My boyfriend told me he kissed a good friend of mine

SadJJ · 10-01-2003, 11:36 AM

I know you all have heard my story before....
My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years told me he kissed a good friend of mine...I've chosen to forgive him and try to work things out. But all of a sudden he's acting very strange. HE doesn't trust me because of his mistake, I'm doing my best to work thing out and he is sitting the questioning me. Just because he screwed up doesn't mean that I am going to do the same to him!!!! I can't make him realize this. He thinks I've cheated on HIM. I looked at him and said 'you have got to be kidding me?' He says 'well I guess I get what I deserve'. I just don't get it. I'm trying my hardest to make this work, and now I feel like I'm trying too hard. Why should I make the effort, why should I have to prove my trust to him? How can I make hime realize that I have not and will not cheat on him, just because he did it to me????

enadevoli · 10-01-2003, 11:43 AM

well he doesn't deserve you, thats for sure. why should he? he had something great, but then kissed another girl... you are a very forgiving person to still be with him after that. he probably feels like you want to get revenge on him for what he did. he probably doesn't understand why you are being so forgiving about every thing. he needs to trust you though, just because he is a cheater doesn't mean that every one else is too. just keep telling him that you would never cheat on him & if he can't trust you because of what he did, its not worth it. why should you try to prove anything to him? your the one who should have a hard time trusting him now. tell him that if he can't trust you then you will just have to find someone who will.

gladiator01 · 10-01-2003, 12:10 PM

Its a natural feeling for your boyfriend.. I have been in his place and he is basically just trying to put the his guilt on you. Don't let it bother you too much.. If you want to work it out then it'll happen..Sooner or later he will come to his senses.. if You don't have to prove anything then DON'T.. Things will fall back into place if it is going to work out. Hope I helped you..

10-01-2003, 11:36 AM	#1
SadJJ Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 27	My boyfriend told me he kissed a good friend of mine I know you all have heard my story before.... My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years told me he kissed a good friend of mine...I've chosen to forgive him and try to work things out. But all of a sudden he's acting very strange. HE doesn't trust me because of his mistake, I'm doing my best to work thing out and he is sitting the questioning me. Just because he screwed up doesn't mean that I am going to do the same to him!!!! I can't make him realize this. He thinks I've cheated on HIM. I looked at him and said 'you have got to be kidding me?' He says 'well I guess I get what I deserve'. I just don't get it. I'm trying my hardest to make this work, and now I feel like I'm trying too hard. Why should I make the effort, why should I have to prove my trust to him? How can I make hime realize that I have not and will not cheat on him, just because he did it to me????

10-01-2003, 11:43 AM	#2
enadevoli Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: IL Posts: 547	well he doesn't deserve you, thats for sure. why should he? he had something great, but then kissed another girl... you are a very forgiving person to still be with him after that. he probably feels like you want to get revenge on him for what he did. he probably doesn't understand why you are being so forgiving about every thing. he needs to trust you though, just because he is a cheater doesn't mean that every one else is too. just keep telling him that you would never cheat on him & if he can't trust you because of what he did, its not worth it. why should you try to prove anything to him? your the one who should have a hard time trusting him now. tell him that if he can't trust you then you will just have to find someone who will.

10-01-2003, 12:10 PM	#3
gladiator01 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 15	Its a natural feeling for your boyfriend.. I have been in his place and he is basically just trying to put the his guilt on you. Don't let it bother you too much.. If you want to work it out then it'll happen..Sooner or later he will come to his senses.. if You don't have to prove anything then DON'T.. Things will fall back into place if it is going to work out. Hope I helped you..