uh oh

Mr Mister1 · 09-12-2004, 08:02 PM

I made love this morning but when I got up I found that the condom was in the bed and not on me. The chances of anything happening would be really small wouldn't they? She asked me to get a pregnancy test to be sure so I'll do that.
The other thing I'm really worried about it that she'll end up hating me for this :/

**avman** · 09-12-2004, 09:41 PM

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The chances of anything happening would be really small wouldn't they?

Hard to say. It depends on where she is in her menstrual cycle. But there is a significant chance she could get pregnant.

And why would she hate you? Did you not put the condom on at all? Or did it slip off?

Day_Walker · 09-12-2004, 10:06 PM

Instead of just getting a pregnancy test you should consider getting the morning after pill. You can easily get this from Planned Parenthood or the girls doctor. The morning after pill loses its effectiveness after 72 hours so if u pick that option there is a time constraint.

Amethyst · 09-13-2004, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Mr Mister1

The chances of anything happening would be really small wouldn't they?

You can't assume that just because it happened *one* time that nothing will come of it. It only takes one time to get pregnant, one time to get an STD, etc.. In other words, she should really see a doctor and get tested.

StarBrite · 09-13-2004, 12:52 PM

I would suggest not taking the test right away. Wait to see if she misses her period because, the hormone level will not be high enough for the test to detect whether or not she is pregnant until then. Talk to her about how she feels about the situation and if she knows when she ovulated and the chances of pregnancy. Also the what ifs of pregnancy and future intercourse and how to be more careful. Things happen, but just make sure you try to be aware and take all measures of protection and know the risks.

RayKay · 09-13-2004, 01:06 PM

As another poster mentioned, the morning after pill within 72 hours is an option.

Now, did you use condomn at all? Or did it slip off?

How long ago was her last period? Please keep in mind that while women USUALLY ovulate midcycle - this can vary. Some women even ovulate more than once per cycle! But, if it was right after/before, you might have better odds, but keep in mind also sperm can live 3-5 days (or sometimes more) inside her body - meaning they might be waiting at ovulation!

Mr Mister1 · 09-13-2004, 07:57 PM

I did use a condom yes, the issue was that when I got walked out to clean myself that I noticed it was no longer on and was on the bed. I'm not sure when it actually sliped off.

Her periods really irregular which makes it hard to tell what stage she is in.

There's been a minor issue with getting the morning after pill, she needs to be there when we get it and she'll be going back home tonight (she's here to study but lives far away). Finding the time today when she can come may be a challenge.

Thanks for all your replies everyone.

09-12-2004, 08:02 PM	#1
Mr Mister1 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 452	uh oh I made love this morning but when I got up I found that the condom was in the bed and not on me. The chances of anything happening would be really small wouldn't they? She asked me to get a pregnancy test to be sure so I'll do that. The other thing I'm really worried about it that she'll end up hating me for this :/

09-12-2004, 10:06 PM	#3
Day_Walker Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 4,884	Instead of just getting a pregnancy test you should consider getting the morning after pill. You can easily get this from Planned Parenthood or the girls doctor. The morning after pill loses its effectiveness after 72 hours so if u pick that option there is a time constraint. __________________ "A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it the superficial appearance of being right, and raises at first a formidable outcry in defense of custom. But the tumult soon subsides. Time makes more converts than reason." Thomas Paine "The wise man questions others wisdom because he questions his own, the foolish man because it is different from his own." Leo Stein

09-13-2004, 12:52 PM	#5
StarBrite Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: oHIo, USA Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 171	I would suggest not taking the test right away. Wait to see if she misses her period because, the hormone level will not be high enough for the test to detect whether or not she is pregnant until then. Talk to her about how she feels about the situation and if she knows when she ovulated and the chances of pregnancy. Also the what ifs of pregnancy and future intercourse and how to be more careful. Things happen, but just make sure you try to be aware and take all measures of protection and know the risks. __________________ "Theres only one pretty child in the world, and every mother has it" - J.C. Bridge ~Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket never let it fade away~

09-13-2004, 01:06 PM	#6
RayKay Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Middle of Canada Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 13,270	As another poster mentioned, the morning after pill within 72 hours is an option. Now, did you use condomn at all? Or did it slip off? How long ago was her last period? Please keep in mind that while women USUALLY ovulate midcycle - this can vary. Some women even ovulate more than once per cycle! But, if it was right after/before, you might have better odds, but keep in mind also sperm can live 3-5 days (or sometimes more) inside her body - meaning they might be waiting at ovulation! __________________ [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]<--- [COLOR=sienna]Carbun the Super-Bunny[/COLOR][/B][/COLOR][/FONT] [B][FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=#556b2f][/COLOR][/FONT][/B] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]At the end of the day, how you imprinted on someones life and heart is the only true mark any of us leave on this earth and is what we are most proud of... [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- My Biggest Hero and Mentor: My Mum.[/SIZE][/I] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=orange][B]Il faut d'abord durer [/B][/COLOR][/FONT][I][SIZE=1]- Ernest Hemingway[/SIZE][/I]

09-13-2004, 07:57 PM	#7
Mr Mister1 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 452	I did use a condom yes, the issue was that when I got walked out to clean myself that I noticed it was no longer on and was on the bed. I'm not sure when it actually sliped off. Her periods really irregular which makes it hard to tell what stage she is in. There's been a minor issue with getting the morning after pill, she needs to be there when we get it and she'll be going back home tonight (she's here to study but lives far away). Finding the time today when she can come may be a challenge. Thanks for all your replies everyone.