What to do? someone please help me

monkeyshavestyle · 06-03-2004, 11:15 PM

I have had many bad realationships. The worst ended in divorce and he is still obsessed with making my life hell. I am dating this guy we don't get much time to be alone we are both parents. He is a really sweet guy and funny and oh my is he hot.. A man in a uniform if you know what i mean ladies. I think i am falling for him but don't want to cause afraid of being hurt or the ex screwing it up for me cause of his constant problems. taking me back to court and hurting my little girl by taking her around total strangers, talking bad about me and cutting her hair. I want things to work out. That is the one thing that i need in my life other than my kids.. someone to love and love me. Me and him can joke around carry on an intelligent conversation. But i am worried about my emotional baggage pushing him away cause i have alot of issues with men cause i have been hurt so many times. how can i just let the baggage go and make sure he likes me just as much as i like him. He and i are both busy people we only have some weekends and we live almost an hour apart. I want to know if it is going to work out since we don't see much of each other cause of the kids. I really think that he is a great guy but i just don't have much trust in guys. I am pretty sure he does not have much trust in women either cause he has been married twice and both women cheated on him. how do i convince him i will be and how do i convince myself that he won't hurt me.

vitalcoaching · 06-04-2004, 05:20 AM

Hi,

when you say "emotional baggage", what do you mean exactly. What is the exact thing you think would push him away?

vitalcoach

PS: if it's too personal and you don't want to share in this public topic, you can send me a private message as well

06-03-2004, 11:15 PM	#1
monkeyshavestyle Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: somewhere in a daze Age: 39 Posts: 5	What to do? someone please help me I have had many bad realationships. The worst ended in divorce and he is still obsessed with making my life hell. I am dating this guy we don't get much time to be alone we are both parents. He is a really sweet guy and funny and oh my is he hot.. A man in a uniform if you know what i mean ladies. I think i am falling for him but don't want to cause afraid of being hurt or the ex screwing it up for me cause of his constant problems. taking me back to court and hurting my little girl by taking her around total strangers, talking bad about me and cutting her hair. I want things to work out. That is the one thing that i need in my life other than my kids.. someone to love and love me. Me and him can joke around carry on an intelligent conversation. But i am worried about my emotional baggage pushing him away cause i have alot of issues with men cause i have been hurt so many times. how can i just let the baggage go and make sure he likes me just as much as i like him. He and i are both busy people we only have some weekends and we live almost an hour apart. I want to know if it is going to work out since we don't see much of each other cause of the kids. I really think that he is a great guy but i just don't have much trust in guys. I am pretty sure he does not have much trust in women either cause he has been married twice and both women cheated on him. how do i convince him i will be and how do i convince myself that he won't hurt me.

06-04-2004, 05:20 AM	#2
vitalcoaching Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: World Age: 44 Posts: 275	Hi, when you say "emotional baggage", what do you mean exactly. What is the exact thing you think would push him away? vitalcoach PS: if it's too personal and you don't want to share in this public topic, you can send me a private message as well