Its been over 2 months since my gf broke up with me, it was her decision and I let it be. I did not beg or plead for her back, we only talked a couple of times after the breakup. It has been over 1 month since we've talked and I've been doing the no contact thing. See, this wasn't the first time we've broken up, it's actually the 3rd time she dumped me over 2 years. The other times we broke up, she would eventually initiate contact and even if we were both in a relationship with someone new, we somehow found ourselves back with eachother in the end. This time is no different, except when we broke up this time she claimed it was the last time. So now she is doing her own thing, has a new bf and I'm still doing the single life. Like last time, when things started going sour with the person she was seeing, she started calling me. Eventually they broke up and we got back together. Same thing before that, she would get lonely and want something familiar and comfortable, ME. Now that one month of no contact with her or any mutual friends and not knowing anything about my life has passed by, guess who calls out the blue? Her. She didn't bother to call me at all during the holidays, she was too busy with her new man. Of course I was not going to call her. So she calls and leaves me this voicemail, to be honest it sounded kind of like she was missing me or at least wondering about me. She sounded kind of nervous. She said she hopes to hear from me. I know from experience that if she is not happy with the new guy, she will call me. I mean if you are happy with someone, why would you call your ex? I did initially want to remain friends with her, but the pain was just too much. She knows what she did, why is she calling me? She is a very selfish person, so I think it is to make her feel better, she doesn't like it when people are angry at her. I have stepped back and can see that I am nothing but a doormat to her, a security blanket, someone to talk to and possibly fall back on when things start going wrong. That is what I was and that is what she thinks I still am. But this time is different, I can't call her back. No matter what the reason she is calling, I just can't. I still have feelings for her and will for awhile, I thought she was the "one". If I call her back, those feelings and all that hard work of trying to heal will go down the drain. I'm cutting the strings once and for all and I think she knows why, as much as I love her and would love to have her back, I know she will never be what I want in a partner. Who knows, maybe I'm over analyzing this and she is just being friendly. I can't be her friend, theres too much stuff I know what she did after the breakup, like a fling with a guy friend and stuff like that. I lost so much focus when I was with her it was like nothing else existed, which caused problems in my college and personal life. I'm regaining my happiness, independence and dignity and looking out for myself this time. I'm even interested in dating again. But part of me still misses her and wants to talk. Am I making the right decision by not calling her back and letting it go? Help!