Love is a strange thing...

Runesoul · 06-02-2004, 11:48 PM

Well my sad story begins about a year ago when I met the girl that would become my first girlfriend. We met at summer school and flirted some and then didn't see each other for a couple months until Fish Camp (first year high school camp in the Academy which is "advanced" or whatever), then we flirted more at this point i was pretty sure we both liked each other (hoped anyways). Some point later on one of her friends contacted me on AIM and said she liked me and did I like her. After probably one of the more fun times of my life (aka. tantalizing her and drawing it out as long as possible) I admitted it. So we went out to the movies and such. I am a rather shy person when it comes to most stuff (although most people would say im not shy, so i dunno...). We never got past hand holding.. (yes.. I have never been kissed.. a sad sad thing). Mostly because I wanted and still want my first kiss to be something really special so I didn't want to date her for a few weeks and then break up. After a while of seeing her in school and club events (KEY Club if u want the specifics), I suddenly stopped liking her. To this day I still don't know why I just stopped talking to her and what not. She "broke up with me" like a week later. About four months later (wonderful timing....), I wrote her an apology letter about how I was a jerk and what not (I don't really know if I like her or not now.). It doesn't really matter because she has another bf, but at least we talk now. I am really confused as to what love is and if I love anyone... I'm a pretty technical person so I'm hard headed when it comes to love.. Any help is good.

Runesoul

amaranth_04 · 06-03-2004, 12:06 AM

Hi Runesoul,

You can't make yourself fall in love. Love does grow yes, in stages. However, sometimes you just can't feel that way about someone, even if you like them. I'm pretty sure you'll know when you're in love. You will feel it deep inside.

Maybe you found out something about this girl that you did not like; perhaps a characteristic that did not match up with what you're familiar with. It's good that you apologized esp. if she was wondering why you suddenly went cold.

Just let it be. Don't force it. Maybe you're not ready to feel a certain way. Usually if you like someone enough, and you find that you can relate to them, and you spend time getting to know each other, and just spend time being together, feelings will develop. Love will come by naturally.

06-02-2004, 11:48 PM	#1
Runesoul Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Age: 22 Posts: 34	Love is a strange thing... Well my sad story begins about a year ago when I met the girl that would become my first girlfriend. We met at summer school and flirted some and then didn't see each other for a couple months until Fish Camp (first year high school camp in the Academy which is "advanced" or whatever), then we flirted more at this point i was pretty sure we both liked each other (hoped anyways). Some point later on one of her friends contacted me on AIM and said she liked me and did I like her. After probably one of the more fun times of my life (aka. tantalizing her and drawing it out as long as possible) I admitted it. So we went out to the movies and such. I am a rather shy person when it comes to most stuff (although most people would say im not shy, so i dunno...). We never got past hand holding.. (yes.. I have never been kissed.. a sad sad thing). Mostly because I wanted and still want my first kiss to be something really special so I didn't want to date her for a few weeks and then break up. After a while of seeing her in school and club events (KEY Club if u want the specifics), I suddenly stopped liking her. To this day I still don't know why I just stopped talking to her and what not. She "broke up with me" like a week later. About four months later (wonderful timing....), I wrote her an apology letter about how I was a jerk and what not (I don't really know if I like her or not now.). It doesn't really matter because she has another bf, but at least we talk now. I am really confused as to what love is and if I love anyone... I'm a pretty technical person so I'm hard headed when it comes to love.. Any help is good. Runesoul

06-03-2004, 12:06 AM	#2
amaranth_04 Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 123	Hi Runesoul, You can't make yourself fall in love. Love does grow yes, in stages. However, sometimes you just can't feel that way about someone, even if you like them. I'm pretty sure you'll know when you're in love. You will feel it deep inside. Maybe you found out something about this girl that you did not like; perhaps a characteristic that did not match up with what you're familiar with. It's good that you apologized esp. if she was wondering why you suddenly went cold. Just let it be. Don't force it. Maybe you're not ready to feel a certain way. Usually if you like someone enough, and you find that you can relate to them, and you spend time getting to know each other, and just spend time being together, feelings will develop. Love will come by naturally. __________________ Oh! do not attack me with your watch. A watch is always too fast or too slow. I cannot be dictated to by a watch. ~ Jane Austen (1775 - 1817), Mansfield Park ~