Better, things are looking up

Jennkitchen79 · 07-29-2003, 05:29 PM

Everything is fine now. I was under alot of stress at that point in time.

Iwanthim · 07-29-2003, 05:36 PM

How old are u?? well i am going to lay it out with u...u should thought about that when u had sex..people who cant have kids would love to of him or any baby

StillLoveHer · 07-29-2003, 05:36 PM

Raising a child is VERY HARD. Don't let people try to tell you its easy. Explain to your husband the problem your having. I'm sure he will understand. I doubt he will want to give up a child though, maybe go to day care will help you with that.. HOWEVER

If you feel like your going to do something bad.. CALL 911

Jennkitchen79 · 07-29-2003, 05:40 PM

No, I would never do anything to hurt my son physically.

I would just leave.

StillLoveHer · 07-29-2003, 05:41 PM

Think of how you are going to feel in 10 years.. Would you forgive yourself for giving up your son? Maybe you just need someone to help you out.

Jennkitchen79 · 07-29-2003, 05:48 PM

How do I get him to stop screaming, crying, whining etc.....

Does anybody know?

I'm just frustrated and confused right now that's all.

P.s- Thank you all for your help!

Rach1leal · 07-29-2003, 05:50 PM

I am a little confused. Do you want to leave your baby and your husband? Just leave everything and start over?
I also want to say that you may not sorry if you were to give your child up for adoption. I was adopted and I think it was the smartest thing my biological mother did. She gave me to a family that could provide for me, loved me and wanted me.
It sounds like you need to talk to some one like a counselor. Many of your feelings sound like a type of depression that could be managed. You have several options but first start talking to your husband and work together. You need time away from teh house. Find a hobby, volunteer, join an organization. You need a social outlet so that your every waking minute is not focused on just your family but you have time as well.

StillLoveHer · 07-29-2003, 05:50 PM

IF he really cries that much, take him to the doctor, its not good if a child crys nonstop for over 3 hours.. What do you feed him? MILK? My brother had a 2 year old just like that, she would cry all the time... come to find out it couldn't digest milk..

atticus · 07-29-2003, 05:51 PM

ok... lol.. well i don't know if my advice helps, i'm barely 16... not gonna be a parent for some time...

but anyway...

maybe do some activities with him in your spare time... play some games, or go out... or something...

crookster_man · 07-29-2003, 06:00 PM

Leave your family? Clearly you are under a lot of stress. Chances are you have lost who you really are. You are not living the life that you were meant to lead are you?

You need to find joy in your life. If any of what I said has related to your situation I strongly suggest you look into books regarding this situation. One book I just read, reminds me exactly of your situation. It is by Dr. Phil (the TV psychologist) called "Self Matters" It was an excellent book and an easy read. It addressed issues regarding your situation.

That being living a false life in which you fail to life an authentic life. I really recommend you read that book. It will save you a lot of trouble.

07-29-2003, 05:29 PM	#1
Jennkitchen79 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 10	Better, things are looking up Everything is fine now. I was under alot of stress at that point in time.

07-29-2003, 05:50 PM	#7
Rach1leal Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Texas Posts: 2	I am a little confused. Do you want to leave your baby and your husband? Just leave everything and start over? I also want to say that you may not sorry if you were to give your child up for adoption. I was adopted and I think it was the smartest thing my biological mother did. She gave me to a family that could provide for me, loved me and wanted me. It sounds like you need to talk to some one like a counselor. Many of your feelings sound like a type of depression that could be managed. You have several options but first start talking to your husband and work together. You need time away from teh house. Find a hobby, volunteer, join an organization. You need a social outlet so that your every waking minute is not focused on just your family but you have time as well. __________________ Rach

07-29-2003, 06:00 PM	#10
crookster_man Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Ontario Canada Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 982	Leave your family? Clearly you are under a lot of stress. Chances are you have lost who you really are. You are not living the life that you were meant to lead are you? You need to find joy in your life. If any of what I said has related to your situation I strongly suggest you look into books regarding this situation. One book I just read, reminds me exactly of your situation. It is by Dr. Phil (the TV psychologist) called "Self Matters" It was an excellent book and an easy read. It addressed issues regarding your situation. That being living a false life in which you fail to life an authentic life. I really recommend you read that book. It will save you a lot of trouble. __________________ - One’s merit is measured not in actions but in the quality of one’s character . - Life is %10 what happens to you and %90 how you react to it. - Failing to plan is planning to fail.

07-29-2003, 05:36 PM	#2
Iwanthim Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 209	How old are u?? well i am going to lay it out with u...u should thought about that when u had sex..people who cant have kids would love to of him or any baby

07-29-2003, 05:36 PM	#3
StillLoveHer Offline Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 92	Raising a child is VERY HARD. Don't let people try to tell you its easy. Explain to your husband the problem your having. I'm sure he will understand. I doubt he will want to give up a child though, maybe go to day care will help you with that.. HOWEVER If you feel like your going to do something bad.. CALL 911

07-29-2003, 05:40 PM	#4
Jennkitchen79 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 10	No, I would never do anything to hurt my son physically. I would just leave.

07-29-2003, 05:41 PM	#5
StillLoveHer Offline Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 92	Think of how you are going to feel in 10 years.. Would you forgive yourself for giving up your son? Maybe you just need someone to help you out.

07-29-2003, 05:48 PM	#6
Jennkitchen79 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 10	How do I get him to stop screaming, crying, whining etc..... Does anybody know? I'm just frustrated and confused right now that's all. P.s- Thank you all for your help!

07-29-2003, 05:51 PM	#9
atticus Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Vancouver Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 231	ok... lol.. well i don't know if my advice helps, i'm barely 16... not gonna be a parent for some time... but anyway... maybe do some activities with him in your spare time... play some games, or go out... or something...