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    How do I find happiness from within myself?

    Hello...there is something that I would really like to know. All too often we hear others (or ourselves) saying 'I will be happy when...' The question is we think we will only be happy when a certain thing happens to us, when we win the lottery (ever heard the song Mo money Mo problems), when we find our soulmate or whatever the reason. Now how do I find happiness within myself, right here right row without anything external happening - it must come from within? I know this must be very difficult to acheive but whether I am living in a beautiful mansion or in a tiny cottage I just want to be happy...Can anyone who has felt the same way before and somehow conquered it please give me some advise - I will really appreciate it

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    Hey Alien777, I don't think I have much advice but I know what you mean. I used to think a girlfriend would make me happy, I was still just the same. I used to think more money would make me happy, not at all. Sometimes I take a vacation, it doesn't really help. People frequently ask me how come I was so happy at certain points in my life. I have no idea, I can remember the times I was happy though, what it felt like. I just have no idea how I got there or how to get back there. I know it's all a state of mind, how you take things, how you see things. It does help me to start each morning with a smile, and wonder what the day will bring. I have noticed though how much more people are drawn to you when you are truely happy. I feel you shouldn't have to force yourself to be happy, but I am starting to believe it's neccessary when you are at a low in life. Sometimes It helps me to think I don't care what anyone else thinks of me, just to do my own thing. It's funny how we have to fight our own brains sometimes, but yeah it really is "just all in your head"

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    Hi Zipitt,

    Many of life's unhappiness stems from the ego and desire.

    If we can be contented with what we have and not lust for more, the happier we'd be. Material wealth cannot bring us joy. Even these emotions we call love is transient and impermanent. The person whom you base on happiness upon is too, impermanent. We are all made up dependent factors, none of which is everlasting.

    To strive for complete happiness, we need to practise more compassion and less self centeredness. Look into yourself to find this road. The middle path to spiritual freedom is not out of our reach.

    That's my perception dude. Hope it has helped a little.
    :: An honest man's pillow is his peace of mind :: Minutes To Memories :: John Mellencamp ::

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    Thanx for the insightful replies...Way too often people entrust their happiness in the hands of tangible material possesions or in the hands of others. I think an important point mentioned by Bleeder is spiritual happiness, because after all we are emotional, physical and spiritual human beings and if any one of those factors in neglected, the others are bound to suffer too. However how we define happiness does also count, is it ever attainable and realistic or is it happiness that can never be reached? I feel that is it important to be thankful for what we have - which is difficult in today's materialistic society and try to make up your own mind as regards happiness, not what society would like you to believe..

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    some people think that drinking or drugs will make them happy, it may for the momment but what happens after? you have the headacke and the hangover and you wonder what you are really living for. Where would I go if I died? There has to me more to life than this, living for myself, i am not happy, I need more things in my life to be happym If I has this I will be happy. Do you get that one thing and well your happy for a short time but that happyness dies off, so you want more stuff more and more. You are trying to fill a whole. The only way to truly fill that is the power of God.

    the key to a happyness is allowing God to take all the crap out of your life, and he can truley make you happy, joyful. It has to do with yourself but by yourself you can't truly be completly happy. It takes the power of God. Some people are afraid of him or don't belive in something that we can't see, but the more you trust in him the more you will see your life change before your eyes, then you will feel his presence, and you will know that he is there, even though you can't see him you can see the effects he has on your life, your new joyful life! And this happyness is everlasting, he will truly give you the desires of your heart...try it you will see....

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    I believe that there is one key to happiness:
    Believe in yourself. It cannot be more simple than that. If you believe in yourself all else will follow.

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    Stop desiring things and you will not only be happy, you will get more than you can imagine.

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    thejigsup,
    How do you stop desiring things?
    Do you just say "cut it out" when you have a desire, or try to retrain your mind, ignore the desire, or what?
    I'm asking because I think if I desired less, I might be more happy.

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    I think another big part of being happy is living in the present moment...if you think about it each moment on its own can be anything you want it to be...its when we obsess on our past and worry about our future that we are anxious and unhappy...Learning to be still and present in each moment is a good start. Meditation and focusing on opening the heart is a good way to get there. Someone just recently sent me the following quote...it resonates for me.
    "We can easily manage if we will only take, each day, the burden appointed to it. But the load will be too heavy for us if we carry yesterday's burden over again today, and then add the burden of tomorrow before we are required to bear it"
    Hope this helps. Try reading the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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    Oops forgot i put the quote as my signature LOL

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