I am only fourteen this is to much

[cookiegirl]

HI my name is cookiegirl i am only 14 and this past summer I did drugs, smoked, had sex, and all of that with 18 year old guys. I am pregnant and the father wants to be a father to the baby but my mom forbids me to see him. BUt when i babiset i call him and when i go to the mall i call him and he comes to the mall. People do not under stand what I am going through. I want to run away because i am engaged to him an we are going to get married when i turn 18. What do i do now??

THIS IS NOT A JOKE, THIS IS NOT A JOKE
IT IS TOTALLY TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[dave..yep..dave]

Deal with it ,because its your own fault for being very unresponsible.

[TearsofaDragon20]

i dont see how you got into all this mess but dave was right. and the truth does hurt. you should of seen this before you even thought of it.

[Neo7]

First, you listen to your mom. You are 14 she knows a bit more about life than you. YOu should not see this 18 year old anymore. Not sure where your from but if your 14 and he's 18 this guy SHOULD be in JAIL.
2nd I think you should abort this pregnancy or at least mull over the options of adoption. Not sure which one would be easier for you to handle. But you DO NOT need a child at age 14. Its not fair to you, your family, and it sure isn't fair to the child. It sounds like you have some sefl esteem problems I would consider some counseling. IF you dont' take any of this advice at LEAST listen to the part about not seeing this guy ANYMORE. This dude can't be any good.

[aliciaborg]

hi, ppl really need to grow up. i mean shes already pregnant, lets not make her feel any worse. i thought this website was here to help ppl out not make them feel bad.listen, i had my baby at a young age and i'm doing a great job, i'm doing better off with a baby then without, she straightend up my life.and for saying the 18 yr old guy should be put in jail, if shes pregnant and she wanted to have sex with him he cant get put in jail, i know all this. theres no age on love, and if they love eachother let them be, thats how i see it.as long as shes there for her baby.but cookiegirl, ahead of you and ur b-f comes that baby.just remember that. and stay in school. do ur best to. it all matters now.good luck, alicia

[jujigatame]

I'm not even going to touch this one. ----->

[Neo7]

I'm sorry I didn't mean to be inconsiderate or mean. But I really don't think my advice was in any way negative or an attempt to make cookiegirl feel worse. If that is how it was interpreted I do apologize, but that was not the intention. And I do believe you are wrong in regards to the 18 year old being put in Jail. The punishment for statutory rape do very from state to state but for the most part they are pretty stringent. It makes no difference if there was consent or not. She is a minor 14 and the male is 18. I don't care what state you're from, that is illegal. Unless your married but that isnt' the case. Now if cookiegirl isnt' from the United States then obviously that changes things.

[DADDYBOY14]

I know how you feel.I got my friend pregnant at 13 and i am 14.If you watch the move "RIDING IN CARS WITH BOYS" .With drew barrymore. It is based on a true story.about a 15 year old girl gets herself pregnant.it shows the laughs and sadness going thru life with a baby at 15....this is kind of my story![/b]

[aliciaborg]

i just think that some of the advice ppl are giving is stuff that should have been said to this girl befor she got pregnant, now that she already is nothing anyone says can change that,oh and to get back to the 18 yr old should be put in jail, not gonna work. i was 14 and the guy was 18 and there was nothing we could have done because i let it happen.and no i didnt do drugs or anything like that. actually i was very smart and got very good grades, i just liked to go out to parties and have fun once in a while and things just happend, no back to cookiegirl.i dont know about anyone else but i like to give ppl advice knowing their situation and what they can do to better themselves and give them more confidence in themselves to be a better parent, they are already gonna get lectured enough by their parents.plus you cant change the past, but you can make the future better for everyone around you.and do you think trying to put the babies father in jail is good for anyone?no its just gonna leave a helpless baby without a father.stat. rape is up to 40 yrs, that can be 40 yrs that child can go fatherless.and no there is no age on love. there's only one right person for everyone.and besides ppl make mistakes but they gotta learn from them. hope i helped.alicia

[TearsofaDragon20]

well everyone is entitled to their own opinons and the truth DOES hurt. no one can tell someone about what they say or how people should grow up. you dont see me telling someone to do that i shouldnt have to come on here and have someone to grow up. we dont come on here to hear that and i certinly dont need to see that. we give advice, and we take advice. fine sure some can take it to the borderline but dont get mad at them. they say what they want and we say want we want. i hate that someone is actually saying that we need to grow up. no i think not and to tell the truth if you want to make an arguement go to yahoo because i really dont think anyone here needs to see that.