Dating a woman, who just lost her father.

jcrouth · 11-24-2003, 03:42 PM

I am in a wierd situation. I have been dating this woman for about 2 months now. We have not seen each other as much as I would like, but she has been dealing with her father being terminally ill, and then finally dying. Taking that and the Holiday season into the situation, I have been reluctant to move forward. I really like this person a great deal, and I want to take it to the next level, but i am aprehensive about the proper way to make her feel comfortable enough to make the next step, and not make her feel like I am trying to abuse her current situation.

Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks

**avman** · 11-24-2003, 03:45 PM

As long as you are just being supportive, loving, and being there you are fine. Just do not expect her to be focusing on your needs at this time and don't press the issue. Now is not the time for you to try and take it to the next level.

Oh, and do not pressure for sex. Stick to holding and cuddling.

sisterlynch · 11-24-2003, 04:21 PM

Let her know that you are interested, and that if she would like to go there, it can! She probably would like to be comforted in that way.

Don't put any pressure on her, and if she seems reluctant, then stop. Don't force her to do something that she wouldn't feel comfortable with later.

enadevoli · 11-24-2003, 06:36 PM

of course she is going to be going through a tough time right now, but she needs you to be there for her. my bf's best friend has been dating this one girl for awhile now & last year, she lost her father, who was a fireman & he was called to an emergency & he died. it was hard for her, but with all the support from her bf & friends, shes doing ok. just be there for your gf if she needs to talk or something. try to understand her situation & realize that she is going through a tough time. i agree with every one else. make sure she is comfortable right now.

11-24-2003, 03:42 PM	#1
jcrouth Offline Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1	Dating a woman, who just lost her father. I am in a wierd situation. I have been dating this woman for about 2 months now. We have not seen each other as much as I would like, but she has been dealing with her father being terminally ill, and then finally dying. Taking that and the Holiday season into the situation, I have been reluctant to move forward. I really like this person a great deal, and I want to take it to the next level, but i am aprehensive about the proper way to make her feel comfortable enough to make the next step, and not make her feel like I am trying to abuse her current situation. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

11-24-2003, 04:21 PM	#3
sisterlynch Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: NorCal Posts: 2,187	Tell her: Let her know that you are interested, and that if she would like to go there, it can! She probably would like to be comforted in that way. Don't put any pressure on her, and if she seems reluctant, then stop. Don't force her to do something that she wouldn't feel comfortable with later. __________________ Prepare for tomorrow, not tomorrow, but today.

11-24-2003, 03:45 PM	#2
avman Offline Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Minnesota Gender: Male Age: 42 Posts: 6,524	As long as you are just being supportive, loving, and being there you are fine. Just do not expect her to be focusing on your needs at this time and don't press the issue. Now is not the time for you to try and take it to the next level. Oh, and do not pressure for sex. Stick to holding and cuddling.

11-24-2003, 06:36 PM	#4
enadevoli Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: IL Posts: 547	of course she is going to be going through a tough time right now, but she needs you to be there for her. my bf's best friend has been dating this one girl for awhile now & last year, she lost her father, who was a fireman & he was called to an emergency & he died. it was hard for her, but with all the support from her bf & friends, shes doing ok. just be there for your gf if she needs to talk or something. try to understand her situation & realize that she is going through a tough time. i agree with every one else. make sure she is comfortable right now.