BREAKING UP AFTER 5 YEARS...CAUSE? >>> RELIGION

cuty121 · 05-15-2004, 01:05 PM

I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. The only problem is that he's muslim and i'm hindu. I've fallen for him deeply and love him to pieces. My relationship with him has been kept a secret from my family and friends because they dissaprove of it. We know that nothing can happen in the future for us due to our beliefs. At first i just thought of him as my boyfriend. I was only 16 when i met him and never had a boyfriend. In the past i have hidden rumours about us being together (as we sneak around) but now it's come out again and my frineds are not impressed. I knw i have no future with him. I really need to get out of this relationship but just dont know how? I've tried this many times but failed as i always or he always got back together. I need a suggestion of how i can put my feelings aside and make this the end for the sake of my family..

Rage · 05-15-2004, 09:02 PM

Do you believe in a thing called ''Love''?!

abcd1234 · 05-16-2004, 08:13 AM

I must say that if you truly have feelings for him then you should not be trying to put them aside for the sake of your family. Your family should accept how you feel for him, not matter what religion he is. Why should a belief in something set you apart from the person that you care for the most?
I think that you should get back together with him and tall your family about it.

abcd1234

rp99 · 05-18-2004, 04:20 PM

Hey cuty121, I totally understand your situation as I am Hindu myself and know how family plays a BIG part in personal relationships.

I have been through what you are experiencing. My brother was dating a Bengali girl for 6 years (hiding it from parents and family), he finally decided that she was the one for him and came clean to the parents. Of course they were not happy with it at first as they wanted him to marry a Hindu girl. After awhile they realized that if they force him to end it with her and marry a Hindu girl, he will NOT be happy in the future. Needless to say, they got married and my parents could not be happier for them both, and they love her to death now.

What I'm trying to say is, at first they will no doubt be mad and will NOT understand, but you have to lay it down for them. Eventually they will understand that by forcing you to marry someone else will not be in the best interest for you or for them.

Hope this helps. Don't hesitate to email me.

05-15-2004, 01:05 PM	#1
cuty121 Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1	BREAKING UP AFTER 5 YEARS...CAUSE? >>> RELIGION I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. The only problem is that he's muslim and i'm hindu. I've fallen for him deeply and love him to pieces. My relationship with him has been kept a secret from my family and friends because they dissaprove of it. We know that nothing can happen in the future for us due to our beliefs. At first i just thought of him as my boyfriend. I was only 16 when i met him and never had a boyfriend. In the past i have hidden rumours about us being together (as we sneak around) but now it's come out again and my frineds are not impressed. I knw i have no future with him. I really need to get out of this relationship but just dont know how? I've tried this many times but failed as i always or he always got back together. I need a suggestion of how i can put my feelings aside and make this the end for the sake of my family..

05-16-2004, 08:13 AM	#3
abcd1234 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Gender: Male Posts: 1,188	I must say that if you truly have feelings for him then you should not be trying to put them aside for the sake of your family. Your family should accept how you feel for him, not matter what religion he is. Why should a belief in something set you apart from the person that you care for the most? I think that you should get back together with him and tall your family about it. abcd1234 __________________ You should have seen The curse that flew right by you Page of concrete Stained walks crutch in hobbled sway Autodafe

05-15-2004, 09:02 PM	#2
Rage Offline Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: A long way from home...... Age: 23 Posts: 185	Do you believe in a thing called ''Love''?!

05-18-2004, 04:20 PM	#4
rp99 Offline Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 3	Hey cuty121, I totally understand your situation as I am Hindu myself and know how family plays a BIG part in personal relationships. I have been through what you are experiencing. My brother was dating a Bengali girl for 6 years (hiding it from parents and family), he finally decided that she was the one for him and came clean to the parents. Of course they were not happy with it at first as they wanted him to marry a Hindu girl. After awhile they realized that if they force him to end it with her and marry a Hindu girl, he will NOT be happy in the future. Needless to say, they got married and my parents could not be happier for them both, and they love her to death now. What I'm trying to say is, at first they will no doubt be mad and will NOT understand, but you have to lay it down for them. Eventually they will understand that by forcing you to marry someone else will not be in the best interest for you or for them. Hope this helps. Don't hesitate to email me.