nakedbob20002000 Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 I am a man and enjoy it when a women uses a dildo or a strap-on with me. However, I have had mixed result when bringing this up with girlfriends in the past. A few have been really into it (which was absolutely amazing!!), but most have been turned off or reluctant participants. So here are my questions... Do you think that I should tell my new girlfriend of my interest? To the women out there, what would your reaction be if your boyfriend asked you about this? Have you done this with your man before? Thanks. Link to comment
lil_mamarains13 Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 I cannot say that I have ever done this before. In order for you and your girlfriend to have a good open relationship you two need to discuss you likes and dislikes. Ask her what she likes, dislikes, and would never consider doing. That gives you ground to work with to help you decide weather to tell her or not, and to determine what you need to do next. Talk to her, and see if she is one of the girls that is interested in experminting and things like that. I always tell my boyfriends up front what I don't like during sex so they know not to do it so I don't get mad or upset during sex. One of my things that I refuse to do is have anal sex. I tell my boyfriends if they want to have anal sex they need to get a boyfriend (no offense to homosexual men out there). That is one of my things that I refuse to do. Others may have other opinions and everyone is different so there are things they like and don't like. Just sit down with her and talk about it. I hope I helped. Link to comment
CrazyKarl13 Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 Honestly, if my boyfriend asked me to do it, I don't think I'd like it too much. Maybe because it would basically make me seem more masculine. I would just be way too uncomfortable with it.. no matter how much pleasure he would get. That's just how I am. I would still tell your girlfriend that she likes it, but tell her right away she doesnt have to do anything she wants. Then maybe as time passes she'll have more time to think about it and grow more comfortable with it. Link to comment
Tinkerbell Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 Well to be honest with you, if my boyfriend asked me to wear a strap-on I'd start doubting his sexuality...I just wouldn't be able to help it, that's a pretty ODD fetish you've got..Maybe you should wait a bit more before asking your girlfriend, you don't want her getting scared and running away! Link to comment
-lost- Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 I have the perfect solution.Get a porno with some strap on action.Watch it with her and as the scene goes on, look at her facial expressions or if she says ewww gross or something like that than deffinately no.Maybe ask her then,jokingly, and if she says no, then tell her you were just joking that your anus is a one way street.(dont get defensive just say it like you dont really care,then she'll never really know for sure if you were serious) ^^^cleverness Link to comment
tiger_lilies Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 I think I would also doubt his sexuality as well...but on the other hand if it really was something that he'd like, maybe it would also grow on me after thinking about it for a while. Initially, it would be a bit of a turn off. You'd have to be really solid with your relationship to bring something like this up. Link to comment
The Morrigan Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 I think this is something you'd want to introduce the idea of GENTLY, start with less "radical" ideas and toys, and see if she's open to the basic idea. She's going to need a sense of adventure and a really open mind to be able to indulge you here, so take this a step at a time! Link to comment
neva_black_n_white Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 i think lost's idea was pretty cool, and yeah youd get an opinion through expressions, so try it. initially i would be shocked like most women and probably doubt your sexuality. but still she could see it from the point, that your sharing your sexual fantasies and shes participating so you can share hers. you never know when things are a bit ''out there''. kel Link to comment
KatLynn Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 My boyfriend just asked me to do this. I questioned his sexuality at first but when I sat down and asked him about why he wanted to do this, he told me; "It's because I trust you. I'm up for anything once and I would only be able to do this with you. I could never ask another girl, ever." The fact that the trust is there makes it even more of a turn on for me. Link to comment
rocio Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I disagree that straight men can't enjOy sensations in their butts just like anyone else. Op: maybe start out gradual with some finger play and see how that goes? Then perhaps move to a vibrator. Link to comment
Filker Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Sensations in the butt is one thing. A strapon is a substitute for a man and a penis, nothing more, nothing less. So, if a lesbian uses a dildo or a vibrator, that means she isn't really a lesbian? Gay men like to have sex with men. A woman wearing a strap-on isn't a man. She's a woman wearing a strap-on. A lot of close-mindedness in this thread. Link to comment
PhilliesFan001 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 If a guy wants a man to use a strap-on with him, he's probably gay. If a guy wants a woman to use a strap-on with him, he's straight and just enjoys the feeling (like a lot of guys do, but won't admit) of anal stimulation. Link to comment
AnswersPlease Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Homosexuality is when a man is attracted to another man.... What does that have to do with a woman using a strap-on? apparently the stimulation of the prostate will give a man a mind blowing orgasm. Me and my girlfriend have joked around about the idea of her fingering me... I've never done it but I'm willing to try anything once (with women) Link to comment
iBroken Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Sensations in the butt is one thing. A strapon is a substitute for a man and a penis, nothing more, nothing less. What a narrowminded reply. Link to comment
Cheetarah Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Sensations in the butt is one thing. A strapon is a substitute for a man and a penis, nothing more, nothing less. Aymeng, thank you. You made my day. lol. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Sensations in the butt is one thing. A strapon is a substitute for a man and a penis, nothing more, nothing less. So, so, so wrong. And doubting a mans sexuality for enjoying this is borderline homophobic and really just illustrates ignorance of male sexuality. Link to comment
DrKitten Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Christ on a bike. Enjoying anal stimulation has nothing to do with what gender you're attracted to. This is actually a pretty common fetish. Lots of straight guys are curious about anal play but afraid to bring it up for fear of exactly what's happening here, having their sexuality questioned and their partners grossed out. Prostate stimulation can give a guy the orgasm of his life. God forbid a guy actually wanting to try something taboo and having his female partner take control for once. OP, I agree with rocio. If you're afraid of your GF's reaction, start out slow. Ask if she'd be willing to use a finger, then move up to a vibrator or butt plug. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 A small vibrator such as an egg vibrator to stimulate the prostate is ok, jamming a dildo up a guys butt is totally gay. Oh my, the heteronormative macho train is pulling into the station. I find the rationalization here fascinating. It's okay to enjoy it, BUT NOT TOO MUCH. We wouldn't want an act of pleasure to derail our fragile self of masculinity. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 A small vibrator such as an egg vibrator to stimulate the prostate is ok, jamming a dildo up a guys butt is totally gay. Jamming a small eliptical object up there to stimulate the prostate is okay. Jamming a slightly larger cylindrical object up there to stimulate the prostate is not okay. Okaaaay. Not sure what's older -- your attitude or this thread. Link to comment
rocio Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Not sure what's older -- your attitude or this thread. ...Awesome! Link to comment
Filker Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I question the need for the large cylindrical object to be strapped to the other sex partners body. You do realize that when a woman wears a strap-on, she still has breasts and a vagina, right? Because in order to have gay sex, a man needs to have sex with, you know, a man. Link to comment
Filker Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Imitation is the greatest form of flattery. Or perhaps a woman wearing a strap-on is just a woman wearing a strap-on. YOU'RE the one that's projecting notions of homosexuality, though only you can figure out why that is. In the meantime, it's not your place to dictate other peoples' motivations. Link to comment
Cheetarah Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I feel sorry for the men who just begin to get over the hurdle of embarrassment in asking, then get all scared and intimidated by some ancient stigma that went out with jheri curls and shoulder pads. Link to comment
Nerdyjock Posted May 5, 2011 Share Posted May 5, 2011 I am really shocked at how little knowledge the opinionated responses to this thread contain. The prostate is a source of extreme physical pleasure for men when it is stimulated. I'm not necessarily saying the OP likes the idea because of this, but male anatomy 101 says the prostate is our g-spot, and the best way to stimulate it is through the anus. I'm not saying everyone should be using strap-ons on their boyfriend, but it isn't such a "odd fetish" when you really look at the anatomical pleasure it provides. On the other hand, if the OP enjoys it not for the prostate stimulation but for psychological stimulation, who cares? It really bothers me how opinionated and closed-minded people can get about this. I am not saying the OP is or isn't straight, gay, bi, whatever. However, I remember reading a "cosmo" headline while I was in wal-mart 6 months ago. It said "Girls, we finally found his g-spot". Curious, i opened the magazine and read about how "finally, girls can touch a guy's g-spot by stimulating the prostate through the anus". I chuckled, closed the magazine, and thought to myself, "wow, that's not knew knowledge." If it doesn't float your boat, fine (It doesn't float my boat), but dang, jumping to conclusions about someone's sexual orientation based on a physical sensation they enjoy feeling from their prostate is really closed-minded in the 21st century. That's how I see it. Anyway, OP, I think you should be honest with your gf. As you said, some girls in the past have liked doing it with you. I would think that the person I am meant to spend my life with would be willing to explore sexuality with me, just as I'd be willing to do with them. Link to comment
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