am I normal?

Nastka · 08-28-2004, 07:51 PM

This is kind of embarrasing but..
is it normal to not to like to hang out with people? I don't like it. I like being at home alone. I wasn't always like this but it changed when I moved to this country. I had to learn new language and couldn't hag out with people. When I could finally speak and understand, I found that I got used to being alone. Now I just try to find any excuses not to go anywhere.
watsup? am I normal?

PAdreamer · 08-28-2004, 08:17 PM

This is not abnormal, but it can become unhealthy for you. You don't want to cut yourself off totally, because as a human being you need interaction. It's just the way that we work. You should make an effort to try new things for a while. It's probably not that you don't like hanging out, you just haven't given yourself a chance to reacclamate. Just try it for a while and see if you can get more comfortable.

AwsomeDude · 08-28-2004, 08:44 PM

i moved to a new country where i had to build a new relations and it been a year so far, and trust me it is just 3 people that i think they r an average people and non of them is the type that i like to hang with, but still that is a thing i do just to stay in touch with the world, cause being out with no friends is just more depressing than anything else as it just tell u how pathatic the way u r livin is!

still if u dont feel comfortable, and still if u dont like to hang with people it is better to keep ur self betweeen people !
trust me in this
good luck. and take it easy
regards
Awsome Dude !

DragonSlayerX · 08-28-2004, 09:49 PM

i always been in the US but i love being alone bc no1 ever liked me for who i was so whenever iam alone i just play an online game and go wonder off to places where iam alone and happy ^^ iam always hanging out by myself and just enjoy every minute of it even if sum of it is like depressed but o well

SomeGuy112 · 08-28-2004, 10:17 PM

This will change man. I was in the same boat a lot myself. I prefered to play games at home than go out with people that I couldn't connect with. Hopefully you will find someone you can connect with soon so that you can start getting out more. And you will eventually see that people are good not bad

Nastka · 08-28-2004, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by DragonSlayerX

i always been in the US but i love being alone bc no1 ever liked me for who i was so whenever iam alone i just play an online game and go wonder off to places where iam alone and happy ^^ iam always hanging out by myself and just enjoy every minute of it even if sum of it is like depressed but o well

hey thanks. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one. Everywhere people are like "oh I hang out with my friends".

crystall · 08-28-2004, 11:14 PM

Well I experienced the same thing as you. I moved to this country about 2 years ago. Language is not a big problem to me but the difficult thing is the mantality. I had a lot of friends at first but later on I found they approached me with purposes and almost none of them are my real friends.
I cut off the connections with most of these friends gradually. Then one day I realized that I almost don't have any friends left!

Same as you I was a very socialized person before but now I realized that I am a changed person. Compare with hanging out in the clubs I prefer to stay alone at home, reading, watching movies or contact my old friends.
Sometimes I feel I lose the ability of socializing in a community somehow.

Trigve · 08-29-2004, 12:05 AM

exactly the same here. I used to be very sociable, moved, had to learn a new language, was completely changed, got used to being alone and then onto actually prefering it. A while ago my old self started to come back and now there're these two completely different sides of me. Out of nowhere I suddenly became extremely good at socializing. I rarely go out, but when I do, I could hang out with people I've met twice before like we've known each other for a decade, and we have a lot of fun, and people all seem to like me and think I'm this outgoing guy. But when I come home, I have no desire to make any contact with people or go anywhere, I'd go for weeks or even months without wanting to hang out with anybody. when ppl ask me to go places I usually wouldn't bother to go because I have no desire to, because I'm used to being alone. and of course soon they stop asking me

I don't consider myself normal, comparing to most other people, I am obviously very different. But I'm used to it and I'm fine with it, and sometimes even find something very romantic about being different. Of course there are days when the realization of lonelyness suddenly hits you like the tide, but then again life is hard no matter what kind of person you choose to be.

I haven't found my way yet. I've been fine with being alone and I'm fine with it right now and most of the time. But 10 years from now this may all change and I might wish I had done things differently.

but in any case, it's nice to know there are others like me

ddriver7 · 08-29-2004, 12:09 AM

Well, except for being from another country, i'm just like you. I'd rather be at home a lot of times than hanging out with friends. I've been that way forever! But i agree with everyone else. You don't have to go out all the time, but try to do it more often. Being around others might make you feel better in general. And its good to have someone around - you never know when you might need them. Good luck.

08-28-2004, 07:51 PM	#1
Nastka Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Virginia Age: 22 Posts: 55	am I normal? This is kind of embarrasing but.. is it normal to not to like to hang out with people? I don't like it. I like being at home alone. I wasn't always like this but it changed when I moved to this country. I had to learn new language and couldn't hag out with people. When I could finally speak and understand, I found that I got used to being alone. Now I just try to find any excuses not to go anywhere. watsup? am I normal?

08-28-2004, 08:44 PM	#3
AwsomeDude Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Dubai Age: 29 Posts: 111	Just dont let it be a way of living i moved to a new country where i had to build a new relations and it been a year so far, and trust me it is just 3 people that i think they r an average people and non of them is the type that i like to hang with, but still that is a thing i do just to stay in touch with the world, cause being out with no friends is just more depressing than anything else as it just tell u how pathatic the way u r livin is! still if u dont feel comfortable, and still if u dont like to hang with people it is better to keep ur self betweeen people ! trust me in this good luck. and take it easy regards Awsome Dude ! __________________ ToO MuCh Is NeVeR EnOugH!

08-28-2004, 08:17 PM	#2
PAdreamer Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Age: 24 Posts: 1,052	This is not abnormal, but it can become unhealthy for you. You don't want to cut yourself off totally, because as a human being you need interaction. It's just the way that we work. You should make an effort to try new things for a while. It's probably not that you don't like hanging out, you just haven't given yourself a chance to reacclamate. Just try it for a while and see if you can get more comfortable.

08-28-2004, 09:49 PM	#4
DragonSlayerX Offline Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Windurst... Age: 20 Posts: 182	i always been in the US but i love being alone bc no1 ever liked me for who i was so whenever iam alone i just play an online game and go wonder off to places where iam alone and happy ^^ iam always hanging out by myself and just enjoy every minute of it even if sum of it is like depressed but o well

08-28-2004, 10:17 PM	#5
SomeGuy112 Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Age: 21 Posts: 141	This will change man. I was in the same boat a lot myself. I prefered to play games at home than go out with people that I couldn't connect with. Hopefully you will find someone you can connect with soon so that you can start getting out more. And you will eventually see that people are good not bad

08-28-2004, 11:14 PM	#7
crystall Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 20	Well I experienced the same thing as you. I moved to this country about 2 years ago. Language is not a big problem to me but the difficult thing is the mantality. I had a lot of friends at first but later on I found they approached me with purposes and almost none of them are my real friends. I cut off the connections with most of these friends gradually. Then one day I realized that I almost don't have any friends left! Same as you I was a very socialized person before but now I realized that I am a changed person. Compare with hanging out in the clubs I prefer to stay alone at home, reading, watching movies or contact my old friends. Sometimes I feel I lose the ability of socializing in a community somehow.

08-29-2004, 12:05 AM	#8
Trigve Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 67	exactly the same here. I used to be very sociable, moved, had to learn a new language, was completely changed, got used to being alone and then onto actually prefering it. A while ago my old self started to come back and now there're these two completely different sides of me. Out of nowhere I suddenly became extremely good at socializing. I rarely go out, but when I do, I could hang out with people I've met twice before like we've known each other for a decade, and we have a lot of fun, and people all seem to like me and think I'm this outgoing guy. But when I come home, I have no desire to make any contact with people or go anywhere, I'd go for weeks or even months without wanting to hang out with anybody. when ppl ask me to go places I usually wouldn't bother to go because I have no desire to, because I'm used to being alone. and of course soon they stop asking me I don't consider myself normal, comparing to most other people, I am obviously very different. But I'm used to it and I'm fine with it, and sometimes even find something very romantic about being different. Of course there are days when the realization of lonelyness suddenly hits you like the tide, but then again life is hard no matter what kind of person you choose to be. I haven't found my way yet. I've been fine with being alone and I'm fine with it right now and most of the time. But 10 years from now this may all change and I might wish I had done things differently. but in any case, it's nice to know there are others like me

08-29-2004, 12:09 AM	#9
ddriver7 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 91	Well, except for being from another country, i'm just like you. I'd rather be at home a lot of times than hanging out with friends. I've been that way forever! But i agree with everyone else. You don't have to go out all the time, but try to do it more often. Being around others might make you feel better in general. And its good to have someone around - you never know when you might need them. Good luck.