22/m w/ an interest in a 16/f Need some help w/ what to do!

metalik7b · 03-04-2003, 11:46 PM

i am a 22 yr old male and i think i am falling in love with a 16 yr
old girl.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] It is weird for me because i am not the type of guy to just
fall for anyone.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] i[color=#fa7777]* [/color] not the type to go out with a girl just to go wout
with her i have only had 3 girlfriends so far.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] anyway this girl is
my friends little sister and i am very close wth her and the family.[color=#fa7777]* [/color]
i also work with her.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] i have talked about his with her and she
knows the like her and she even likes me too.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] we both don't
care about the age difference but i am not so sure what to do.[color=#fa7777]* [/color]
she turns 17 in a few months and i really want to take her out for
her birthday but i don't know if i should.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] she seems to think
since she will be driving we can just go out and no one will ahve
to know.[color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color] should i just go with that or should i ask her bro/
parents first or should i just forget about (which i know right now
would be very hard to do).[color=#fa7777]* [/color] i know we are far apart in age but this
is an attraction not based on sex which most guys would do.[color=#fa7777]* [/color]
please help me i don't know what to do.
metalik7

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TearsofaDragon20 · 03-05-2003, 12:02 AM

well metalik yo should get your opinons from her bro and her parents and see waht they have to say about you two getting together. but beware even though age difference has nothing to do with it, you still have to consider what her family says. they may not agree with it and may not want you around her, and you dont want that. just see what they say. thats as much as i can say. i cant really say too much as to what to do about it, it just may make things complicated and hard. so see what they have to say.

SwingFox · 03-05-2003, 07:30 AM

Hi metalik,

First of all welcome to eNotalone.com and thank you for posting your questions here.

The age gap we're talking about it's quite an age gap. This is not something you can really dismiss. You two might or might not work out as a couple, I don't know either of you, so it's hard to say. But the truth is that when you're 16, you're still thinking in terms of partying, where in the age of 22 someone tends to think more in terms of settlement. But, there's always room for exceptions.

My suggestion is: why wouldn't the two of you become friends first. That way her parents will get to know you as a friend first. Help the girl with schoolwork or so. If you're not sexually attracted to each other (yet), it's easier to set something like this up. After a few months you could evaluate your status and then take it from there.

I hope I was of help and I wish you good luck

~ SwingFox ~

Gerhard · 03-05-2003, 08:08 AM

I also had a fling with a 16 year old last year (no sex !!) and I'm 22 myself. They are very much into exploring right now and probably feels flattered that a older guy shows interest in them. From my experience they're not on the same wave length as a older guy and that you're probably better off with a girl that is a bit older and more settled in her ways. She might be an exception and worth pursuing. I honestly don't think that a 6 year gap is too much. If there is mutual respect, interest and love (hopefully), I don't see why not.

metalik7b · 03-05-2003, 04:54 PM

i already am friend with her and the rest of the family. I am at her house usually once a week and i go there for all the major holidays. i am close with the entire family, although when i am there i don't get to spend much time talking to her alone. I also work with her so i see her there too. we have both talked about liking each other mostly online because as of right now it is the only time i can get to talk to her for any good amount of time. we both see nothing wrong with the age but we still don't know what to do.

metalik7b

RobzGr8 · 04-30-2003, 01:16 AM

Okay...it's about time I reveal my profession to y'all. Being a police officer in California, I can say with one hundred percent accuracy that every single case of statutory rape was committed by a boyfriend and only reported when the couple BROKE UP!!
What am I saying? Hmmmmm...let's do the math shall we? Let's say you start dating this girl with the full support and blessing of the entire family. Then, you decide that you no longer want to be with this girl for whatever reason. Or, more than likely...you'll cheat on her with a girl your OWN age and she'll find out and get really mad at you! So, you dump her, right? Well she goes and tells Daddy what a jerk you are, and he gets all pissed cuz you just broke his babies widdle heart!! So, I get a call from dispatch to go to your house and hook you up for RAPE after her family...who was sooooooooo supportive of this WHOLE thing in the FIRST place...called the cops and wants you arrested.
Find a girl your OWN age!! What happens if you strike out with the 16 year olds? You gonna hit up the 15 and then 14 year olds NEXT? Don't say I didn't warn you. See you at the Inmate Recieving Center!!

SwingFox · 05-03-2003, 07:17 AM

Hi again metalik,

Although Rob put it into some strong words, he does have a point here. I am not familiar with US laws and overlooked the implications that this brings to law matters. You might want to be a little careful, too.

Good luck in your future

~ SwingFox ~

03-04-2003, 11:46 PM	#1
metalik7b Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 2	22/m w/ an interest in a 16/f Need some help w/ what to do! i am a 22 yr old male and i think i am falling in love with a 16 yr old girl.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] It is weird for me because i am not the type of guy to just fall for anyone.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] i[color=#fa7777]* [/color] not the type to go out with a girl just to go wout with her i have only had 3 girlfriends so far.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] anyway this girl is my friends little sister and i am very close wth her and the family.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] i also work with her.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] i have talked about his with her and she knows the like her and she even likes me too.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] we both don't care about the age difference but i am not so sure what to do.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] she turns 17 in a few months and i really want to take her out for her birthday but i don't know if i should.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] she seems to think since she will be driving we can just go out and no one will ahve to know.[color=#fa7777]* [/color][color=#fa7777]* [/color] should i just go with that or should i ask her bro/ parents first or should i just forget about (which i know right now would be very hard to do).[color=#fa7777]* [/color] i know we are far apart in age but this is an attraction not based on sex which most guys would do.[color=#fa7777]* [/color] please help me i don't know what to do. metalik7 [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

03-05-2003, 12:02 AM	#2
TearsofaDragon20 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Buffalo NY Age: 27 Posts: 141	untitled well metalik yo should get your opinons from her bro and her parents and see waht they have to say about you two getting together. but beware even though age difference has nothing to do with it, you still have to consider what her family says. they may not agree with it and may not want you around her, and you dont want that. just see what they say. thats as much as i can say. i cant really say too much as to what to do about it, it just may make things complicated and hard. so see what they have to say. __________________ "I thought that i would be free from the restraints of the pain of this world by receving the love that i thought would last, but only to see an illusion." -fire "One kiss to change it all, one heart to give you hope, one love to last forever." -Carlos

03-05-2003, 07:30 AM	#3
SwingFox Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 2,236	My two cents... Hi metalik, First of all welcome to eNotalone.com and thank you for posting your questions here. The age gap we're talking about it's quite an age gap. This is not something you can really dismiss. You two might or might not work out as a couple, I don't know either of you, so it's hard to say. But the truth is that when you're 16, you're still thinking in terms of partying, where in the age of 22 someone tends to think more in terms of settlement. But, there's always room for exceptions. My suggestion is: why wouldn't the two of you become friends first. That way her parents will get to know you as a friend first. Help the girl with schoolwork or so. If you're not sexually attracted to each other (yet), it's easier to set something like this up. After a few months you could evaluate your status and then take it from there. I hope I was of help and I wish you good luck ~ SwingFox ~

03-05-2003, 08:08 AM	#4
Gerhard Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 17	I also had a fling with a 16 year old last year (no sex !!) and I'm 22 myself. They are very much into exploring right now and probably feels flattered that a older guy shows interest in them. From my experience they're not on the same wave length as a older guy and that you're probably better off with a girl that is a bit older and more settled in her ways. She might be an exception and worth pursuing. I honestly don't think that a 6 year gap is too much. If there is mutual respect, interest and love (hopefully), I don't see why not.

03-05-2003, 04:54 PM	#5
metalik7b Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 2	i already am friend with her and the rest of the family. I am at her house usually once a week and i go there for all the major holidays. i am close with the entire family, although when i am there i don't get to spend much time talking to her alone. I also work with her so i see her there too. we have both talked about liking each other mostly online because as of right now it is the only time i can get to talk to her for any good amount of time. we both see nothing wrong with the age but we still don't know what to do. metalik7b

04-30-2003, 01:16 AM	#6
RobzGr8 Offline Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 63	Okay...it's about time I reveal my profession to y'all. Being a police officer in California, I can say with one hundred percent accuracy that every single case of statutory rape was committed by a boyfriend and only reported when the couple BROKE UP!! What am I saying? Hmmmmm...let's do the math shall we? Let's say you start dating this girl with the full support and blessing of the entire family. Then, you decide that you no longer want to be with this girl for whatever reason. Or, more than likely...you'll cheat on her with a girl your OWN age and she'll find out and get really mad at you! So, you dump her, right? Well she goes and tells Daddy what a jerk you are, and he gets all pissed cuz you just broke his babies widdle heart!! So, I get a call from dispatch to go to your house and hook you up for RAPE after her family...who was sooooooooo supportive of this WHOLE thing in the FIRST place...called the cops and wants you arrested. Find a girl your OWN age!! What happens if you strike out with the 16 year olds? You gonna hit up the 15 and then 14 year olds NEXT? Don't say I didn't warn you. See you at the Inmate Recieving Center!!

05-03-2003, 07:17 AM	#7
SwingFox Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 2,236	Hi again metalik, Although Rob put it into some strong words, he does have a point here. I am not familiar with US laws and overlooked the implications that this brings to law matters. You might want to be a little careful, too. Good luck in your future ~ SwingFox ~