camping trips we always go cycling for very long rides (4 or 5 hours).I know when we go cycling she will be riding next to me and talking to me the whole time.She talks to me about things that she will talk to no one else about.This is the only way I can spend some time with her and I want her to remember how much fun we used to have.I also want her to see that I am not jealous of any other guys.This trip was planned with the other people and ex bf(he before I gave her the Birthday card ,she asked me after she got the card from me.

10-05-2004, 11:35 AM	#1
slw1 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Ontario Posts: 184	Stressed out over nothing?? I started hanging out with my ex gf again lately.I broke 2 months of NC with a birthday card and drove 200 km to see her.She was extremely happy to see me and couldnt stop thanking me.That was two weeks ago and we have seen each other a couple of times since.We get along so good and we have so much in common and she flirts a bit with me.She talks about doing things together again ( things that we had planned before we broke up).BUT she has only male friends including ex bfs and I am afraid that she see's me as just another one of her "friends". We are going camping this weekend with other friends.She asked me to come,but one of those friends is an ex bf and she is driving him up there.I am very uncomfortable with this and dont feel like going now.I fear she views me as just another friend now. I cant be just a friend with her because I am so much in love with her.I am practically obsessed with her,she is on my mind 24 hours a day.I dont let her see this though. How can I tell if I am different than the other guys? thanks

10-05-2004, 03:23 PM	#3
Scout Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Colorado Gender: Female Age: 40 Posts: 7,292	Couldn't have said it better myself. Good post, Cass! __________________ If your dog is fat, you're not getting enough exercise. * * * One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. - Dale Carnegie * * * Bob Ross rules! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOpF_ZGD4Ps

10-05-2004, 12:56 PM	#2
cassiana Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2004 Age: 40 Posts: 720	If you want to be different from the other guys, act different from them. Do not go camping with her and her other exs. I mean what an egotrip for her. I remeber a girl I knew in college threw a party and boasted that four of her exes were there. She loved it. If you want to stand apart from the crowd do just that, stand apart. Don't let her know what you are thinking. Keep in contact and meet her on her own but dont be part of her scalp collection.

10-06-2004, 03:17 PM	#4
slw1 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Ontario Posts: 184	Here is my view of it;On our camping trips we always go cycling for very long rides (4 or 5 hours).I know when we go cycling she will be riding next to me and talking to me the whole time.She talks to me about things that she will talk to no one else about.This is the only way I can spend some time with her and I want her to remember how much fun we used to have.I also want her to see that I am not jealous of any other guys.This trip was planned with the other people and ex bf(he before I gave her the Birthday card ,she asked me after she got the card from me.