Is this ok?

sexyboy77779 · 03-10-2003, 09:59 PM

hi, me and my gf have bin going out for 6 months and we have a strong relationship and im 16 and she is 15 and we bin in love for about 5 months, but latly she hasn t bin doing good in school, becouse she dosent do her homework becouse she is on the phone with me. but she said me an email saying that she is thinking of taking a break just tell she get her marks up, but i dont think we need to take a break, all i have to do is if she doing homework or if she hasn t done it yet she can call me after and if its to late then we can talk the next day. but im worryed becouse she is my life, i do anything for her, but i can t think of life with out her. so im saying when more couple take a break they end up breaking up and all, and i dont want that to happen but that what could happen if we do take a break, and well she says it would be just as hard for her then if would be for me. but anyways. is there a way to tell her she can get her marks up and not take a break ? help please, thank you for reading

Gilgamesh · 03-10-2003, 10:08 PM

Ok. you need to realize that the decision may not have been hers! im shure when her parents saw her grades they probably got on her case because shes on the phone all the time.

Ask your G/F if thats whats up, and tell her that instead of just cutting all the chat, maybe just 15 minutes a day or something.

Do you have e-mail? cell phone? beeper? pen and paper? plenty other ways to keep in contact! but dont pressure her, dont get mad at her if shes asking for a little time, dont get on her case about it, be supportive.

good luck!

bleeder · 03-10-2003, 10:18 PM

Hi Sexyboy,

"Taking a break" might not be such a bad idea.

Sometimes when couples are "newly formed", they tend to spend time together, on occasions more than necessary. I have been down that road. I devoted my whole being, 24/7 of my time to her (ex-gf)...and it was not helping me one bit. Little by little, I started losing my self identity and I also found that I had little time to do anything else.

So, take this "break" as personal time. She can focus on her studies, whilst you can pursue what you wanted to do. Absence, sometimes does makes the heart grow fonder.

We all need personal time alone. But remember to show her that you care in between these time apart.

sexyboy77779 · 03-11-2003, 06:24 PM

hey the thing it we see each other 2 times a week thats it, and on holidays like everyday. but its just becouse of her marks. so i told her last night, ok we don thave to take a break we can just go out on weekends and talk on the phone everother day or 15-20 everday. so when she done her homework she can call me, i wont be talking to her much in the next few days becouse i have a hockey game tonight and a few other things

03-10-2003, 09:59 PM	#1
sexyboy77779 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Age: 23 Posts: 34	Is this ok? hi, me and my gf have bin going out for 6 months and we have a strong relationship and im 16 and she is 15 and we bin in love for about 5 months, but latly she hasn t bin doing good in school, becouse she dosent do her homework becouse she is on the phone with me. but she said me an email saying that she is thinking of taking a break just tell she get her marks up, but i dont think we need to take a break, all i have to do is if she doing homework or if she hasn t done it yet she can call me after and if its to late then we can talk the next day. but im worryed becouse she is my life, i do anything for her, but i can t think of life with out her. so im saying when more couple take a break they end up breaking up and all, and i dont want that to happen but that what could happen if we do take a break, and well she says it would be just as hard for her then if would be for me. but anyways. is there a way to tell her she can get her marks up and not take a break ? help please, thank you for reading

03-10-2003, 10:08 PM	#2
Gilgamesh Offline Silver Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Caribbean Gender: Male Age: 47 Posts: 1,647	Ok. you need to realize that the decision may not have been hers! im shure when her parents saw her grades they probably got on her case because shes on the phone all the time. Ask your G/F if thats whats up, and tell her that instead of just cutting all the chat, maybe just 15 minutes a day or something. Do you have e-mail? cell phone? beeper? pen and paper? plenty other ways to keep in contact! but dont pressure her, dont get mad at her if shes asking for a little time, dont get on her case about it, be supportive. good luck! __________________ Experience is something you don't get until just after you need it.

03-10-2003, 10:18 PM	#3
bleeder Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Gender: Male Age: 38 Posts: 572	Hi Sexyboy, "Taking a break" might not be such a bad idea. Sometimes when couples are "newly formed", they tend to spend time together, on occasions more than necessary. I have been down that road. I devoted my whole being, 24/7 of my time to her (ex-gf)...and it was not helping me one bit. Little by little, I started losing my self identity and I also found that I had little time to do anything else. So, take this "break" as personal time. She can focus on her studies, whilst you can pursue what you wanted to do. Absence, sometimes does makes the heart grow fonder. We all need personal time alone. But remember to show her that you care in between these time apart. __________________ :: An honest man's pillow is his peace of mind :: Minutes To Memories :: John Mellencamp ::

03-11-2003, 06:24 PM	#4
sexyboy77779 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Age: 23 Posts: 34	hey the thing it we see each other 2 times a week thats it, and on holidays like everyday. but its just becouse of her marks. so i told her last night, ok we don thave to take a break we can just go out on weekends and talk on the phone everother day or 15-20 everday. so when she done her homework she can call me, i wont be talking to her much in the next few days becouse i have a hockey game tonight and a few other things